I learnt my post has too much information that can trigger abuse survivors. I've decided to make a new post with less information about my abuse but with the hope to get all the support i can get!

incase you're just seeing, my name is Mariam, a 24y/o lesbian, abused by her grandma and dad just after they found out I'm gay. I'm looking to move out, as I still live with my abusers.

if you can, please click here to read my detailed post (as said in the first paragraph, the post is sensitive and triggering). if you can't read, please understand I'm being tormented and need to move out as quick as possible and i need your help to do that. please buy me a coffee using the link below. also, you can get a drawing in return(on request). i also hope you won't read and ignore this as a boost/reblog from you will go a long way in reaching people/person(s) who might help. thank you for reading! HAPPY PRIDE!

My school was full of Pokemon. Then they all turned into real-world animals and caused chaos.

reblog if you fully and intentionally are referring to aspec people as well when you use the word queer to refer to the community

my partner once said, "if you have to explain your sexuality to straight people, you're probably queer"

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i know this please help me

if you seek skeek at my slorse you hate me at my worst

HOW THE FUCK DOES THE SYAING GO

cool news i think i have some thing wrong with me

it happened again

Anyway reblog to make sure all the investors know that, according to u/spez AKA Steve Huffman, the CEO of the fucking company, Reddit is, and I quote, "not profitable." Their IPO is supposedly planned for later this year. Have fun with that, Steve!

I tried to blaze this and Tumblr gave me an error code and refused to do it (after charging my CC) y'all better fuckin gimme an Organic All Natural Blaze lmao

edit: nvm it's marked pending but still

wouldnt it be fun. wouldnt it be really cool. if the haiku bot

i'm here too

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Greetings, Haiku Bot

I have autism and fear

Please come to this post

you all need to be my minions i think it’d be wonderful if we made hope posting a trend on tumblr

Yes please! This is a really important valuable practice for offsetting at least a little of the negativity bias.

Essentially, humans are wired for danger. Negative content stands out 4-6 times stronger in our minds than positive content, even when both are equally intense. We’re way more likely to notice negative content, way more likely to retain negative content in our memories, way more likely to pay attention to it than positive content.

Which is evolutionarily adaptable on the one hand, good for short term survival. If you’re wandering around gathering food in a hunter-gatherer society and you find a great berry patch, and then an hour later down the trail you get jumped by a tiger and barely escape with your life, you might forget the location of the berry patch but you’ll never forget where the tiger hunts. Because you’ll find other berry patches eventually, but if you forget where the tiger tends to hunt, you’re dead.

This becomes a bit more maladaptive in the Information Age.

It’s fine if most of the information you’re exposed to is fairly local and directly relevant to your personal life, but now we’re exposed to all the information worldwide.

Except… not quite. Because of the negativity bias, guess what information gets the most attention and shares? Guess what information gets the most money?

Yeah. The negative stuff. Some studies have shown a 17:1 ratio of bad news to good news being reported, aka ~90+ percent of news is negative. The negative stuff gets shared way more, spreads faster through social media, gets a 60+ percent higher click-through rate, gets a stronger physiological response when you read it… the statistics are pretty consistent and pretty dramatic.

So how do you combat it?

By increasing the amount of positive content.

By deliberately focusing on and enhancing the weight of the positive stuff. Reminding yourself of the positive things you see. Saying it out loud to make it feel more real. Writing it down and coming back to it. Trying to multiply the weight of every positive thing fourfold, by revisiting and reinforcing it, so that it gets closer to equal weight with the negative stuff.

And by reminding yourself that the overall state of the world is probably at least half as bad as it seems, and probably closer to 1/4th as bad as it seems.

(This doesn’t mean minimize any single topic of bad news. Any single topic might be just as bad or worse than you think it is, eg how COVID was minimized by some parties, or how racism or transphobia gets downplayed, etc, and that’s a whole other kind of bias to talk about, ask me about the Just World fallacy sometime. But the aggregate of badness, that feeling that everything is so much worse across the board now, that there is no hope, that we’re all doomed? That’s probably way less true than it feels.)

My job is about 60% reading psychology books, etc., and I can absolutely confirm the negativity bias facts and statistics, esp around news. I’ve looked them up myself, and honestly, they’re a huge part of the reason I started this blog

I started checking a handful of good news posts every day for the sake of my mental health. Had a little bookmark folder and everything (it was 3 sites at the start lol)

And yall. There is SO MUCH MORE GOOD NEWS OUT THERE than you will EVER hear about. It’s about what doesn’t get shared - and it’s also about what doesn’t get reported on in the first place, or only gets reported on by small or dedicated good news outlets

I made this blog mostly because I wanted to do something to help push back against that negativity bias, to fight against the negative news bias, by making sure people see good news too

And by the way, there is so much more good news out there than I ever have time to link. Seriously, I could probably make this blog a half-time job if I wanted to. (Well that’s also partly because I have endless details and thoroughness disease lol)

Let’s make hope posting the new big thing - because we all need to be reminded more often that there absolutely is hope

(including genuine hope we will solve climate change and save ourselves. many scientists have said that as of the middle of 2022, there is more reason to have hope than there has been in DECADES. My understanding is that we literally have the best chance and outlook we’ve ever had since we began to truly grasp the extent of the problem of climate change)

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Federal troops were called against 13,000 miners.Three battles that led to the biggest armed insurrection since the Civil War. 

 Ask yourself why you were never taught this in school. 

Although there were planes used against the miners in the Battle of Blair Mountain, it is not true that this was the first time planes were used to drop bombs on American soil against Americans. 

