Common Core Beliefs
Core belief is a belief created in the subconscious mind between birth to age seven, that a person has internalized as a truth or reality.
Becoming conscious of our core beliefs will allow us to unlearn the ones we do not like and make new decisions to create new responses.
• I am not worthy, good enough, something is "wrong" with me.
The adult behaviours displayed by this belief are Self betrayal, negative self talk, procrastination, chronic fear of criticisms, performing or playing a role and denying one's own needs and boundaries.
• I must betray myself (or parts of myself) in order to be loved and chosen.
The adult behaviours show up as Codependency patterns, enabling partners who harm you and themselves, fear of stating your own needs, a lack of boundaries, inability to be vulnerable, avoidance of romantic relationships or losing yourself in romantic relationships.
• I must compete, smear or tear down others to "win" or get what I want.
The adult behaviours are Fear based decision making, an inability to collaborate, assuming everyone has negative intentions or is "out to get you" , black and white, right and wrong polarized thinking and the inability to see a perspective of another.
• People will never stay and always abandon them.
This shows up in adults as insecure attachment in romantic relationships, push and pull behaviors, inability to follow through with tasks, controlling tendencies and impulsive behaviors like shopping, changing jobs or relationships without being intentional or fully thinking them through.
• I am unlucky, good things do not happen to me.
The adult behaviours are sarcasm as a coping mechanism, "playing small", fear over revealing dreams or goals and aspirations, chronic complaining and emotional dumping as connection.
• I am not safe and the world is not safe.
This shows up as addiction or negative behaviours as an attempt to regulate the nervous system,isolation, high reactivity, defensiveness, over independence and a lack of resilience.
It might be that some, if not all really spoke to you. These may be some phrases that you have ultimately heard in your family dynamic again and again that solidified some of these beliefs for you.
This post made by Dr. Nicole LePera, on Instagram, articulated and demonstrated so much of what we live out unconsciously. If we become Aware of our choices and beliefs, then we can change them for the good.
Source : Dr. Nicole LePera aka TheHolisticPsychologist (Instagram) and Anna Akana (Youtube)