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Also, because it's Tumblr I have to spell everything out. Use your own personal definition of what constitutes a major versus a minor holiday

Trump would be such a good drag queen like just such an unbelievably incredible and talented drag queen it's such a bummer that he's decided to be a fascist and a threat to democracy because that cunt would devour at the House of Yes

such a loss

his cadence, his tiny bitchy hand gestures, his cunty little nicknames for people that are insane but also somehow stick to your brain? 

“the problem with ron desanctimonious is that he needs a personality transplant, and those are...... noT yet available.”

if he’d laid the garbage fire of his entire soul aside for a wig and heels back in the 80s, we’d live in a better world. 

(via @dragonprincessmew )

the autistic view of the world has insight and beauty in it, and we’re taught that there’s something wrong with it.

What’s fascinating is that the parents who didn’t know it was the work of an autistic kid praised it as well.

Some day I want to see a show that does the “no filler episodes” thing from the opposite direction. Just a whole season worth of low-stakes character pieces that seem to move the overall story absolutely nowhere, then episode 26 pulls all the triggers at once and this massive Rube Goldberg machine of a plot the show’s been quietly setting up in the background the whole time hits you like a truck.

Incredible one-liners as always

people love to complain about sex scenes in tv shows and violence in movies when the real danger is scenes that make you feel second hand embarrassment.

I honestly cannot believe how far T(W)ERF rhetoric has spread on this site. They used to be the ONLY ones I saw openly mocking the concept of identifying as queer, the ONLY ones I saw referring to people as ‘kweer’ in a mocking way.

You all are so 100% certain you know how to identify radfem and T(W)ERF rhetoric and can’t possibly fall victim to it but guess what.

They are nowhere near above pulling this shit. And you all are falling for it.

And if you think that screenshot is an isolated incident, think again!

There are countless radfem and T(W)ERF blogs that I’ve blocked that said ‘secret radfem sideblog’ in the description.

Like, it’s great that we’ve made being a T(W)ERF so unaccepted on this site that they can only be open about the most toxic of their views in secret side blogs rather than on their main, but it’s time to accept that they’re taking advantage of that in a really fucking insidious way.

Just a tip on how to recognize these blogs. If you follow someone and you start getting suggested t*rf blogs that’s a good sign the person has sideblog for that stuff. There was some cowboy blog I followed a while ago and I used to get follow suggestions saying “this blog is similar to cowboy whatever” and it was a ton of t*rf shit and low and behold they ended up outing themselves

This is why we learn about what actual TERF ideology is. Saying “trans women are women” and “TERFS not allowed” and putting “TERF destroyer” or whatever in your bio is not enough. Learn how TERFs actually work, and what they believe, and where it stems from, and how they express diluted versions in order to warm up non-TERFs to their ideas.

Do the fucking work. Unfollow/block people who express TERF ideas even if they don’t label themselves as TERFs, challenge those ideas in your community, and you won’t have to worry about secret TERF blogs anymore.

Just in case you happen to be unaware, some of the “radfem lite” they post to warm you up to their rhetoric, just off the top of my head:

The following are some red flags I’ve seen:

And also, just so we’re clear, if YOU, the person reading this, are looking at that list and thinking “what’s so bad about ___? That’s not terfy that’s just feminism!” then congratulations, you are dipping your foot in the well, and you have some shit to unlearn before you jump in whole hog.

Learn how to fucking recognize radfem and terf rhetoric even when it’s supposedly welcoming trans women, and do your part to oust them from the queer community.

Really important and I think I missed it on the list:

This doesn’t mean “ace lesbians are TERFs.” It means that if someone’s idea of lesbianism excludes kinky lesbians or the idea that a lesbian can be abusive in a relationship or… doesn’t encompass the idea that women can sometimes be fucking horndogs? It’s leaning on some very radfem ideas about women and their sexuality, ideas that infantilize women and flatten their lives down to “innocent cherubs.”

