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@the-incomperable-joshua

As a biochem student and certified nerd, I feel the responsibility to bestow this knowledge upon as many people as I possibly can:

You do NOT need to "earn" meals through exercise.

You know why?

Because exercise only accounts for about 20% of your calories. The majority of the calories your body burns, it uses to keep itself alive. It uses them to power your brain and metabolism. In fact, your brain ALONE is responsible for spending about 20% of your calories.

Your BRAIN, just to keep itself going, uses up just as many (or even more!!!) calories than all the exercise you do.

Your RESTING metabolic rate is responsible for burning between 60 and 75% of your calories.

You don't just deserve food because you're working out. YOU DESERVE FOOD BECAUSE YOUR BODY NEEDS IT TO STAY ALIVE.

As a nutritionist, I confirm this is true

I never thought about the fact that some people don't know this, but some people's ideas about nutrition make sense now.

What I learned was that for the average person, it takes 1300 kcal a day just to run your organs. The breathing and digesting and thinking and stuff is what's using most of the fuel.

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you are a VERY complex organism. get enough fuel to keep existing pls

I cannot put into words how much I Fucking Loathe the fact that when you search something on youtube now it will randomly intersperse blocks of "people also watched" and "for you" into the results. That's not what I searched for, youtube. I typed in a search query because I wanted to see search results, not random unrelated garbage you have placed in my way apparently to either inconvenience me or force me to scroll further for actual results. I despise your wretched little games and every time I see it I can only instantly close the tab as I am overcome with the urge to burn something down.

"I despise your wretched little games" perfectly conveys how I feel about the entire algorithm/attention economy

They also refuse to actually show the parameters you searched for. If you sort by “upload date,” the first few videos might be more recent ones by upload date, but anything past that you’ll find a video that was uploaded five years ago, then five months ago, then three years ago, etc, which—NO! That’s NOT WHAT I ASKED FOR!! PUT THEM IN ORDER!!!

Also sometimes the “people also watched” bullcrap will not only be entirely unrelated, it will also be videos with violent, sometimes outright triggering thumbnails. I’ve gotten some AWFUL unrelated video thumbnails just when searching for video game music videos.

Scientists once thought that ADHD symptoms were always present. But previous research from Rapport, who has been studying ADHD for more than 36 years, has shown the fidgeting was most often present when children were using their brains' executive functions, particularly "working memory." That's the system we use for temporarily storing and managing information required to carry out complex cognitive tasks such as learning, reasoning and comprehension.

Here’s full study: https://www.eurekalert.org/news-releases/478386

If you enjoyed this post, please give it a ❤️ and check out @scienceisdope for more science and daily facts.

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fascinating

Okay yeah this is a really bad look for Snapchat holy shit, even given what I said about this likely being an artefact of the AI being composed of discrete and sometimes conflicting systems, but it's also a fascinating look into the "user pleasing" incentive that is trained into transformers.

>First, we’ve discovered that about a quarter of all the internet connection in or out of the house were ad related. In a few hours, that’s about 10,000 out of 40,000 processed.

>We also discovered that every link on Twitter was blocked. This was solved by whitelisting the https://t.co domain.

>Once out browsing the Web, everything is loading pretty much instantly. It turns out most of that Page Loading malarkey we’ve been accustomed to is related to sites running auctions to sell Ad space to show you before the page loads. All gone now.

>We then found that the Samsung TV (which I really like) is very fond of yapping all about itself to Samsung HQ. All stopped now. No sign of any breakages in its function, so I’m happy enough with that.

>The primary source of distress came from the habitual Lemmings player in the house, who found they could no longer watch ads to build up their in-app gold. A workaround is being considered for this.

>The next ambition is to advance the Ad blocking so that it seamlessly removed YouTube Ads. This is the subject of ongoing research, and tinkering continues. All in all, a very successful experiment.

