Good luck debugging this

yet another reason that optional braces were in fact a tragic mistake.

"But she gave birth to you, you owe her!"

My mother wanted to be a mother. It was her dream to be a mother. She poured all her energy into being a Good Christian Mother.

She did not want me. She wanted motherhood. I was a side effect of her dream. Once I was old enough to disagree with her, she hated me. I wasn't making her look like a Good Christian Mother. I was loud, disobedient, needy... almost like a child. Not quiet and pretty and grateful for crumbs.

Yes, she birthed me. For herself and her partner. For the people who were already born. Not for me. As all mothers have for all of time. It's not the birthing that makes a mother worth honoring, it's the parenting.

QFT:

also, don't mistake "put in a lot of time and energy" for "made an effort to do a good job". if you put a lot of time and energy into hurting the kid, that's not actually trying to do a good job, that's just being an asshole.

the reason they have so many is so there's a chance one of them can hide in the bag and stow away when you leave

"Why don't people recognize Link in TOTK" bc everyone imagines the legendary swordsman to be built like Ganondorf and Link doesn't bother correcting anyone bc being hailed as a hero is like on the bottom of his priorities, which are topped by things like "Bake one of every pie"

Rando farmer: They say that once the noble hero of legend passed by this very village! Isn't that wonderful to imagine, genderfluid stranger?

Link, 5'6" with 2" heels and wearing a backless dress suspiciously stained with blood: no yeah that's wild

"Wouldn't they recognize him bc he's with Zelda" Everyone interacting with Zelda was like "Wow, the princess!! The princess who saved Hyrule is here, talking to us! Plus some guy with three sets of pronouns who's building a bomb but more importantly The Princess!! Wow!!"

Zelda keeps coming across spare genders she doesn't need and Link follows behind scooping them all up off the ground like a starving trash possum

Someone uses an unfamiliar pronoun around Zelda, and she hears the item pickup sound come from Link

I feel like Link is too busy marveling over a sword which can be pointed in more than four directions to have strong opinions about pronouns. Someone was going to assign Link a gender but Link dodge-rolled and the gender passed through during the i-frames.

such a beautiful world

As an American who has paid $US just north of the Canadian border: I absolutely know y'all are getting more money, this is fine by me, it's more convenient for me than actually changing money would be and if you want to charge me for that service, you 100% go right ahead.

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hlep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you ask for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hlep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hlep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it helps reinforce the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hleper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

It's incredibly frustrating when someone does this. My mother used to be awful for it before I moved out; with the best will in the world she would constantly undermine me in exactly this way and then get indignant when I dared to point out that she wasn't really helping me at all. It wasn't until I started using kid gloves to explain things to her that the situation improved at all and thankfully I have managed to teach her that yes, doing exactly as I say when I ask her for help is the best way to support me, and because I know she loves me, I also know that she would want to be told how to help me in the correct way. It's not criticism of her as a person, just me explaining to her the best way to help me, which is information that she wants because she loves me and wants to do right by me.

Should I have had to explain that to her? No! Was it enormously tiring to have to teach her something on top of everything else, when I was already in need of help? Yes! But it's done now, and it's better.

Anyway, if you love a disabled person, listen to us and help us as we ask instead of second guessing us. Thanks. ( b ._.)b

Ooh, very good word to have.

Do not attempt to out-malicious-compliance the staff at the malicious compliance conference.

Some dipshit decided to pay the conference fee ($250) in quarters. He handed us a wrapped plastic bag full of loose change. "It's all there," he said with a shit-eating grin, "you can count it."

Oh buddy. We're going to count it. What were you expecting?

At about the time I got to $60, he offered to give us $300 collateral so he could get his badge and go to the conference.

No, bud. You get to watch the most dyscalculic staffer count to a thousand while all your friends go in to the breakfast and find seats for the first talk.

"Ruining someone's day" is the favorite hobby of everyone here. Why would you hand us the perfect opportunity to wreck your shit and think that was an own? Half the con is calling him "Untraceable," the other half is calling him "Quarter Boy" and nobody cares what he says his handle is.

I spent an hour counting that and made him go fetch me baggies to hold it every fifty dollars.

This ended up being a good bonus prank for me too, because when the counting was done I wrapped the bags in gaffer's tape and spent the rest of the day handing it to people very casually while saying "oh here, hold this for a sec" and then watching they weren't ready for the weight (I only did this to people I know well enough to know this wouldn't hurt them).

