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Look we have records of Medieval Knights crying out in their sleep, having emotional outbursts or flinching at the sound of clashing metal. We have records of people all through history who were treated badly by people who should have loved them, and having problems knowing who to trust. We have years worth of artists putting their human pain at broken hearts and broken promises into music that makes us cry.

Yes people have been traumatized by awful things for all of history and just like them You didn’t deserve to be hurt either.

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“suffering doesn’t make you better, it just makes you suffer” - maus

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For years now, this wild humpback whale has come to this boat captain to have its lice removed at the calving lagoon of Ojo de Liebre, Baja California, Mexico.

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I was a cheerleader at university, this was in the UK so not serious at all, but we did go and compete at Nationals which were being held in Bournemouth, a fair distance from our uni in London. One of the girls was like "omg you can stay at my house! My parents live like 30 minutes away." so all 25 of us got on the coach with a blanket and pillow and clothes, expecting to like, stay at a house.

Her house in the New Forest. They had a pool and hot tub, a pool house, and I think 4 or 5 bedrooms and 2 reception rooms. I say "I think" because we weren't actually allowed to stay in the house. Our coach and 2 male members stayed in the pool house, which had a very small room, plus a bathroom which all of us were to share. The rest of us had to sleep in a big tent gazebo thing in the garden. In May in England. When none of us were prepared for camping. It was about 10°c in the night, not comfortable at all.

I very briefly saw the inside of the house when I asked her mother if there was another bathroom because we were running late and i needed to put my contact lenses in, and she shooed me into a cupboard under the stairs. The living room I caught a glimpse of had enough space for all of us to sleep there.

The next day when we got back from the competition, we were given a BBQ dinner! Which consisted of 1 chicken leg and 1 potato each.

For the privilege of staying at her house, we all had to give Nadine £5.

Every time I see a post like this, I think of that time, freezing my ass off, in a mansion garden.

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Let’s talk about something called the “sunk cost fallacy”.

Say that you’ve bought a concert ticket for $50 for a band that you don’t know that well. Half an hour into the show, you realize that you don’t actually enjoy the music and you aren’t having a good time - instead of leaving the concert to go do something else, however, you sit through the remaining hours of the concert because you don’t want to “waste” the cost of the ticket. 

Congratulations, you’ve just fallen victim to the sunk cost fallacy.

The “sunk cost fallacy” is something that all humans are prone to when we make decisions. Simply put, it’s the human tendency to consider past costs when we make choices, even when those costs are no longer relevant. When you’re deciding whether or not to stay at that concert you aren’t enjoying, you will likely consider the cost of the ticket when you’re making your decision - for instance, you’d probably be a lot more willing to leave a $5 concert that you aren’t enjoying than a $50 concert that you aren’t enjoying. But taking the cost of the ticket into account at all is a mistake. 

When you’re making a rational decision, the only thing that matters is the future. Time, effort and money that you’re spent up until that point no longer matter - it doesn’t make sense to consider them, because no matter what you decide, you can’t actually get them back. They are “sunk” costs. If you decide to stay at that concert, you are out $50 and you’ll have a mediocre evening. If you decide to go leave and do something more fun, you are out $50 and you’ll have a better evening. No matter what you choose, you have lost $50 - but choosing to leave the concert means that you haven’t also spent an evening doing something you don’t like.

The sunk cost fallacy is sometimes also described as “throwing good money after bad” - people will waste additional time, resources and effort simply to justify the fact that they’ve already wasted time, resources and effort, even if it leaves them worse off overall. 

Common examples of sunk cost fallacy in everyday life include:

  • refusing to get rid of clothes that don’t fit or that you never wear because they were expensive
  • going to an event that you no longer want to go to because you already bought the ticket 
  • spending more and more money on repairing a car or computer (or something else that depreciates in value over time) instead of buying a new one because you don’t want to waste the money you put into earlier repairs
  • continuing to watch a movie or TV show you aren’t enjoying anymore because you’ve already watched part of it 
  • finishing a plate of food that you’re not enjoying or are too full to enjoy, because you don’t want to waste it
  • refusing to get rid of unused, unwanted or broken items in your home because the items were expensive

Perhaps the most damaging example of sunk cost fallacy in everyday life, however, is relationships. 

People often use the length of a relationship to justify staying in it. You’ve probably heard this logic - you may even have used it yourself: “I can’t break up with him or the two years we spent together will be for nothing.”