>Certainly this exceeds my equivalent childhood project of disassembling and assembling our rotary dial telephone. A project whose only utility was finding out how to make the phone ring when nobody was calling.

>Update: All4 on the telly appears not to have any ads any more. Goodbye Arnold Clarke!

>Lemmings problem now solved.

>Can confirm, after small tests, that RTÉ Player ads are now gone and the player on the phone is now just delivering swift, ad free streams at first click.

>Some queries along the lines of “Are you not stealing the internet?” Firstly, this is my network, so I may set it up as I please (or, you know, my son can do it and I can give him a stupid thumbs up in response). But there is a wider question, based on the ads=internet model.

>I’m afraid I passed the You Wouldn’t Download A Car point back when I first installed ad-blocking plug-ins on a browser. But consider my chatty TV. Individual consumer choice is not the method of addressing pervasive commercial surveillance.

>Should I feel morally obliged not to mute the TV when the ads come on? No, this is a standing tension- a clash of interests. But I think my interest in my family not being under intrusive or covert surveillance at home is superior to the ad company’s wish to profile them.

>Aside: 24 hours of Pi Hole stats suggests that Samsung TVs are very chatty. 14,170 chats a day.

>YouTube blocking seems difficult, as the ads usually come from the same domain as the videos. Haven’t tried it, but all of the content can also be delivered from a no-cookies version of the YouTube domain, which doesn’t have the ads. I have asked my son to poke at that idea.

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How to be a dirty talking slut

Something I find slightly annoying as a dominant guy is how few (but otherwise completely good) sluts don’t really get how to do dirty talk. So here’s a guide based on my experience as a dominant man. Inevitably this is going to reflect some of my personal tastes but hopefully it’s also general enough to be useful to any slut who wants to please a man by being the filthy talking whore he dreams about: 1) Beg

Most men, unless they’re unsafe assholes, don’t want to go too far and hurt you (at least not too much). This means their natural instinct is to hold back. But even if they’ve learnt not to hold back then it’s pretty much always the case that hearing you beg for more makes it easier to forget that nagging instinct and to know that they have an eager little slut to use. So say things like “Please fuck my cunt/throat/ass” or “Please rape me/fuck me hard” or “Please make me your whore” and any variations on those themes. Whatever he’s doing, beg him to do more of it. Plead with him to use you. Not only will he love hearing you beg but he’ll also use you even harder as a result.

Win win.

2) You don’t “want”, you “need”

Hearing a whore say she wants your cock is nice. Hearing that she needs it is better.

You want him to know that you’re a mindless slut who *needs* to be used. Who doesn’t just want what he’s doing to you but who craves it. Much like 1) it helps him think that you really are a complete slut who loves what he’s doing to you.

So whenever you’re about to say “I want X” say “I need X” instead.

Say things like “I need your cock in my ass/cunt/pussy” or “I need to be filled with your cock” or “I need to taste your cum”. I guarantee he’ll appreciate it.

3) Flatter him

We all like compliments. Men especially like them about their cocks. It doesn’t matter how big he is or isn’t, or how well he fucks. If you want to make him enjoy himself then compliment him.

Saying things like “your cock feels so big inside me”, “oh my god, I love your dick” or “I love it when you fuck me like this/do X to me” will help stroke his ego and make him enjoy using you more.

You can also extend this to praising whatever he’s doing. If he’s making you feel good then tell him how good it feels, moan like a slutty little whore as you tell him how amazing his cock feels inside you (this also has the advantage that it encourages him to keep doing something you’re enjoying). Or if he’s hurting you then praise that as well, let him know that you’re a filthy pain slut and what he’s doing “hurts so good”.

All of these will encourage him to double down on how he’s using you and bring him more pleasure. And since that’s the only thing that should matter to a good little whore then this is definitely something you need to do.

4) You love being degraded

This one’s simple. If you’re having the kind of sex where dirty talk makes sense then it’s already going to be at least a little degrading and you wouldn’t be having that kind of sex unless you enjoyed it (or hate it but are addicted to it).

