british fantasy name: wicklebort smee
american fantasy name: aethiraimia “mia” windfeeler
chinese fantasy name: zhang youming (minimum two pages of in-text etymology about why they’re called this)
all three are orphans, but zhang youming was taken in by a mysterious sect, mia windfeeler grew up fending for herself on the streets, and wicklebort smee lives with his rather nice aunt over in derbyshire
if you’re 26 and older, reblog.
woke up today and realized that tumblr entirely killed fuck ya life bing bong so here ya go again
giving your dash a little clean
When Tumblr posts are like "You have to-" let's get on the same page. I don't have to do anything.
this is from a "manipulation advice" video and it's just so fucking funny to me. why didn't I think of responding to insults like this
I can’t remember where I got the information now, but apparently if you stare silently for at least 4 seconds it triggers a feeling of rejection which I don’t have to tell you is uncomfortable and makes most people backpedal pretty quickly and awkwardly.
Immediately going concerned/extremely polite always throws people off their game, it's beautiful.
The Quiet Stare Of Disappointment is also super effective, indeed .
My sister and I were walking across a car park.
Random bloke: Maybe if you walked more you wouldn’t be so fat
My sister stops dead, stares him in the eye and goes: Is everything alright at home?
I’ve never seen a man’s face turn to horror so fast
We just walked to her car and drove off
The silent stare is so effective. I learned about it in social psychology in undergrad, and have often used it to great effect. Probably the best example is when I went to sign the papers on the car I was buying—I had already worked out a price and my trade-in with the salesmen the day before—and they decided they were going to take $1000 off the value of my trade-in. (I want to emphasize that I was buying a 10+ year old car; I ended up paying $8k total.)
"No," I said. "That doesn't work for me. If you're unwilling to honor the deal we made, I'm not buying a car from you."
Well, they talk for a living. So they talked. Here I am, a young woman on my own, and these two men at the dealership are giving me all the reasons they couldn't possibly honor the deal we made yesterday.
So I sat. I didn't say a word. I just stared at them.
They kept talking, trying to get a reaction out of me. After about 10 seconds, they abandoned all pretense of logical arguments and started hammering pathos. They weren't even buying my old car from me for the dealership; it was a personal favor for which they were using their own hard-earned money to help this poor guy at church who just got out of rehab and his house burned down and his children exploded and his dog left him for another man, etc etc
I didn't say a word. I just stared at them.
They began falling apart. They continued trying to hustle me, but their confidence left them. I think they might have been sweating.
Within five minutes they caved and signed the papers for our original deal.
I have been told for years I am intimidating, and by people who had never even seen me angry. Just in general, intimidating. This absolutely baffled me until a friend one day pointed at me and said — “This! Right now! You’re being intimidating!”
Friends, I was staring silently at someone while inwardly flailing desperately to come up with a response to something they’d said that wasn’t overly rude but also was holding my ground. In my mind, I was being hellishly awkward. I couldn’t summon any charm, I couldn’t figure out a sentence to string together. Silence spooled out horrifyingly between us as I got farther and farther away from being articulate and became more and more flustered by this failure to respond. From the outside, I guess, I just looked like a stone cold bitch waiting for them to get their shit together, lol.
I still don’t think I’m intimidating but you know I’ll take it.
a huge part of appearing intimidating is simply being obviously willing to no bluff just walk away
conveying wordlessly their unimportance
...Wait, so I can just do the Mom Look on full-grown people? The look I give my five-year-old when he starts to do something he knows he shouldn't... I can do that to normal adults when they do something THEY know they shouldn't?!
Goddamn, I'm gonna have to try that!
These are all great points, but the "are you okay?" answer is not just a tool to 'own' someone, it genuinely helps me in another way
That person is very probably not Mad At You, strangers are very rarely Mad At You, they don't know you. They are probably having a bad day and you are just some guy that happens to be there
'are you okay', reminds me that they are probably not a horrid rude person 24/7, they are probably having a bad day. And hopefully it reminds them too
I'm never saying it to shame someone into changing their behaviour, I'm genuinely asking because they probably are not okay
I'm going to say that this isn't just helpful with rude strangers
When my kid was small and acting up I would stop and ask "are you okay?" Because I assumed if they were behaving badly there was a reason and there usually was and they didn't know how better to articulate it
Now they are a teenager it's still helpful
And if me or my husband is being dick it's not usual behaviour and "are you okay?" Is helpful
Hell my teenager uses it on me
I was having a very bad mental health day the other day and it was making me irritable and frustrated and I was being kinda a bitch because I was overwhelmed and we had this convo:
Teenager: are you okay?