Like everyone else, I just really want to know what is the malicious compliance conference.

someone put this screenshot in my notes and i wasn't gonna put the op on blast but i cannot stop thinking about it. this is up there as one of the funniest doubling downs i've ever seen. "it's called craft. it's called storytelling." is going to enter my meme vernacular and no one is going to have any idea what i'm talking about. the count of monte cristo shows a clear lack of craft in its wordcount. if only ernest hemingway's editor had killed more of his darlings while he wrote for whom the bell tolls. readers and editors alike are always complaining about how fucking long to kill a mockingbird is.

Valid Jane Austen Novels:

Kindling:

Really starting to take this whole austerity shit too far huh.

a theory from @solitarelee in the groupchat last night:

This has similar energy to the incredible stupidity of Sam Bankman-Fried's thing about how if you wrote a book, you fucked up, and it should have been a six-paragraph blog post.

Like, this is clearly just a man who never understood anything complicated in his life and has just been assuming everything is as simple as the things he's willing to put in the time to understand.

kinda want to make a youtube channel where I review minecraft mod packs but the joke is that I only ever review on part of the modpack, and score them appropriately.

“Hello gamers, and welcome to Foone’s Minecraft Modpack Review! Today we’re looking at All The Mods 8, it’s an omnibus mod pack with lots of interesting tech and magic add-ons with lots of quality-of-life improvements, and frequent updates. But let’s get down to testing”

I walk over to a tree, knock down some blocks, make an axe, and finish mining out the wood. The leaves quickly despawn over a few seconds.

“That settles it, folks! This modpack DOES have Fast Leaf Decay. I’m therefore rating it an A+ out of ten, top stars, download it today. Don’t forget to like comment and subscribe, and tune in next week where we’re testing Vault Hunters 3… Will it have Fast Leaf Decay or not? You better subscribe to find out!”

the scoring system, in detail: modpack has fast leaf decay: A+ modpack doesn’t have fast leaf decay: F I can’t get modpack to run: C-

I think that for most people, can't get modpack to run should be a C, but if you can't get a modpack to run, they should get at least a B+ for having put in significant work to make it tricky to run. Technology that doesn't work is commonplace. Technology that retrocomputing nerds can't make work is actually sort of impressive.

the biggest problem with human pet guy is he isn't hot like if a mentally ill twink or trans girl said the things he said about me id have less of a problem with it

basically this

if i weren't on mobile i would make an edit of this

I've said before, the problem with the human pet guy was never the content of his fetishes. All of these are things that are perfectly acceptable fantasy shit, it's just about context and consent.

Like, yeah, we meme on him for going zero to sixty with extreme fetishes because it's hilarious, but the real problem with the human pet guy is not actually the content of those fetishes. If you wanna fantasize or roleplay his sort of stuff, that's fine and there are communities for it, and many of them are right here on Tumblr!

But his actual problem, the thing that made him into "human pet guy", is that he didn't respect context and didn't seem to care about consent. He'd come into a conversation about breastfeeding your infant in public and be like "what if I had a pet human on a leash? Could I feed him in a public restaurant?"

Or he'd go "you know the UK is facing a milk shortage, so I think this can be solved with a combination of capitalism and putting trans girls in chastity cages".

In the right context (like a discord of BDSM kinksters), perfectly normal things to talk about. In a nonsexual politics/etiquette discussion, fucking not OK in the slightest.

And it's not like this was a on off incident where he misjudged a situation. This sort of shit kept happening, despite him getting yelled at every time. Personally, I suspect that was the point. He's getting off on violating boundaries and the humiliation of everyone (rightly) dogpiling on him.

But yeah. At the end of the day I agree with this post and hope that people remember to learn the right lesson from the human pet guy.

It's NOT that he's a Known Figure because he had weird fetishes. He did, but that's fine. You can have all the weird fetishes you want. Just keep in mind the idea of consent and context. There are places for any fetish. Feel free to talk about them, draw about them, write about them, do them (where possible and safe and ethical)... But do all that in the places for that. No one is gonna label you "the human pet guy" if you are posting on forums.petplay.egg, because that's what everyone is there for. Everyone there consented to seeing that fetish when they typed in the URL.

No, human pet guy is that infamous person because he brought up and talked about his fetishes for human pets and chastised trans girl milk in contexts ans conversations that were entirely nonsexual up until he butted his head in.

It's like, the difference between your partner saying "I'm gonna lick the sweat off your toes" in the middle of a sexting session, and a stranger saying that to you, having just rang your doorbell. One is fine. The other is not.