So all you need to do is make it clear how much you enjoy (and need - remember that from earlier?) being degraded and used. This will help spur him on to use you remorselessly to satisfy his urges so if you’re craving being thoroughly fucked and used then this is the kind of dirty talking for you.

The simplest way to do this is just to ask him to do degrading things to you - or to keep doing the degrading things he’s already doing. Ask for things that humiliate and objectify you and tell him how much you love them. Say things like “I love being your worthless cum dump”, or “thank you for treating me like the pathetic fucktoy I am” or “please let me taste my ass on your cock” or “I love gagging on your thick cock”. Again, it doesn’t matter if you don’t actually like the kind of degradation you’re talking about or if he doesn’t actually do all the things you say you like when you’re dirty talking. What matters is that what you’re saying will put him in the mindset to use you the way he most enjoys and lets him know that you’re his dirty little toy for him to use. And, trust me, that’s the kind of thing that will thrill him and keep him coming back for more.

5) Repetition

There are some things in life where the same thing happening over and over again can be boring. This is not the case with fucking. If you love a particular position then you’re going to enjoy fucking more, not less, if that position is one you use every time you fuck.

Similarly for guys, if there’s a bit of dirty talk they like then hearing it on a regular basis will make fucking better, not boring. If there’s a particular genres of porn he likes then odds are he’ll usually watch porn in that genre. In the same way, if he likes his girl begging to taste his cum then odds are he’ll usually want her to say that every time he’s getting ready to cum in her mouth.

So if he gives a sign of liking something then continue on that theme. If he’s fucking your ass and you feel his cock twitch when you tell him you love being his ass slut then you’ve hit upon a topic that turns him on. So don’t just switch to something else, expand upon that theme. You’re not just his ass slut, you’re also his “filthy anal whore”, you need him to “ruin my ass with your huge cock” and you want him to “make me your anal slave” or any other variations on that theme you can think of. The same applies to any other topic he seems to like. Don’t just say something once, repeat yourself over and over again and embellish what you’re saying. Return to similar themes every time you fuck. If it ain’t broke then don’t fix it as they say. So once you’ve worked out what gets him going then there’s nothing wrong with repeating yourself - if he enjoys you telling him that you “love your cock destroying my throat” then, guess what, he’ll enjoy that every time you say it. So don’t overcomplicate things. If you’ve found something he enjoys then use it on a regular basis. It requires less imagination on your part and he’ll enjoy it more, not less. 6. Follow his lead

You’re not a mindreader so you won’t always know what a man likes. That’s why it’s important to pick up on the cues he gives you. In fact, this is one of the simplest ways to get into dirty talk if you’re new and nervous to the topic. Just wait for, and encourage him to say something dirty, then seize on that theme and build upon it. 9 times out of 10 if he says something to you then it’s because it’s something he’d enjoy hearing you say to him.

So if he says “you’re a dirty little slut aren’t you” then the wrong response is just to say “yes” and keep on fucking like nothing happened. The correct response is to say “mmm, yeah, I’m a dirty little slut”,” I’m a slutty whore who loves getting fucked”, “please fuck this dirty slut Sir”, “I’m your slut, I’m your dirty slut”, etc. You can very easily make him happy just by picking up on the hints he gives you and repeating back the things he says to you. In fact, if you do nothing else then just do this - because there’s nothing more frustrating than saying something dirty to a girl you’re fucking and her not embracing it and telling you the kind of things you’re hinting to her that you like. Conclusion

So there it is. Six instructions to follow to be a dirty talking slut who’ll drive wild any man fucking you. This guide is far from comprehensive and every man is different but if you follow what I’ve said then you shouldn’t go too far wrong no matter what. I hope you’ll find this guide useful on your way to becoming a better fucktoy and, as always, if you follow my advice in real life then I’d love to know how it works out for you.

Few Men want a girl who simply lays back and takes it, generally they want to know how much she loves every single thing he is doing to her.