“If I leave her, it will mean I wasted the five years I spent with her.”

The reality, though, is that staying in a mediocre relationship doesn’t “give you back” the time you’ve already invested in that relationship. It just makes the relationship longer. If you stay in a bad relationship for five more years to avoid “wasting” the first two, you haven’t actually made those first two years worthwhile - you’ve simply spent seven years of your life in a bad relationship. There’s nothing we can do to recover time and effort (and in most cases, money) that we’ve already spent. But we can forgive ourselves, and we can stop letting our past mistakes continue to define our futures. 

To put it in Marie Kondo’s words, those things have served their purpose to you, even if their only purpose was to teach you that you do not like that thing. That ticket has now taught you that you do not like this type of band/concert, and leaving the concert is not a waste of that ticket because the ticket has already served its purpose to you. Don’t hold onto things solely out of guilt, because their purpose in your life is over now, and holding onto them will not bring you joy.

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Bunny hates baths 8I 

lol I had way too much fun drawing this. I especially enjoy drawing Tooth. So many good shapes.

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I like s̷t̷a̷r̷s̷  Kepler–Poinsot polyhedra.

What’s your favorite regular star polyhedra, and why is it the small stellated dodecahedron?

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I had a sudden urge to paint Chinese porcelain snakes with plants. Not exactly holiday themed but who knows how inspiration works anyway lol Merry Christmas! 

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The Structure of Story now available! Check it out on Amazon, via the link in our bio, or at https://kiingo.co/book

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Compelling drama is all about the future. We try to keep the audience focused on what's ahead by raising questions.

The future is uncertain--and rife with emotions. Let's consider a few of the emotions that the audience may experience as we mix anticipation with uncertainty.

The Emotions of Dramatic Questions

Recall that dramatic tension is the push and pull between success and failure. It's created when a character has a goal, that goal meets opposition, and there's something at stake if the character loses. Dramatic tension creates an implicit dramatic question: Will the character win or lose?

Hope

Anytime we let the audience feel that the character is on the verge of some sort of success (particularly when it comes to dramatic tension), the audience will likely feel hope. They'll believe that it's plausible the character actually wins this thing and gets what they want.

The audience is looking forward to something happening.

Fear and Worry

When we let the audience feel that the character is on the verge of failure, on the other hand, we're likely inducing fear. The audience may begin to believe that the character's not actually going to pull this out and doom awaits them.

The audience is not looking forward to something happening.

Suspense

As we'll later discuss, audiences feel suspense when a dramatic question (i.e. a question of whether a character will win or lose) is combined with uncertainty and the feeling that an outcome is imminent.

In other words, the audience feels like something good or bad might happen at any moment. They're not sure what or how things will play out, but they believe there's a chance things could turn out terribly. Suspense is an interesting mix of hope and fear.

The audience is not sure whether something bad will happen or not.

Tension

Audiences feel tense when the outcome of a dramatic question is delayed. In other words, tension is created when a suspenseful moment is stretched.

Let the audience linger in their uncertainty. Let them feel that hope and fear even longer. That's where we get explicit tension.

The audience is not sure *when* dramatic tension will be resolved.

Curiosity

Audiences feel curiosity when there's an implicit or explicit promise that missing information could be interesting. To create curiosity, review our tools for raising an active or passive mystery.

The Emotions of Answers

We've explored a few of the emotions the audience can feel when they're stuck in a moment of uncertainty about the future. But eventually that future must arrive. Eventually we must actually give the audience answers to those dramatic questions.

And in those moments, we get the emotions associated with reaction.

Surprise

Audiences feel surprise when they didn't get what they expected or anticipated. There's an answer to a dramatic question but it's something we didn't see coming.

Disappointment

Audiences feel disappointment when they didn't get what they had hoped for. Sometimes their expectations weren't met. Other times they're disappointed that the character appears to have failed.

Relief

Audiences feel relief when they didn't get what they feared. They may feel this when the bad thing they envisioned didn't occur or the character was successful.

It's important that we understand the tools that allow us to create these emotions as we craft our stories. They'll help us orchestrate a symphony of emotions in the audience.

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Ben: What happens to nitrogen when the sun rises?

Ben: It becomes daytrogen

Jeff:

Jeff: I'm going to bed

Y/n: Good nitrogen

E.J.: Sleep tightrogen

Hoodie: Don't let the bedbugs bitrogen

[angry screams from the other room]

Y/n: Let's go before he comes after us