Me: *angrily* no
Teenager: can I help?
Me: no
Teenager: should I leave you alone?
Me: yes
And then they left me alone
And then after I calmed down I apologised and made sure they knew they hadn't done anything wrong and I wasn't irritated at them
Communication is good
I never really thought about before how when God is teaching Jonah about mercy and he gives him that plant and then the plant is withered by the sun and Jonah liked that plant, he’s so angry! And God says are you angry Jonah? And Jonah says angry enough to die!
Never thought about how in that parallel God compares the plant to people, which makes Jonah in God’s role. Angry enough at the destruction of humanity—to die
God sent Jonah to Nineveh the enemy of his people to preach repentance and Jonah’s so mad because he wanted God to be angry at Nineveh, unleash his wrath, get rid of the enemy. And God’s response is to set up this little plant that Jonah likes and then when it’s blasted away go what are you feeling Jonah? And Jonah says angry!! And all the sudden the anger you thought God should be feeling you see it’s there but it’s anger that *anyone* should be destroyed. It’s anger *for* people. It’s anger that moves people *away* from destruction because at its heart it’s love.
With Thaisha - part of me wants to praise Aabria for being willing to play a mother who has other priorities, but part of me feels like that's being condescending - it shouldn't be remarkable. I don't think it's even a flaw of Thaisha's, or that it even makes her a 'bad mom', it's just having a core conflict and regrets.
I also think there's a little bit of a disservice done when we look at marginalized creators - especially creators who are doubly marginalized - and call them brave for like. Creating someone with any type of facet or depth of character. Yes, they're going to get a disproportionate amount of shit for it, but they'll also get that no matter what. It's a bit othering.
(It also reminds me of the game 'is this a depiction of race/class/colonialism that we would never get on network TV or a plot from Deep Space Nine', in that people deem stories that deal with oppression as impossible to tell, ignoring evidence to the contrary)
In any case, I'm so glad she decided to play Thaisha because this is my shit. I love thinking about moms who have other priorities outside of motherhood but also don't reject being a mother outright, and what that means for the family. It's a delicious conflict! I love it in Veth, I love imagining what it would have meant for Vilya and Constance - to have had to leave their children behind for a greater cause, only to find out, decades later, that their children have inherited that cause. And I love thinking about the fallout with the Temults, even though that one has a whole other cult dimensionality to it. It's a delicious conflict that doesn't require anyone to be stupid or evil, just human (or half elf or firbolg). (more under the cut)
oh I see. it was the crime of wanting. that's why I deserve it.
Available as a sticker on my Redbubble shop.
I'm putting together an emergency box for my car (because mountains) with stuff like jumper cables and gloves and a flashlight and first aid kit, and I was looking online for similar lists people recommended for stuff to keep in the car in case I was forgetting something important, and I kept seeing 'extra food and water' on these lists and
this is fucking People-Who-Don't-Live-In-Bear-Country privilege right here.
YOU DO NOT
LEAVE FOOD
IN THE CAR
OR ELSE!
Something they never tell you about being an adult is the power of just being The Person Who Reliably Shows Up. Even if you don’t think you have much to bring to the table except being kind to people, wanting to learn, and contributing when you can. Many of the good things that have happened to me and many of the connections I’ve made have been because I just kept showing up and people were like, whelp, I guess we can’t get rid of your ass and now you’re a load bearing part of the community
academic dishonesty is not something you can spin as moral lol i do not want to share a career field let alone a social sphere with a bunch of chatgpt using ass bitches
"you're just scared your diploma is going to devalue" i'm afraid you dumb bitches are going to become my colleagues and drag social services to hell
I'm afraid they'll become scientists and data that lives depend on will turn out to be wrong - and people will die.
I'm afraid they'll become engineers and sign off on bridge designs that collapse - and people will die.
I'm afraid they'll become medical professionals who don't know what they're doing - and people will die.
The assumption that academic dishonesty is okay is rooted in the idea that what you're learning to do doesn't matter.
I'm an angry person but anyone who knows me knows I abhor violence. I'd never want to seriously hurt someone. However I should be allowed to do cartoon physics violence. Sometimes when people piss me off I just want to flatten them with a big hammer and turn them into a pancake and then they go *pop* and they're totally uninjured. That would be fine
“I didn’t think you could move like that anymore” but it’s Jason Todd as Red Hood briefly adopting Robin’s grace and Batman’s superhuman silence to enter a building soundlessly and stalk six people in the pitch black instead of Red Hood’s typical schtick.
and it works. every. goddamned. time. goons forget Hood’s got the Bat in his bones. he can move just like him; he simply chooses not to.