Nice tips!!

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I’ve been asked many times what someone should look for when trying to find a good artist. The best way you can do this is to look at their portfolio, whether it’s in a book at their shop or online. If they don’t have good work in their portfolio, they’re probably not good artists.

The shop may be clean, the people there might be nice, and the design they draw up for you might be exactly what you want, but if your artist doesn’t stand up to the points listed above, then you’re going to get a bad tattoo.

It’s okay to walk into a shop, talk with an artist for a while, and decide you don’t want a tattoo from them. Even if the artist has a bad attitude about it or tries to convince you to just let them do it, remember this is going to be on your body for the rest of your life.

This is fucking fantastic thank you!!

LOL

We need HOAs or some idiots will paint their house purple or put tractor tires in their front yard.  If you want tractor tires, don’t move to a HOA neighborhood.

I couldn’t even fathom how horrifying it must be to live somewhere there are...purple houses and and yucky stuff in people’s yards. Thank God I don’t have any real problems like that.

listen my Nonna and Nonno live right by a purple house (it’s a nice lilac) and as a kid I was fucking obsessed with it because purple is my favorite color. I’d go nuts whenever we passed by it. Also it had a purple mailbox to match and it blew my mind.

No more HOAs. More purple houses.

imagine trying to control what someone else can do with or on their own property just because you don't agree with their taste in decor

NO MORE HOAs MORE PURPLE HOUSES

Related, becuase I just had to move:  “just don’t move into an HOA” Do you know what a PAIN IN THE ASS it is to find NON-HOA Housing? Very nearly everything in the CO front range that isn’t a rental has an HOA these days!

Short list of the Shit the HOA at my pervious house tried to pull:

  • Banning personal and community food gardens (The reason the tag for my garden is “The garden of earthly HOA violations”)
  • Banning people from using thier personal yards as Native Plant Restoration microzones, something that looks gorgeous and is extremely helpful to the local ecology
  • trying to get the city council to remove protections on adjacent city Open Space/Native Plant restoration zone so they could mow it.
  • mandating the use of ONE landscaping company in the neighborhood, coinicdentally owned by the HOA president’s son
  • Mandating the use of an unecessary water purification company on all properties.
  • suing city animal control for collecting lose dogs and cats and returning them to the addresses on thier collars.  You know. that thing animal control does so the animals don’t get run over or disemboweled by the coyotes or catch and spread rabies.  The thing that’s illegal to let your pet do out here for those reasons Karen.
  • Suing the city council to remove a city bus stop in the neighborhood that was heavily used by many residents.  They damn near got away with it becuase the HOA meetings were always in the middle of the day on a weekday.  You know, when the residents that use that stop are working.
  • Sending people letters threatening to fine them for having “Out Of Season” holiday decor.  Specifically targeting my Indian neighbors who were celebrating Diwali, not Christmas and the Jews with visible Menorahs.
  • Fining people for doing thier own appliance and car repair on thier own personal property
  • Fining people for operating a business out of thier house, specifically targeting a disabled neighbor that does comission tailoring and garment repair out of her home.  never bothered a soul except the one snoopy bitch who didn’t like that her clients were allowed to park in the tailor’s designated and otherwise unused parking space.
  • Trying to fine a neighbor for flying a Pride Flag

HOAs are invasive, bigoted, corrupt and cruel institutions that should never have been allowed to be created.  If you live in and HOA area, showing up at the meetings to tell people what the fuck is wrong with them, Joining your HOA board to protect your neighbors and possibly organize the dissolution of the HOA is one of the best things you can do to protect the marginalized members of your community.

FUCK HOAs AND LONG LIVE THE PURPLE HOUSES AND TRACTOR-TIRE GARDENS OF THE WORLD.

Are y'all telling me this shit is actually LEGAL?

