Consider the fact free housing is good actually, and landlords suck

So I’ve seen almost no social media promotion for it, but someone created a website where people can list/find aromantic friendly professionals like therapists and doctors. It’s a little sparse at the moment, but almost all of the information is crowdsourced, so if people know of aro-friendly professionals I encourage you to submit a recommendation! The more people add to this, the better it will be as a community resource!

This is for anyone who’s had to endure the dreaded, ‘when are you going to have children?’ conversation.

Art by Liberal Jane

[Illustration of a small purple and pink bird looking menacingly at the viewer. Next to the bird’s beak are two speech bubbles that read, ‘you don’t need to have children to be whole. it’s okay to not want children.’]

ugly little banner for people who want to be able to use the word cishet again without looking like a jackass (+ blank version)

[fixed version bc i used the wrong aro flag in the original post like a clown]

When people warn acespecs like me about using stuff like non-sam ace, or the alloace flag (the one based off of the alloaro flag), it’s not to say that those who feel that way and identify with those things are bad. Nobody is saying that being non-sam ace is inherently bad, or that being alloace and using the flag is inherently bad.

The problem is, a lot of things in the community originated from aros, and now are considered part of “ace culture” rather than something for all of us, made by aros. “Non-SAM ace” comes from non-SAM aro. The alloace flag is directly based off the alloaro one. But despite the clear inspiration from the aro community, there is no doubt that plenty of arophobes are going to end up using these things, and that a lot of people might not even recognize their origins.

When we use terminology that’s based off something aros made, we need to make sure we recognize where said-things come from. If we’re going to use things based off of their own creations, the least we can do is respect that they’re here, and deserve to be treated right in a community that’s been forgetting them.

You know what the annoying thing is when I post stuff like this??? When I (ace, and outspokenly so, I say it in this post) make posts about this, I see ace people like me reblog it. But when aros (especially alloaros) do the same thing (and do so MUCH better mind you, since they’re the ones affected), they get like…. 5-10 notes a good half the time, and a bunch of people saying their criticism is acephobia or some shit.

I guess what I mean to say is. If you can hear me saying this as an ace person and you agree with me, but you hear the same thing from actual aro people and suddenly get defensive and think it’s acephobic, you probably have a lot of biases you need to work on. I can make posts about this all day, but I ain’t aro. Look for info on this stuff from actual aros if you’re looking into allyship in the community. That’s not to say I think only they should make posts on this, I think ace people absolutely should too, but remember that they’re the ones affected by this the most, so it’s best to get your main source of information from those people. Platform them and support their voices just like you’d support other people doing the same thing, because right now, a lot of people just ignore them.

im so tired of seeing (white) people comment on how expensive native made goods are. your expected prices for items are made by underpayed exploited people. asking natives, who are already more likely to be at a financial disadvantage, to charge those same rates, especially when we already underpay ourselves for what we make, is so insulting. i know that my beadwork is more expensive than a pair of earrings from F21 or h+m or walmart or amazon. but i still make $3-4 an hour on them, i pray over every stitch like i was taught, i use a stitch that is specific to how i was taught. you arent just buying beadwork, or a weaving, or a piece of silver jewelry, you are buying the result of hundreds of hours of practice and learning, and traditions being passed down.

every post on destigmatizing schizophrenia seems to have the qualifier of "as long as they're seeking treatment" "as long as they're medicated" "as long as they're not actively in a psychotic episode" like, no. in all of those situations schizophrenic people are still worthy of respect and compassion.

we have collectively gone through too much to turn around and blame ourselves for the stresses we’ve faced

Please don’t get mad at your body for getting slightly bigger while it’s keeping you alive

Hey let’s kill the diet industry next. This holiday season sounds good.

Kitten to Chonk 

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White neurodivergent and/or disabled people stop acting like black/nonwhite neurodivergent and/or disabled people don’t exist challenge.

Tiff from Smile For Me is beautiful

Requested by an anon

[ID: Tiff Webber with the ‘’beautiful’’ pride flag.  

This one has 7 wide stripes, in the following order; Dark raspberry, dark purple, lavendar,  deep berry blue, lavendar again, dark purple again, dark raspberry again.

Tiffs default sprite is used. end ID]

White allies do better….

Google is free. Can y'all please start treating black people like actual people and not someone to teach you about racism. It’s exhausting

White people can and should reblog this

please help me out :( i am begging

Hey!!! My acc is super tiny, so I don’t suppose it will reach a very wide audience, but! 

