It's Me

if tumblr ever starts forcing us to censor kill and die and murder and fuck and cunt and fag i’m deleting my account and starting an email chain with the mutuals

Wait I just thought about it and it might be cute to bring back wholesome church camp swear-swaps like frick,heck, jeez, mothertrucker. Sometimes the way ppl post we might need a lil. Swear jar,,

absolutely fucking not.

actually THIS is my new favorite doesthedogdie comment

This is mine. It's on turning red

this comment on a transformers comic page has always killed me

the finding nemo page is really good too

adding some from the tags :3

(this post is about a t4t autistic4autistic stone butch4stone femme relationship. my femme uses he/they/she pronouns.)

there are two topics i think don’t get as much attention as they could in stone butch/stone femme discussions:

for nonsexy examples, i like making pour-over coffee, and whenever possible i make my girlfriend coffee and breakfast in the morning. they could do it for themself, but i like the action of doing it. the only thing i “get” out of it is him being sleepy and cute playing with her phone at the table, and a kiss and a “thank you baby” when i pass over the mug. it’s something i like doing for its own sake.

my girlfriend drives me to work almost every day. she doesn’t have to - i’ve said before that i walked to and from work every day for five years before we moved in together - but they like spending the time together, and knowing that i’m not walking most of a mile in whatever weather.

i like getting my girlfriend off. i feel good and satisfied when he orgasms. the way their body and brain are configured means multiple orgasms are good, and when she’s all fucked out i get to have a happy, cuddly, shivery jelly-femme in my arms (and, as they put it, “a well-earned god complex”).

orgasms can be more complicated for me. some kinds of touch can trigger my ptsd. sometimes getting in the headspace of arousal requires me to be very aware of my own genitals, which can trigger dysphoria. even some things that aren’t triggering, things “everyone likes”, feel about as erotic as someone putting their fingers in my nose. on the other hand, “non-sex” kink acts like being scratched by my femme’s sharp nails can be delightfully overwhelming, even if they don’t make me orgasm.

my girlfriend only touches me in ways i like to be touched. just as importantly, my girlfriend only touches me in ways they like to touch. when we want to try something new we talk about it, including potential ways it could hit wrong, and ways to safe-signal out if needed. we make space for ourselves and each other, to feel our own feelings, without trying to map onto what a non-stone relationship “should” look like.

not every relationship looks the same, but i think you should be able to have a base of communication and trust with whoever you’re intimate with, in whatever ways intimacy looks like for you. like. i don’t think that’s a wild thing to say.

En el Mar Art

i’ve heard a lot of people say “don’t reach out to your friends first and see how many people will remain in your life. those are your true friends” and i get it. it sucks and it’s tiring constantly being the one to message first, to initiate hang outs but don’t take this so literally. some friendships require initiation. i have lost touch with so many people who genuinely cared about me and wanted me in their life because i stopped reaching out. it’s a hard pill to swallow but honestly some people just suck at it and it doesn’t mean they don’t love and value you. i’ve reconnected with some people over the past few months and it’s crazy how genuinely happy they are to see me and how engaged they are in the conversation. i just think sometimes we’re too harsh on each other & too quick to emphasize other peoples flaws and remove them from our lives but then we’ll all be alone and what’s the point of life then!!!!

I've never watched a single episode of spn but I've been thinking about the implications of being stuck inside a meme

oh to have a silly little house like this...

the inside has to look like this.

the peasant in me just thinks how hard it'd be to clean.

A big part of cultivating creative discipline is accepting that you can't just sit around waiting for inspiration to strike and learning how to write without it, but the other half is learning never to let inspiration go to waste when it does strike.

If you've got an idea for something that you'll never be able to show to anyone else – maybe it's too personal, maybe it's too pornographic, maybe it just doesn't fit your idiom – you should absolutely go ahead and write it anyway.

This isn't a "write for yourself" thing (and there's no shame in being uninterested in writing for yourself – art is about communication!): it's a "building your portfolio" thing. Self-plagiarism is one of the most fundamental skills of any artist, and you never know what random scribble is going to turn up exactly what's needed for some seemingly unrelated project later on.

Like, it's not likely that that grotesquely self-indulgent character piece where your fandom crush inexplicably has three dicks will randomly prove to contain the missing ingredient for that novel you've been procrastinating on writing, but it can never entirely be ruled out!

the whole “it takes a village” thing needs to translate into adulthood too bc i need support!! i need people i can lean on! i need people i can share my thoughts with!! i need a village of mfs who love me!! idc idc idc

You ever just realized how lucky you are that you did that weird thing that led to you being friends with the people you are friends with?

Here's the thing I keep trying to articulate and possibly failing: I don't actually mind characters who are terrible people. I have enjoyed many. What I mind is characters who are terrible people while the narrative keeps trying to say that they are wonderful, often contradicting what the narrative shows us, with no self awareness

The problem is not the goodness or badness of the character, the problem is the extreme disconnect between telling (by the narrative, not other characters) and showing

Hey how come the dracula daily tags are bisexual

Me visiting the god damn monkey attack beach: "There better not be any god damn monkey attacks here"

Certain words can change your brain forever and ever so you do have to be very careful about it.

THE BIRDCAGE (1996) dir. mike nichols

happy pride y'all (originally lowkey for @plastic-pipes 's birthday but then i got busy and forgot to finish it)

"Autism and most mental health disorders present differently in Black women…Because autism is looked at through such a White and male lens, people don’t recognize similar behaviors with traditionally feminine or Black interests."