Here’s how to get an HOA to leave you and your purple house tf alone

cant stop thinking about this post. 😔

direct action

HOAs, IN THEORY, could be such a force for public good, and that’s what’s maddening. Imagine if an HOA was like “well we’ve got all these houses and this one empty lot, pay your HOA dues and we can install a community food garden!” or “leave your contact information on the HOA residents-only webpage if you’re willing to be an after-school dropoff for children in our community who may not have a parent at home” or “hi, Sally, we’ve noticed your yard’s gone rather hogwild and things weren’t like that before your husband passed last year, do you need some help? We have some folks in the HOA who can help you with maintenance, no charge.”

Instead they choose isolation over community in the name of a unity that’s in image only, and that’s really, really sad.

Friend of mine bought a small house, an old one in an old neighborhood. She had no idea it was an HOA neighborhood until the day she moved in. They arrived with paperwork she "had" to sign or things would get "complicated", aka do this or we're gonna make life hell for you. She immediately told them no, she has no desire to be part of the HOA, and they about blew a gasket. Went from civil to wtf real quick. They tried sending her violation reports, demanded she pay fines, threatened her, etc. What they didn't know is she's petty and gives zero fucks. She also lives keeping paperwork nice and tidy.

Shit hit the fan when she installed a wall around her property. A 3 feet tall 2 foot wide wall around her yard. Topped with gorgeous iron work with sharp points that make climbing dangeous. Think Addams Family Lite. They tried to stop the construction because she was using the /wrong/ company (a mutual aid group she worked with). Send her fines and fees, and made the mistake of sending a copy of the HOA contract with a forged signature.

Ooooo...it got so ugly! She remembered the HOA post here about that happening to others and, well, the HOA broke up because of other fuckery on top of this. But it was mostly due to her dragging them in court for fraud, harassment, disturbing the peace, trespassing, stalking, and a few other things. She was petty about it too, looked into every fucking thing she could to destroy them.

I was informed that you not, in fact, obligated to sign the HOA contract. It's not a legal requirement. When you look for a home, make sure to ask about the possible HOAs, and look at the details of your homeowner's contract. Sometimes HOAs have that shit written into the purchase. If you see it, change the contract, put your initials and date in the changed sections, and see how the real estate agent handles in. This is legal, btw.

Don't sign the HOA contract, learn the laws regarding yard stuff (did you know you can apply to have your yard declared a wildlife reserve?), and be petty af when the nosy neighbors won't mind their business.

Fuck HOAs, long live the purple houses with the tractor tire garden!

Everyone knows about hypnotically induced mindlessness, but what about hypnotic mindfulness? Learn more, now, with FPPP's Scribbles:

So. A necessary ingredient to mindlessly, automagically falling into hypnotic suggestion is that your mind - outrageously wonderful and clever and incredible as it is - is able to handle all of that pesky listening and understanding and feeling without any conscious input on your part. You're just… not, right?

Great.

And that's fun, don't get me wrong, but now that you're freed up, it'd be a shame not to take advantage of your newfound availability. While the bit of your mind that handles idle concerns like phantom sensation and thought insertion, you can be focused whatever you - or you're partner, if you're a power exchanging type - want you to be.

Why not take the time to really appreciate the hypnotic technique you're normally too subject to to notice? Like wasn't that just such a lovely suggestion? Isn't it intoxicating how your body moves in response to it? And the way your voice sounds right now is so…

Or you can be a bit more active - not just focus, but purpose: your body's doing it's thing and some portion of you is being programmed but that doesn't mean you can't use the rest to play with your partner, or just chatter and give feedback, or even help! It might feel awfully nice knowing you're helping hypnotise you.

There's not a limit, and I really have to restrain myself from waxing too much on this or that example because they're all just so fun.

But before I leave it out, I want to draw attention to one last little benefit of hypnotic mindfulness:

By the time you're all hypnotised and happily here to see it, you'll know well enough just how well it all fits for you and how this cue or that method just… work. And you'll be excited and eager for it, anticipating it. Expecting it.