My name is Bennett and I am a bisexual queer immigrant currently residing in Canada. My IUD has failed me and I have recently learned that I am 4 weeks pregnant. I am not in a good place right now and I need to get an abortion, there is no other way out. However, the abortive procedure  will cost CAD$700, which is money I don’t currently have. I can maybe figure out how to pay for perhaps a fourth of the procedure, but the rest of it, I literally cannot afford. It would, therefore, mean the world to me if you spared me some of your time and some minor change by supporting my gofundme, even if it was with just a single dollar or by sharing my most recent post. Thank you so incredibly much in advance!!! gf.me/u/y282qk

Which province are you in, boo? Obvi it’s still hella costly, but in BC at least the cost of a surgical abortion without insurance is less than a medical abortion, so it might be good to check the full details of your local clinic(s) prices. Unfortunately abortion access does vary from province to province, so your case may be different.

I’ll see if I can find any resources that might be able to help; I know some pro-choice orgs offer to help with transportation costs and stuff if you’ve gotta travel to obtain care, but idk if/which orgs help cover the cost itself.

i know y’all like to pretend it’s not possible, but there are trans men who can get pregnant, there are also trans men who still want to keep that option open while being respected as their correct gender. don’t push us out of discussions & issues regarding pregnancy / forced sterilization.

trans men have every right to be publicly involved in discourse abt reproductive rights, this is our reality and our bodies, we don’t have to keep silent to avoid upsetting truscum / ignorant cis people.

oh and then theres also issues with reproductive rights that are *specific* to transmasc people, like the with insurance companies coverage. if you live in the U.S. you probably already know that insurers will deny care a million different ways, and one of them is to deny "female" services to those who identify as men, because uh. "well you marked yourself as a man so that obviously means you wont care if we deny you birth control and pap smears and anything else thats considered a female service, correct?"

i couldnt easily find like, an article written for general audiences (im sure they exist but google had too many off topic results) but this thing talks about a variety of issues with trans healthcare, including problems around transmasc peeps being denied care specifically because the care they need is listed as "only applicable to women".

so like. yeah, you need to include transmasc people in these discussions, because defining reproductive care as a female issue has been used to directly deny that healthcare to transmasc people.

this isnt just a case of "be inclusive so you dont induce dysphoria", its also a case of "be inclusive so you dont reinforce the shit being used to deny transmasc people necessary healthcare"

i know i made this more about transmasc reproductive care in general cause its good to be aware of the fact that everything from abortions to checkups to pregnancy related care falls under this umbrella, but to go back to the orig point, like. maybe you can get along fine without being able to seek many other forms of gynecological care, youre taking a risk if you dont/arent able to seek cancer checks and shit, maybe youll never need an abortion, etc. but out of all of this im gonna take a wild guess and assume that pregnancy related care is probably some of the most expensive on the list in the U.S.

at least with the other stuff its mostly feasible that you could scrounge up a few hundred bucks here or there as needed, maybe youll need to crowdfund that shit cause 'merica, but how fucking much are they gonna try to charge someone whos insurance denies them coverage based on gender for not only all the shit you need to make sure both you can your baby are healthy, but to have the damn thing at the end of it?

money obviously aint the only issue wrt transmasc reproductive rights, and i'm not sure about the situation with being denied care in other countries, but considering i only learned this problem existed a few months ago, thought it was worth noting the concrete effects of defining this care as "women's healthcare"

....I got an ad for a movie about a guy with schizophrenia....but it wasn't a horror movie....it was a love story!! Fuck yeah, movie!!

I don’t know why, but I don’t believe this exists.

It does, i saw the ad for it myself

Can someone link me this?

https://youtu.be/kjXPI0K6C8M

I think its this but im not quite sure

I love this already, I have tears. If they mess this up -

I need to figure out how to explain to my parents that I need to see this without going into the workings of my mental health now.

I genuinely have tears just from this trailer.

yes yes yes!!! ok ok so this is based off of a book i have it somewhere but its like. a good sized novel and its literally so good if you thought the trailer was good pls go read it oh my gods

I'm gonna fucking cry

A movie about a TEENAGE boy with SCHIZOPHRENIA that's ISNT a horror movie, has a BLACK FEMALE as one of the main characters, DOESN'T put the main character down for his mental disorder, let's the character BE MORE THAN HIS MENTAL DISORDER, let's him have A MAIN INTEREST AND HOBBY which is cooking and not something like SCIENCE which they usually give to all schizophrenics or people with mental disorders as a stereotype, AND SO MUCH MORE

I'm going to cry.

HI GUYS. FUNNY THING?? THE AUTHOR WAS MY CREATIVE WRITING TEACHER IN HIGH SCHOOL!! SHES HE SWEETEST PERSON AND I'LL ADD HER IG LATER!! SHES WONDERFUL AND KIND AND GREAT AT TEACHING!!

I don’t have schizophrenia but I’m emotional because I know how important this is. I love it so much omg

Hey guys, good news, this movie comes out TODAY! August 21, 2020, so anyone who sees this post? This movie is out!

