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21 he/him just some black leftist guy. I'm a Marxist-Leninist now. This blog is dead mostly.
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Do me a favour real quick and vote yes on this poll:

The Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity education program, aka SOGI, would introduce gender identity & sexual orientation into the British Columbian curriculum. A lot of bigots are against this, because fuck queer youth I guess. Right now the poll is 80% no–80% of people who voted think queer youth don’t matter and don’t deserve to be recognized in schools.

There were even anti-SOGI protests in the streets of Vancouver. It may just be an internet poll, but people will see this.

Tumblr, I’ve seen you pull off some pretty cool shit when it comes to these kinds of internet polls in the past. Help a local trans man out?

one thing I don’t think people realize is that in arguments about human rights, it’s not about trying to persuade the other party. it’s not about them at all. they’ve already made up their mind.

it’s about persuading the audience.

if I call out my teacher on being homophobic I’m not trying to change his opinion. I’m trying to convince any closeted kids in the room that they’re not the monsters he’s made them out to be.

if I argue with my aunt about how racist she’s being it’s not because I expect to change her mind. it’s because I’m hoping to god my cousin’s kids hear and learn that maybe skin color doesn’t mean what she says it means.

people will try to hush you and say “they’re not going to change their minds, don’t bother” but it’s not about them. it was never about them.

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Think Before You Ink: Revealing Tacoma’s Nazi Skinhead Tattoo Shop

Puget Sound Anarchists | It’s Going Down | February 16th 2018

The following details how an active group of neo-Nazis associated with the violent street crew, the Hammerskin Nation, have been running a tattoo parlor in Tacoma, Washington. Would you trust a Nazi to hold a needle to your neck? Would you pay them for the privilege? If you are one of countless customers who have […]

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Is it that most men that want nothing but sex because it defines power to them as trained to believe so by society or is it only a few small portion that social media freaks out over? I'm genuinely stumped on this. I'd prefer to think the latter since I can't imagine half the world's population adheres to uncivilized low class sex hungry primates incapable of having empathy and other human emotions. But what's the real truth ? Your opinion? Thank you Najia!

no human being wants just one thing, we’re all complex people with various needs, desires, & reactions to our environments that have shaped us in multiplex ways. the ways in which men are encouraged & allowed to view women & sex with women–& thus the ways in which frankly most men do view women & sex with women–are deeply disturbed, worrying & harmful and you’ll never see me flinch from that or deny that. but it’s not some kind of “primate” thing; no group of people is innately, categorically sadistic or incapable of empathy (“empathy” meaning the ability to view other people as complex beings with desires and needs that matter). rather, men are trained out of having empathy for women & many of them continue to suppress that empathy in themselves because of the ways in which it can benefit them, in our current society, to do so.

so the answer to your question is imo beyond the dichotomy you’re suggesting here…………. I honestly think it is true that most men (including men who don’t even have sex with women) view women in this way & the evidence of this is very easy to find. but that doesn’t mean that men are innately evil or incapable of change or that looking at this in an essentialist or moralistic way is useful or accurate. in fact in order to hold men accountable for the harm that they do to women it is necessary to acknowledge that their behaviour is not innate to them but has been learned and encouraged. and I can’t ignore the fact that believing that men’s behaviour follows inevitably from “biology” blah blah something or other is used as a defence of men’s harm of women much more often than it is used as a condemnation of it. a lot of things in this post also apply to what I’m talking about here.

also I’m troubled by your use of the terms “uncivilized” and “low class” to refer to this kind of behaviour given the history & current reality of white supremacist rhetoric enforcing the myth of brown & Black men as “uncivilised” due to their supposedly libidinous natures, bizarre predilections etc. & the corresponding myth of the outsider rapist (see here, “The Racialization of Rape and the Erasure of Sexual Violence”)–this is all another way in which the idea that (some) men are just innately sexually violent is used to erase the daily reality of sexual violence in the lives of women.

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What people think capitalism is: free trade, iphones, innovation

What capitalism really is: Coca-Cola hires death squads to kill Colombian trade union leaders

Active ways to cultivate positive body image:

(Because oh my god, it’s so hard, and everyone’s all like stop feeling so bad about yourself and it’s like how???) 