Expectation effects are a big deal, and watching yourself slip into your hypnotic pattern will make your confirmation bias will make it even stronger.

So stick around. Practice makes perfect, after all.

Apparently some people couldn't access the Neurodivergent Insights website on a recent post, so here's the graphs for those interested.

these are great charts but I wanted to correct some of the info on the schizophrenia vs autism chart. it lists repetitive behavior and echolalia as traits that don't appear in schizophrenia but this isn't true, both of those are schizophrenia symptoms. specifically, they're catatonic schizophrenia symptoms (but they can appear in other subtypes too)

(also op I know you didn't make them and are just sharing them but I felt like it's important to put this information out there)

Be careful with marijuana, bipolar, paranoid, and psychotic folks. You may not realize until you’re already in it, but marijuana can trigger psychotic episodes, paranoid episodes and make bipolar mania worse. There has been a fair amount of research on this and google is free. 

For only anxious/depressed folks, do whatever helps you. Just be aware the marijuana doesn’t help everybody and the persistent “Marijuana is Cool” culture can hurt people. 

also! if you’re on lamictal, pleeease be careful around marijuana since it has triggered seizures in folks on lamictal in the past!!

Shit this is extremely helpful to know. I’ve been put on Lamotrigine (Lamictal) since my last encounter with marijuana. Stay safe!

marijuana has a vasodilation effect meaning it expands or “dilates” blood vessels, which in turn lowers blood pressure, which in turn speeds up heart rate. people with anxiety, including myself, can sometimes suffer actual worsening of anxiety with marijuana due to the brain misinterpreting the physical effect. this has happened to me multiple times. I’ve had a friend go to the ER because her anxiety got so much worse after smoking weed that she thought she was having a heart attack. even if you only suffer from anxiety, be aware of the possible side effects weed can have.

As an ER doctor, I see patients with marijuana side effects fairly frequently. A lot of people don’t know that marijuana can trigger latent psychosis, schizophrenia, and bipolar disorder; even if you don’t have any symptoms of these conditions you might get them from using marijuana, and it can happen the first time or the hundredth time. If you have a close relative with any of these disorders, you have a particularly high risk of triggering them in yourself.

I know marijuana is a very popular drug, and for some people the effect of using it is worth the risk - after all, everything has a risk; I see patients who’ve been in traffic accidents every day too, or fallen off horses or bicycles, and most of them go right back to driving/biking/riding… People do things that might be a little bit dangerous because they consider the benefits worth the risk. But it’s important to educate yourself about the risk so you can make an informed decision. :)

If you do use marijuana and see a doctor for some reason, even unrelated, please tell us! We aren’t allowed to tell anyone else (breaching patient confidentiality will have our medical license revoked), and marijuana can interact with medication (as mentioned about Lamictal above), so it’s very important that we know it when treating you. :)

I am very serious if a game both negatively impact your mental health and is the source of all your joy, it means you have an addiction problem and you need to delete your account and uninstall it and cry for however many hours you need to get it out of your system.

Your lifeline CANNOT depend on a mobile game they're predatory as fuck.

I'm not here to be like mobile game bad evil. But if you love something, you need to 1) recognize it's flaws and 2) cultivate a healthy relationship with it.

Think of your hobbies as a relationship. If your friend is constantly trying to extort your money and is making you feel awful whenever you're not giving them your full attention or failed the tasks they gave you, then you probably wanna set some boundaries with that friend no matter how much you love them.

That's the boundaries you need to set with your mobile games.

If you don't wanna quit cold turkey here's what I suggest.

  1. Quit for a week. Deliberately break the habit and miss a event. Afterwards if you wanna go back, you still can.
  2. Get an app blocking app and control/monitor how many hours you spend on the game
  3. Get into a new interest or hobby with a friend. Can be a long running show or a hobby. Something that isn't addictive substance or gambling. Use that to distract yourself as you set your distance from the game.