[ID: A tweet from char-antine (@aGirlCalledChar) that reads, “I may never go back to not wearing a mask in public.

-looks cool -got gendered correctly more -protects against disease -fucks up facial recognition

Why stop?” End ID.]

-helps with my dust and pollen allergies

-chapstick actually works now

- people are better about respecting my personal space

-available in a wide variety of dope patterns to accessorize like a cyberpunk wizard with

- Actively destroys the ability for deaf people to read you lips, further ostracizing us for greater society.

Do’s and Don'ts of Designing for Accessibility

Find the PDFs for Do’s and Don’ts of Designing for Accessibility here.

DUUDE!!!!

DO: Note that some of the guidelines for Autistic users directly contradict some of those for Low Vision users; as do some of those for Dyslexic users vs Users Who Employ Screen Readers.

DON’T: Think you can get away with “one size fits all” by just making the One Right Size. You will need to allow your users options to choose or adjust their experience.

*glares at @staff*

[Image description: A series of infographics giving dos and don’ts of accessible web design. It is created by the UK government’s Home Office of Digital, Data, and Technology.

Designing for users with anxiety: Do give users enough time to complete an action. Don’t rush users or set impractical time limits. Do explain what will happen after completing a service [example: “we have set you an email”]. Don’t leave users confused about next steps or timeframes. Do make important information clear. Don’t leave users uncertain about the consequences of their actions. Do give users the support they need to complete a service. Don’t make support or help hard to access. Do let users check their answers before they submit them. Don’t leave users questioning what answers they gave.

Designing for users on the autism spectrum: Do user simple colors. Don’t use bright contrasting colours. Do write in plain language [example: “Do this.”]. Don’t use figures of speech and idioms. Do use simple sentences and bullets. Don’t create a wall of text. Do make buttons descriptive [example: a button labeled “Attach files.”]. Don’t make buttons vague and unpredictable [example: a button labeled “Click here!”]. Do build simple and consistent layouts. Don’t build complex and cluttered layouts.

Designing for users with dyslexia: Do use images and diagrams to support text. Don’t use large blocks of heavy text. Do align text to the left and keep a consistent layout. Don’t underlined words, use italics, or write in capitals. Do consider producing materials in other formats (for example, audio or video). Don’t force users to remember things from previous pages - give reminders and prompts. Do keep content short, clear, and simple. Don’t rely on accurate spelling [for user-written responses] - [instead,] use autocorrect or provide suggestions. Do let users change the contrast between background and text. Don’t put too much information in one place.

Designing for users with physical or motor disabilities: Do make large clickable actions. Don’t demand precision [for clickable actions]. Do give form fields space. Don’t bunch interactions [like consecutive form fields] together. Do design for keyboard or speech only use. Don’t make dynamic content that requires a lot of mouse movement. Do design with mobile and touchscreen in mind. Don’t have short timeout windows. Do provide shortcuts [example: a “find address” tool when entering a postcode]. Don’t tire users with lots of typing and scrolling

Designing for users with low vision: Do use good color contrasts and a readable font size. Don’t use low colour contrasts and small font size. Do publish all information on web pages. Don’t bury information in downloads. Do use a combination of colour, shapes, and text [to convey meaning]. Don’t only use colour to convey meaning. Do follow a linear, logical layout. Don’t spread content all over a page. [Example: make sure web pages are still easily readable even when zoomed in.] Do put buttons and notifications in context [example: a “submit” button directly below a text entry field]. Don’t separate actions from their context [example: a “submit” button some distance away from a text entry field].

Designing for users of screen readers: Do describe images and provide transcripts for video. Don’t only show information in an image or video. Do follow a linear, logical layout. Don’t spread content all over a page. Do structure content using HTML5. Don’t rely on text size and placement for structure. Do build for keyboard-only use. Don’t force mouse or screen use. Do write descriptive links and headings [example: a text link reading “Contact us”]. Don’t write uninformative links and headings [example: a text link reading “Click here”].

Designing for users who are Deaf/deaf or hard of hearing: Do write in plain language [example: “Do this.”]. Don’t use complicated words or figures of speech. Do use subtitles or provide transcripts for videos. Don’t put content in audio or video only. Do use a linear, logical layout. Don’t make complex layouts and menus. Do break up content with sub-headings, images, and videos. Don’t make users read long blocks of content. Do let users ask for their preferred communication support when booking appointments. Don’t make telephone the only means of contact for users.

End image description.]

When sharing information about accessibility, it is important to make that information accessible! Please provide image descriptions for infographics like these!

Very helpful graphics, but once again pointing out the irony of having something for vision impaired web design… that blind people cannot access.