And it’s fucking weird.

people say folks with adhd struggle with "delayed rewards" aka long term goals and as such we tend to focus more on short term rewards. what they don't talk about is that at when we Do accomplish long term goals we don't actually feel anything proportionate to the amount of work we did to achieve it. In my head I suffered for a while and then money spontaneously appeared in my bank account.

Sometimes I wonder if certain kinds of bad parenting actually make this exponentially worse...

Like sometimes I wonder if reward or punishment, as a child and then as a teen, being completely decoupled from what I tried to do or how I behaved didn't maybe break this way worse than it was already prone to being broken on a biochemical level. Like reinforcing a problem instead of reinforcing anything that would counteract it.

Sometimes I wonder if the maladaptive parenting styles of parents of kids with ADHD and Autism are not making this exponentially worse than it has to be.

Like if you treat accomplishing "basic tasks" like a baseline that doesn't deserve a reward, and just keep punishing a kid who can't live up to a certain way of being, and then also punishments come seemingly at random for behaviours that should be considered normal, or for expressing when you are in distress. It seems obvious to me that this would further decouple actions/effort and reward or punishment in a way that would feed back into neurological development. If you are also getting praised for things that come naturally to you when you are just already doing kind of okay, or are shut down, like begin quiet, or seeming mature, or being easy to teach about a subject you like... In addition to constantly punished no matter how hard you try or regardless of what you do, I -remember- it feeling like rewards and punishments come at random with more relation to a parent's mood than my bahaviour [even if for me part of that was due to outright abuse], and I am sure we can all see how raising a child that way could impact their development...

Like I shouldn't have to tell you what happens to the rats that get shocked no matter what they do.

And then you stack that on top of a shit dopamine response, and reward circuitry that already doesn't fire properly...

So yeah, to begin with you are motivated by just trying to avoid worse pain or worse punishment instead of by the promise of a rewarding feeling, already biochemically that's a problem, and then your environment just reinforces that expectation and hardwiring through your whole development.

And so I wonder what the difference is for two people who start off the same level of fucked by adhd, but one has parents with a reward based parenting style [teaches you to treat yourself for doing good and that you don't need to earn things like rest or not being punished], and the other has parents who act like they are baseline bad failure people who can only deserve not to be punished with the most extreme of efforts on their part. I am given to think that one of those people will have a harder time with the lack of biochemical feedback for doing a good job as an adult.

That's it. That's the dream. I'm almost mad that that's the dream.

That's half the dream. The other half is being fairie fucking godmother to everyone on the planet.

See, I had 100k for a hot minute. Doesn't matter why. But for nearly a calendar year, I picked up the tab every chance I got, i lavished people with gifts, I took a friend to Greece, I paid for healthcare for myself and a few other people, for lawyers to help someone get out of an abusive marriage, Christmas presents for a single mom of 3.

It felt incredible. Just to take away the worry and say, "I've got you." Instacart groceries to a grieving friend of a friend across town. Pay the unexpected car repairs. Gift a young artist a yearlong subscription to Procreate.

That's why I'll never understand billionaires. If you could fix it, if money could actually make even one life better, why would you not do it? Even just for the kick? Hell, i don't care if it feeds your ego. Be Tony Stark, be Superman, idgaf. When you'll never be able to spend all that you have, even if you some up every damn day like it was your job, if you could end world hunger six times over for the price of a social media company, why wouldn't you just DO IT?

I don't have a coherent conclusion to this, except that if I ever meet Jeff Bezos, I'll beat him to death with my bare fists.

This whole thread is cool and wholesome.

something they have control over!!! yes!!!!!!!

My number one tip for straight men (I mean, it could conceivably work for other genders and sexualities, but you’d have to adjust it quite a bit) is: inagine they’re a man.

Imagine that you just randomly told some bloke in a pub that he has beautiful eyes.