Anti-addiction PSAs regarding mobile games always focus on how much money people are spending. And that's an adult problem. It's bad but it's not all of it.

Increasingly I am also seeing young people who doesn't spend a cent but has their mental health hanging on their performance/participation of these games. And you deserve to know that's also an addiction issue. Ultimately it's up to you how you choose to deal with it.

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Can I watch a great film knowing the actresses in it were terrorized and mistreated the entire time? Can I watch a football game knowing that the players are getting brain injuries right before my eyes? Can I listen to my favorite albums anymore knowing that the singers were all beating their wives in between studio sessions? Can I eat at the new fancy taco place knowing when the building that used to be there got bulldozed eight families got kicked out of their homes so they could be replaced with condos and a chain restaurant? Can I wear the affordable clothes I bought downtown that were probably assembled in a sweatshop with child labor? Can I eat quinoa? Can I eat this burger? Can I drink this bottled water? Can I buy a car and drive to work because I’m sick of taking an hour each way on the subway? Whose bones do I stand on? Whose bones am I standing on right now? 

On one hand, it’s a privilege to be able to choose to acknowledge these horrors or not–we’re going to acknowledge that privilege. On the other hand, I once attended a lecture by the explorerer-conservationist Jacques-Yves Cousteau’s daughter and son and they had a lot of opinions about what we could do to help the environment and the ocean and I talked about how in my country, we have to drink bottled water, because it’s a desert and there’s only salt water all around, but we’re contributing to pollution and all of these things…

And she looked at me and told me not to fall into the trap of “activist guilt.” I couldn’t remember the exact words, but, it was the first time I’d heard the term and it took a weight off my shoulders.

We do what we can. It’s so much better than giving up entirely or not doing anything at all because we can’t do it perfectly. It doesn’t benefit anyone in the end if we just sit around feeling guilty about every little thing in life. I’d just joined tumblr back then (haha, so like, eight or nine years ago at this point?), I was being exposed to way more than I’d ever been before (I was previously just into feminism and animal rights/wildlife conservation/environmentalism since I was a kid), and it was weighing on me.

As long as humans are humans and living flawed lives, many consumed by greed, there will not be anything in this world untouched by evil.

I usually avoid stuff that says it was made in China or other cheap looking knockoffs, out of fear of them being made in sweatshops (now, I know even a lot of big brands use those…), it’s exhausting. Then, I read something about how people who actually lived and worked in those would still buy this cheap stuff and how this shocked the foreigner reporting on it, but they just looked confused like, it’s what they can afford and them avoiding consuming it isn’t going to change the whole system from the ground-up.

… it went on about how “money talks” and choosing where to put your money still feeds the whole capitalist system and is nearly a way of comforting yourself, but you not buying doesn’t mean everyone else isn’t. What needs to be tackled is at a much higher level than any of us can reach.

Of course, I’d still, given the choice, give my money to companies I agree with and I’ll boycott what I know to support awful stuff, but I also feel no superiority over this and know now it’s not as black and white or easy as I thought it was.

This is the same reason that moral purity “you can’t enjoy [x] because it’s Problematic ™” is such nonsense, because nothing is pure. There’s something bad about everything if you dig deep enough. As long as we lived in flawed human societies we’ve got to make the best of what they offer us. If you have the choice and means, please, do support those who do good, but also, don’t beat yourself up over not living up to an unattainable ideal.

No one can. You’ll just make yourself so miserable, you either burn up and stop fighting entirely or you’ll make yourself a non-productive, depressed heap just out of a bleeding heart left unchecked. You can’t make a change to this world if you refuse to engage in it.

Purity is one of the worst, most harmful myths humans ever invented.

Rebloging for this amazing reply telling us how to actually handle this, because yeah, sometimes I’ll simply shut down trying to find something that doesn’t cause harm to anyone

“You don’t have to figure everything out today. You don’t have to solve your whole life tonight. And you don’t have to tackle everything at once. You just have to show up and try. You just have to focus on the most immediate thing in front of you. And you have to trust that you’ll figure out the rest along the way.”