  • Be naked. A lot. Sleep naked. Have sex naked. Eat cereal naked. (Or naked and wrapped in a sheet. Favorite thing.) 
  • Follow beautiful, confident, (un-photoshopped) body-positive babes on the Internet. Unfollow anything that makes you feel insecure. Exposure is key. You’re not going to get it if you don’t seek it out, because the media sucks and wants us to feel like shit about ourselves so they can take our money. (Some hashtags to follow: #effyourbeautystandards #bootyrevolution #blackisbeautiful #transisbeautiful #wheelchairlife #fatkini #fatshion)
  • Lingerie. Next best thing to being naked. 
  • Self care, babe. Different for everyone. (Me? Showers, books, shaving my legs, nature walks, dark lipstick, good playlists, clean rooms, candles, sexy time.) 
  • Get ready in your underwear. Boobs = happiness. 
  • Self portraits. Be pro-selfie. Take a million selfies. Take sexy selfies. Take no makeup selfies. Take bad angle silly selfies. Take artsy tripod selfies. Take everything-is-on-point selfies. You’re gorgeous; document your gorgeousness. You don’t even need to post them. 
  • Stop with the self deprecationnnnn. Pleeeeaseeee. It’s hard to control your thoughts love, I know, but you can control what you say. NEVER insult yourself out loud. Dare I say compliment yourself out loud? (And if you can, do your best to try to body-positive-ify your thoughts too.) 
  • Sex (including solo sexy time), wine, and chocolate. In that order. 
  • Share the body love. Compliment your girlfriends. Cultivate a nonjudgemental, supportive, lift-each-other-up “we’re so cute” friend group. Everyone’s insecure. Compliment your besties. And strangers, too. Be that person that makes everyone feel good about themselves when they’re around. 

Good luck gorgeous. It’s a battle. We gotta unlearn all this societal bullshit.

Reblogging cuz this is vital. Especially the point on self-deprecation. Stop that shit now. It is a glamour-don’t, a welcome sign for fuck ass ppl.

Some of the hash tags are dated but the concepts are still strong.

What if oxygen is poisonous and it just takes 75-100 years to kill us?

My science teacher said he thinks that’s true actually

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Yeah this is actually pretty much exactly what is going on. It’s why anti-oxidants are such a big deal. Bonus fact: oxygen oxidizes stuff in your cells or, in other words, it’s not toxic, just setting you on fire very very slowly.

What if there are aliens out there but they subsist on entirely different substances and they’re just scared as shit of us and our crazy ass hell planet? Once in a while some alien anthropologist type suggests checking out the people on this inhabited planet out towards the galaxy’s edge. The other aliens just look at the naive academic with horror. No!! We do not go to that world. That is where the DEATH BREATHERS live. They recreationally consume poisons and are more or less composed of biological fire. Their atmosphere is made of rocket fuel. We must leave the DEATH BREATHERS in peace. Do not go there. Do not.

I tend to always reblog posts about humans being terrifying weirdos to aliens.

okay but…that is actually what went down on earth about 2.5 billion years ago.

Earth was doing just fine with a mostly nitrogen/carbon dioxide atmosphere and everyone was happy to go on living in anaerobic bliss and then cyanobacteria suddenly hit the scene, altered the atmosphere composition so that there was a ton of oxygen gas and killed practically everything (97% or more of all species on earth).

We are literally descendants of the DEATH BREATHERS and cyanobacteria is our deadly mother.

The cyanobacteria holocaust is so big, it doesn’t even have a cool name; it’s just called “The Great Oxygenation Event”; the *second* most apocalyptic extinction event in our planet’s history is the one that’s called THE GREAT DYING (the Permian-Triassic event, about 252 million years ago).

This shit makes like the rock-throwing that wiped out the dinosaurs look like kindergarten.

OH HOW I LOVE THIS POST. It makes me so much happier about being alive. I AM BURNING VERY SLOWLY. *hugs it*

Do not punish the behaviour you want to see

I mean, it seems pretty obvious when you put it like that, right?

But how many families, when an introvert sibling or child makes an effort to socialize,  snarkily say, “So, you’ve decided to join us”?

Or when someone does something they’ve had trouble doing, say, “Why can’t you do that all the time?” (Happened to me, too often.)

Or any sentence containing the word “finally”. 

If someone makes a step, a small step, in a direction you want to encourage, encourage it. Don’t complain about how it’s not enough. Don’t bring up previous stuff. Encourage it.

Because I swear to fucking god there is nothing more soul-killing, more motivation-crushing, than struggling to succeed and finding out that success and failure are both punished.

I demand to know why I can’t hit add a million more likes to this post.

