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Don't Dream It, Be It

@the-queen-and-her-savior

Rhiannon. Writer. Dramaturg.
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It’s especially relevant to reframing the situation. “I’m so sorry” is showing sympathy and compassion, yes, but it still frames the person as the passive victim. “Congratulations” is important because it reframes the situation to be about the person’s agency and celebrates their choice to get out. We should have parties when a person gets out, not pity.

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A legitimately weird thing I notice a lot these days are people more and more demand answers from strangers on the internet that they could easily type into Google themselves.

Like, my guy, I know no one taught you how to look things up on the internet -- but it's really about time you learned.

Go to your local library and ask a librarian how or something.

I mean. Asking other people questions is how we used to learn things. Some of us (everyone who isn't gen Z) didn't grow up with unlimited access to all of mankind's knowledge. Also, social isolation is one of the reasons gen Z and millennials are the loneliest, most depressed generations to date, but sure. Let's encourage people to isolate and shrink away from socializing even further.

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What are you even talking about.

I suggest someone go talk to a Librarian and you're suggesting that I'm advocating folks isolate themselves? I literally just suggested they talk to another human being to learn how to use things.

And Gen Z is where I'm seeing this behavior the most. Where we've assumed folks are "digital natives" and never giving them the training on how to look things up.

Here's an example: My wife is on a discord where one young woman who is in her early twenties keeps asking people how to spell words. There's no shame in not knowing how to spell stuff, but this is something Google is great for.

But it never occurs to her to use it for that.

This isn't about not having social contact, or never asking an expert -- it's about learning how to use the available tools before demanding labor from strangers on the internet. This is an issue in a lot of places, and it leads to people not knowing how to educate themselves or function. It's a problem in the work place too.

Teaching people how to function independently doesn't socially isolate them. Showing someone how to use a hammer doesn't mean they'll never be able to use a screwdriver.

Yikes on bikes, my dude.