— Daniell Koepke

I hate Nintendo Switch Online. I hate the lack of optimization. I hate the expensive subscription service. I hate the lack of games. I hate the limited time releases. I hate that it's never gonna have the level of content that the Wii virtual console had. I hate what capitalism has done to gaming.

This collection includes: All the GBA, GB and GBC games currently available on the Switch!!

+ And a few extra bonus!! Mostly from the same series'seses

They're all ready to be played in HD on PC. Just drag and drop the files on the included program

Target audience right here!! The joy of gaming and sharing it with others is the reason i post and i made this blog. Enjoy the Kirbyses very much, and do remember to support the official release whenever possible

Hypnotic safety tip #4

Remind yourself that you are not at fault when boundaries get crossed.

It's important to know in your head and heart you are not responsible for what happened, rather than spiral in self-hate when you get hurt.

I've not been in the best headspace the past month. I can be over confident in the safeties that I've set up in my head. I've been doing hypnosis for nearly ten years. I'm comfortable in my own skin. I know what I want. I know what I don't want. I write inductions, hypnokink fantasies, or random blurting thoughts that connect with hypno kinksters a like.

Doesn't matter, in the end, even the confident ones end up becoming prey. The past few weeks I've been kicking myself that I should have known better. I went through similar experiences before - why did I let it happen again. Why did I once again put myself in a position where a boundary was crossed and violations were made.

I feel raw. I feel dirty. I feel betrayed by them and by myself. I guess I'm writing this because I want to let others, including me, know that its not your fault when this happens.

They have free will.

They have intentions.

They are in control of their actions.

The guilt. The negative that...that comes from a place of pain and hurt. Forgive to heal your own heart. Block out negative talk. Know in your soul that you are brave for overcoming and not guilty of any action.

You matter.

Anonymous asked:

(Not the original anon) I was also confused on what you meant by not asking your sub for their safeties, and I'm still not tracking even after your recent explanation. I'm autistic, so bear with me, because I really, really want to make sure I understand what you're saying:

When you say "safeties", you're not talking about safewords, right? You're not talking about the words a sub (or anyone, really) can use to indicate they need to stop a scene?

You're talking about like... some people auto-snap out of trance if their boundaries or limits have been crossed, but not everyone is able to do that, so people often self-hypnotize or find files that install the internal dialogue that happens to help someone pull themselves out of trance? Or am I totally missing it, and there's something else entirely?

And does this mean that you shouldn't, at all, inform the Tist (if you're a sub) that you have A Method (vague, no further elaboration) to make sure you can indicate if you're uncomfortable or come out of trance? Because I personally like doing this, it assures my Tist that I'm a sub with good boundaries and I intend to communicate so that they're not left guessing about my comfort level (though they should also be checking in, but things are smoother if both contribute).

I’m on my phone so I apologize if I don’t capture all of this. Great questions, you don’t have to apologize.

Example situation. I tell my tist I’m not comfortable with humiliation talk - that’s my limit. We discuss this before trance. That would be my limits and boundaries.

A safety is a trigger I created for myself or with the help of a friend I trust where I wake up from trance. So if I get degraded - I wake up. I will then talk to my tist.

Why you keep your safeties to yourself is because people abuse them. I count up typing when I wake up. 12345 up up up or some version of that. I had a tist try and make a trigger “whenever you count up you find yourself going deeper. Up or down numbers drop you deeper” that’s an example of why telling someone your safeties are dangerous.

Always discuss limits and boundaries. Discuss why you woke up from a safety.

My rule of thumb is if I have three conversations after my safety was triggered I block immediately. We can’t expect people to be mind readers but a repeated pattern of working around what you are comfortable with is very dangerous.

It’s not about being a good sub for them. It’s about you two mutually having a good experience exploring your kink.

Hope this helps

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