The Battle of Blair Mountain took place in August and September of 1921. Just a few months prior to that, on May 31 and June 1, planes were also used to help destroy the Greenwood district of Tulsa, Oklahoma, a prosperous black neighborhood nicknamed The Black Wall Street. At least 39 people died during the event, which is known as the Tulsa Race Massacre. Hundreds were wounded, and 6,000 black people lost their homes. 

Both of these events were hugely important moments in American history. 

Ask yourself why neither was taught to you in school. Also ask your local school board. 

I think I should reblog this

if you don't do anything else today,

Please have a moment of silence for the people who were killed instead of freed when news of emancipation finally reached the furthest corners of the american south.

have another moment for the ledgers, catalogs, and records that were burned and the homes that were destroyed to hide the presence of very much alive and still enslaved people on dozens of plantations and homesteads across the south for decades after emancipation.

and have a third moment for those who were hunted and killed while fleeing the south to find safety across the border, overseas, in the north and to the west.

black people. light a candle, write a note to those who have passed telling them what you have achieved in spite of the racist and intolerant conditions of this world, feel the warmth of the flame under your hand, say a prayer of rememberance if you are religious, place the note under the candle, and then blow it out.

if you have children, sit them down and tell them anything you know about the life of oldest black person you've ever met. it doesn't have to be your own family. tell them what you know about what life was like for us in the days, years, decades after emancipation. if you don't know much, look it up and learn about it together.

This is Juneteenth.

white people CAN interact with this post. share it, spread it.

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Which is why it’s important to not be mean.

Their cult teaches them that the world is full of scary monster people who hate them for being so good and loved by god. If you swear at them and call them names or get in their face you’re just doing the cults work for it.

I’m not saying you have to listen to their presentation or try to debate them (and really getting into a debate without thoroughly understanding what they’re being taught will just make things worse)… I am just saying to be polite and say no thank you like if they were trying to hand you a flyer for something you don’t care about.

It’s easier for them to see the world outside their bubble as less scary if they see everyday people just going about their business and being as nice to them as you are to everyone else. This goes doubly for anyone who happens to dress modestly, not swear, and not drink or smoke because whatever you believe, they’ll see you as a “good” person who happens to strangely have no interest in their “message”, and that might be enough to get some curious about the possibility of themselves living in the real world.

It’s sometimes hard to be nice to people who seem to represent something you dislike. Just remember these “elders” are sheltered young men, some of which are getting their first real contact with people of other/no faiths.

They are not your enemy. They are victims.

They aren't being sent out to actually convert people, they are being sent out hoping that they will be harassed and treated poorly so they view those outside the cult as dangerous and evil and stick to the safety of the familiar group.

You being mean to some teenager isn't sticking it to anyone, you're doing exactly what their church elders want to happen.

PLEASE READ THIS.

Please read this.

Don't do the church's work for them.

If you're kind to enough of them, they put you on a block list.

They were such sweet kids, they'd turn up at my door with the thatch of raspberries out front and try to share their word with me, and I'm me, so, I fed them.

Then it was one of the wee 'elder's' birthday, so I made him a cake, and all the little lads came, and they asked about my books and board games and CCGs, I was just a nice frumpy middle aged Jewish lady, I was no threat, so I fed them and made them cakes and took them to the local gaming store and listened when they talked.

One loved yu-gi-oh cards, and it turns out, one of the other wee lads, we'll he loved him back, so I got them in touch with some resources so they had support and a different way to pay for college, they're still together 15 years later, they have dogs, they send me ecards on their birthday. No-one figured out I'd.helped them, I was just the nice lady who made them tea and listened when people were slamming doors.

The next one really wanted to be an artist, so I left out art books and resources, my eldest shared their coptic markers, they draw comic books now, no idea why his folks were insisting he needed to be a dentist, but, he's not a Mormon anymore, (not a Jew either before anyone makes any counter conversion claims).

The first 2 lads were the only dramatic ones, the rest went back into the network but, like Hugh of Borg, they spread the word, sometimes I'd get Mormons from other cities come and make the journey to break bread at my Sabbath table and be seen.

I still think very fondly of that time.

Many of those boys still email me now and then.

Most of them aren't Mormons anymore.

Someone higher up spotted the pattern and suddenly no more Mormons at my door.

I was blacklisted, for kindness.

So there you go, if you don't want Mormons at your door, just love those kids for a couple of years, feed them, help them, and eventually, no more will be allowed to visit

As an ex-Mormon myself, I agree with everything posted above. At church every week, I would hear story after story about people being persecuted for being Mormon, about how it’s such a trial and burden to be a member of the “one true church”. I would hear over and over how the original Mormons were forced to move across the US to Utah (so they could practice polygamy in peace, but they don’t tell you that part).

They form martyr complexes about being special but constantly persecuted by anyone not-Mormon. If your family is all Mormon, leaving is a HUGE deal and they will talk about it constantly and how they “hope you will return one day”.

Showing these kids kindness, ESPECIALLY if you are not Mormon yourself, will open their eyes to the fact that the world is not a terrible place outside the church. Many have doubts, but are scared that they will never be happy if they leave. By showing them that they can, it makes staying seem less like their only chance at happiness.

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anyways reminder that it does not matter if you're trans, gay, or whatever if you don't support the "weird queers" you do not belong here

if you dont support neopronoun users and people who call themselves slurs and boygirls and xenogenders and aspec people please leave

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I feel like I should reblog this