That you walked up behind your coworker Jim and started caressing his neck and shoulders while talking to him about the budget.

That you just sent a large and unexplained bouquet of flowers to Darren in Accounting.

That instead of complimenting a coworker on her breasts, you complimented him on his dick.

Does the action now seem weird? Uncomfortable? Do you no longer want to do it now that it isn’t directed at somebody you are sexually attracted to?

That strongly suggests that your action has a sexual aspect to it and therefore probably counts as sexual harassment!

I have a large, colorful tattoo on one arm. I’ve had multiple strange men cross a room to tell me how awesome it is, frequently while I’m at work, and it has never made me uncomfortable.

A couple of weeks ago, someone yelled out a car at me ‘I FUCKING LOVE YOUR BOOTS’, which was awesome.

It’s just… it’s really not hard to compliment people in a way that isn’t creepy, if your goal is actually to compliment them and not to slide a ‘btw I’m thinking about fucking you’ under the radar.

Good advice! Applicable in many ways…..

This is actually pretty good! 

pig,,

This little butch piggy went to a bar and tried to pull a femme baddie

she succeeded

Check you privilege every day

Reminds me of this:

Now that I’m recovering from things brain and body wise a bit after the stair incident/brain incident, im finally getting back into some sketches!! Once I have my feet under me again I can get back to asks :3 Even had a couple ideas for some comics maybe 👀 sorry about the wait!

In the meantime, while I’m spinning back up, please enjoy an extremely rough butch sketch 🖤

very noticeable that whenever i get pissy about being addressed as "girl" on here i've pretty much always gotten an "oh shit my bad" even in less-than-good-faith interactions, and have literally never been subjected to the "ermmm, honey friendo sweet summer child. i use that term gender neutrally 😌" thing that my transfem mutuals seem to get, like, daily

Ok, good. You're using her pronouns, and you're doing it consistently. That's... better.

But are you using her adjectives? Her nouns? Do you call her girl, woman, lady, wife, mom, girlfriend, and everything else when it's appropriate? Are you giving her her appropriate context when you're talking to her and about her, or are you just carefully gender neutralizing everything else so that those pronouns stand the fuck out like mad when they happen and make everyone including her feel like you're emphasizing stuff weird?

My hot take is that actually food allergies are a disability and more people need to realize that. The amount of research people with food allergies have to do when they want to go visit places but arent sure if they’ll have access to any food there is insane. Allergy friendly food is almost ALWAYS incredibly expensive in stores bc of all those fucking fad diets that like yoga instructors and middle age soccer moms make popular. And on top of the price, it is so hard to FIND! Almost evrry grocery store ive been to has a tiny ass allergy section that is almost always near empty. Plus what about people who don’t have the money to pay 10$ for a loaf of bread? You go to starbucks and non-dairy milks are like 70 cents extra? People are definitely out there buying and eating stuff that is destroying their digestive systems because they have no other choice. I am begging people to stop pretending that catering to people’s food allergies is elitist and not worth is. We need to make these options openly available.

Honestly the fad diets make it easier, not harder, to find allergy-friendly food.

My allergies/mast cell issues affect every other condition I have because they affect which medications I can even take.

Yeah. I'm actually super grateful to everybody who made gluten-free food a fad a few years ago. Thanks to them, there are so many options for me compared to what was there .... jeez. 10 years ago.

fad diets are great with one exception: current vegan trend (fine) means a lot of previously gluten free foods near are rebranded as vegan(also fine) and now they contain gluten for some reason (very bad)

Yeah :/

If your tummy itches when you wear jeans, you have a nickel allergy and should paint the back of the buttion with nail polish. Okay I am going into the woods forever now. I love you.

WHAT

Sensitivity to nickel is extremely common amd despite this, clothing manufacturers often use it because it is cheap. A coat or two of nail polish is an effective barrier between the allergen and your skin. Goodbye forever. Do not forget my wisdom