They call it an exquisite corpse but not a fuckable corpse, smdh at sex negativity in the cadaver business.

it's the art business, and they can have a little sex negativity sometimes as a treat

sorta related but i dont like that tumblr has made “unhealthy relationship” mean “one person is an abuser and the other is a victim”

unhealthy relationship means just that. a relationship that is unhealthy. whether because a party is uninterested, both parties bring out the worst in eachother, theres just no more spark, etc

just stop using “unhealthy relationship” as if its perfectly synonymous with “abusive relationship”

abusive relationships are DEFINITELY unhealthy relationships but not all unhealthy relationships are abusive, ya dig?

Important post.

Not everyone you don’t get along with is an abuser.

So there’s a thing in programming called “Hungarian Notation”, named after some guy at Xerox & Microsoft, and the basic idea is that instead of naming things with just a name for how they’re used in the program, you also name them with an indicator for what type they are.

This made a lot of sense in the early days of BCPL (which is an ancestor to the wildly popular C programming language, but it doesn’t have a real idea of variable-types) and writing code without modern IDEs that can easily show you what types variables are. 

So if you’re writing a program that counts up sheep, you might have a variable called “nSheep”. the “n” part indicates it’s a number (presumably an integer), and the “Sheep” part is the real name.  You’d also have things like “sName” for a name that’s a string (bit of text), “fSpeed” for a floating point number (decimal numbers, not whole numbers), “pCurrentFile” for a pointer to a file. (Pointers are indirection. Instead of being a value themselves, they instead tell you “the value you want is over there”)

Anyway all this setup is to explain why it both makes sense and is completely hilarious when a program I’m hacking needs a pointer to a pointer to a character, which is used to store a list of names, they decided to name it like this:

char** ppNames; 

Okay but i have to speak up in defense of Charles Simonyi, who had a good and reasonable idea, which was not used by Microsoft.

So, the original idea was... like what you describe, but even a bit more abstract sometimes. for instance, you mught do something like "miLength" for a length in miles, and "kmLength" for a length in kilometers, so if you saw "miLength + kmLength" you'd be able to see that something was wrong.

And then Microsoft started using this in headers, only, they used it with concrete types. So they did things like "dblLength" to show that it was a double, or "szFoo" to show null-terminated string, but they kept encoding in the types, in most cases, exactly the information the compiler already had.

So far as I know, this wasn't related to BCPL. It was done in C and C++, and it was done because the people doing it half-understood what Simonyi had said, but didn't understand what he meant by types, and specifically that he was talking exactly not about the existing type system of the language.

And of course, what this does is make it impossible to correct a poor choice of concrete implementation type, because not only do you need to fix the type declarations, you need to fix every reference to the thing, because every name has extra letters in it that just tell you what its concrete type is, so the name has to change if the type does.

hate when couples say ‘we’re pregnant!!!’ both of you? prove it

his and hers matching pregancies

THIS ISNT ABT ‘cis’ mpreg ITS ABT TRANS MEN BE QUIET

My friend who has a gyno dad tells the best story about a couple (cis woman-trans man) who both tried in vitro fertilization and the guy got pregnant, and they were talking about it in the lobby when a cishet couple started getting weird abt it and said sth about it being "unnatural". Her dad heard and was like, "UNNATURAL? EVERYTHING WE DO HERE IS UNNATURAL, God didn't wanna give you guys a kid as much as he didn't want to give one to this couple! And you all came to me for the same thing! WE ONLY DO UNNATURAL!!! IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT YOU CAN LEAVE!" and to this day I've never respected a doctor more.

Babylon 5 has a doctor make a similar point. Someone says something like "who asked you to play God?" and he gets pissed and goes "Everyone does! Every day, when they walk through that door!" (meaning the door of the clinic)

You want natural, go die without medical care in the Serengeti. Medicine is just as "natural" as skyscrapers and plastic cups and spacecraft, and it's a good thing.

What this establishes is that if there's an upper limit on accomplishments you can have and still have imposter syndrome, it is probably higher than 360,000km.

This is revolutionary y’all. I remember being 13 and refused to go do any ceremony because my parents tried to force me to go through a bar mitzvah. By virtue of the masculine name alone I just couldn’t do it. After that, I felt very alienated from the Jewish community. Having this option is so important for us to repair these binary aspects of our culture (link)

I also had a gender neutral b'nei mitzvah, a two person one actually(me and my twin) last summer. Cool to hear about another person who did it as well.

oh good there is a word for it

how dare they announce a metal gear solid 3 remake

I bought the original and still haven’t gotten around to playing it!

just because I’m 19 years behind on my game playing is no excuse to remake games on my to-play list 

that's such a mood