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Guys it’s real Here’s the link to the actual bill: https://www.congress.gov/bill/115th-congress/house-bill/4585/cosponsors Go here: https://callyourrep.co/ Find your house rep CALL THEM The aid I just spoke with for my Republican Rep was really nice and asked if I had any comments to pass along to her EMPHASIZE THE FCC SHOULD NOT SET THE PRECEDENT THAT THEY CAN JUST DO WHAT THEY WANT WITH NO OVERSIGHT I know you guys don’t wanna talk to people, god knows I didn’t want to either but for the good of us all, CALL THEM BE HEARD They can’t say ‘these are fake’ the way the FCC did

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suicidal people deserve a space to talk about their suicidal feelings without risking hospitalization/institutionalization or being accused of being manipulative or attention seeking

It’s a therapist. The word you’re looking for is a therapist.

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wrong

The second a therapist thinks you’re even slightly suicidal (ie. Whenever you even say the word suicide) they “pink slip” you, which means you get sent to a mental hospital against your will.

I think about suicide almost every day, but it doesn’t always mean I’m gonna go kill myself.

I just want to say, as someone who has taken courses in ethics and regulations regarding psychology and therapy and has worked at a counseling center for more than five years, THIS SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE. The only time a therapist or other healthcare provider is required to report suicidal or homicidal ideation is if there is a specific plan. I am deeply sorry to anyone who has ever experienced a therapist who acted otherwise. To the person above, I am not sure what your experience has been, but I promise you it is not a typical one, at least not in the area where I live (California). I have never heard of a “pink slip”, and I’ve worked with therapists for 5+ years.  

Going to a therapist changed my life. I was able to open up and say “I think about suicide almost every day”, and for the first time in my life someone said “You don’t have to live like this.” She didn’t have me hospitalized, she didn’t raise any alarms. She gently asked me if I had a specific plan, and when I said no, she said “We are going to help you get better.” 

YOUR THERAPIST ABSOLUTELY SHOULD NOT HAVE YOU HOSPITALIZED AT THE MERE MENTION OF SUICIDAL IDEATION. 

If you say, “I’m going to kill myself tonight by overdose,” then yes, they are required by law to have you hospitalized. Otherwise it is THEIR JOB to help you process your feelings and find a way to help you function and feel better. 

I cannot be more emphatic about this. Therapists, by and large, are here to help, not to hospitalize. If you have health insurance, contact them today to find out about your mental health coverage. Go to your general care doctor and tell them how you’re feeling so that they can refer you to the right person. If you don’t have health insurance, find a resource for a free/reduced fee clinic near you. Marriage and Family Therapist Interns are a great option, as they often see clients on a sliding fee scale. PLEASE GET HELP.

LISTEN TO ME: YOU CANNOT LEGALLY BE HOSPITALIZED AGAINST YOUR WILL FOR SUICIDAL IDEATION. FEAR OF HOSPITALIZATION SHOULD NOT STOP YOU FROM SEEKING HELP. 

I understand that many people have hospital related trauma, and I understand, and sympathize. Talk to me. Send me a message. I will be happy to find you further information on laws and regulations in your area, referrals to other counseling centers, or even just listen to what you have to say. 

I couldn’t in good conscience scroll past this without saying something. As someone who struggled with depression for much longer than I should have because of fear of seeking treatment, I want to encourage everyone, experiencing any degree of mental illness to get help. I will do anything I can to support those of you going through something like this. I’m here for you. 

I literally talk to my therapist about suicidal ideation all the time and all she’s ever done is have me clarify that I wasn’t planning on acting on it. I’m tired of tumblr discouraging people from trusting mental health professionals.

Please read the long reply, it’s an incredibly important distinction and I am very tired of seeing the wrong information surrounding this being passed around.

Things to say to abusers to block their attacks/lies/gaslighting/manipulation

  • This decision will affect me more than you, so I get to decide.
  • It’s not your call.
  • I think it’s been enough of me suffering the consequences of your decisions.
  • I’m not obliged to answer those questions.
  • You don’t have the right to say that to me.
  • Stop lying.
  • Not even you believe that.
  • We both know the truth.
  • Now why would you say such a thing to me?
  • That is not a thing you should be saying to someone you pretend to love.
  • You saying it over and over again doesn’t make it true.
  • You know you’re lying.
  • Sounds like whatever is convenient to you is always the truth huh?
  • You don’t have the right to demand this information.
  • Would it kill you to stop talking to me in this manner?
  • Is it hard to not insult people around you?
  • Who do you think you’re talking to?
  • We’re going to talk when you can adress me as a person.
  • Based on your track record, you don’t seem to know me that well.
  • And you know this because?
  • Oh yeah you really, really took in all the evidence before making that claim.
  • You expect me to believe that?
  • Evidently you’re too much of a liar to be taken seriously.
  • How about we focus on what you did wrong for a change?
  • Don’t expect forgiveness from me.

(I understand you can’t get away with most of this most of the time but here’s to dreaming)

Sources on capitalism and world poverty