it’s 2023. mcr is back. fob is back. the somehow-still-moving corpse clinging to the name “panic! at the disco” is gone. nature is healing. life is good

This is the second time an emo band has ended after a fall out boy return.....

How the fuck do you disband a band with 1 member

— sissydyke by @poemtrans

@gay-otlc i saw you getting some multigender poetry via anon so thought you might be interested in this

can't stop thinking about this

(Seen on FB)

RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE. 

When I was at one of my lowest (mental) points in life, I couldn’t get out of bed some days. I had no energy or motivation and was barely getting by.

I had therapy once per week, and on this particular week I didn’t have much to ‘bring’ to the session. He asked how my week was and I really had nothing to say.

“What are you struggling with?” he asked.

I gestured around me and said “I dunno man. Life.”

Not satisfied with my answer, he said “No, what exactly are you worried about right now? What feels overwhelming? When you go home after this session, what issue will be staring at you?”

I knew the answer, but it was so ridiculous that I didn’t want to say it.

I wanted to have something more substantial.

Something more profound.

But I didn’t.

So I told him, “Honestly? The dishes. It’s stupid, I know, but the more I look at them the more I CAN’T do them because I’ll have to scrub them before I put them in the dishwasher, because the dishwasher sucks, and I just can’t stand and scrub the dishes.”

I felt like an idiot even saying it.

What kind of grown ass woman is undone by a stack of dishes? There are people out there with *actual* problems, and I’m whining to my therapist about dishes?

But my therapist nodded in understanding and then said:

“RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE.”

I began to tell him that you’re not supposed to, but he stopped me.

“Why the hell aren’t you supposed to? If you don’t want to scrub the dishes and your dishwasher sucks, run it twice. Run it three times, who cares?! Rules do not exist, so stop giving yourself rules.”

It blew my mind in a way that I don’t think I can properly express.

That day, I went home and tossed my smelly dishes haphazardly into the dishwasher and ran it three times.

I felt like I had conquered a dragon.

The next day, I took a shower lying down.

A few days later. I folded my laundry and put them wherever the fuck they fit.

There were no longer arbitrary rules I had to follow, and it gave me the freedom to make accomplishments again.

Now that I’m in a healthier place, I rinse off my dishes and put them in the dishwasher properly. I shower standing up. I sort my laundry.

But at a time when living was a struggle instead of a blessing, I learned an incredibly important lesson:

THERE ARE NO RULES.

RUN THE DISHWASHER TWICE!!!

(by Kate Scott 2018)

This reminds me of several other posts.

One is where the person said they weren’t eating because they so depressed that even making a sandwich took too much energy.  So their therapist told them

“If you don’t have energy to make a sandwich, just eat all the individual sandwich ingredients separately.” 

.

And one where the person didn’t eat breakfast because they had some kind of trauma around breakfast food. So the therapist was like

“eat non-breakfast food at breakfast time.”

.

And one where the woman was always paranoid that her straightened would burn down her house while she was at work. It would cause her to panic all day and not focus so her therapist told her

“put the straightener in you bag and bring it to work with you that way you wont have to be paranoid about it..” 

.

We really do make our lives harder with arbitrary social rules. 

fr young transmascs if you come out or start transitioning (esp medically), and people start expecting you to do things to "make up" for being a man/"gaining male privilege", if they start accusing you of mansplaining out of nowhere, if they start viewing you as "gross" and "dirty", if they start treating you like you are uncontrollably angry or sexually predatory, if they belittle manhood as a gender and treat men as lesser beings even if you tell them it makes you uncomfortable, in general if they start treating you like a different human being for being noticeably male, run.

the same goes for if they try to avoid using masculine pronouns or words for you, discouraging you from dressing masculine, trying to get you to doubt your own understanding of your gender, run. Kick them in the teeth. You do not deserve this abusive behavior. Drop them if you can, and try to find a better circle- ideally one that has some other transmascs in it.

I see a lot of really nice posts about feminine trans boys, and I want to make one for tomboyish trans girls:

masculine trans girls are as beautiful as they want to be. beauty isn’t everyone’s goal. if cis girls are allowed to wear baseball caps and jerseys and jeans, so are trans girls. short or buzzed hair doesn’t stop you from being a girl. it’s cool to be a cis tomboy, which means it’s cool to be a trans tomboy. anyone who says you’ve gotta be hyper-feminine to affirm your gender? they can go get fucked. you don’t have to conform to gender roles. you don’t have to be beautiful. you are you, and you are a wonderful woman.

@chocolatefrostingenjoyer

latina best friends: we’re cousins

Desi family friends who don’t wanna explain the relationship to anyone non poc: we’re cousins

Arab person about the children of people their parents grew up with in the home country: we’re cousins

black people to someone you met who comes to all the family get togethers now: we’re cousins

white couples: we’re cousins

ASDFHDHSYDNWBCJJC

White couple making Folgers Coffee: We’re Siblings.

Gc2b Binders No Longer Reputable

I've been away, so y'all may already be very aware of this, but I want to make sure it's stated on this blog because it's been The Brand for yeeeaaars: the quality of gc2b binders has been going downhill the past few years. People who bought from them prior and recently can attest to how poor the quality has become. The binders are just not the same. The material isn't comfortable and, more importantly, the fit just isn't good. People who've tried recent gc2b binders, even those who've been binding for years, are suffering from back and muscle pain, stiff shoulders, soreness, etc. regardless of fit. The material just doesn't seem to be suitable for binding anymore. It is also degrading really quickly and binders are wearing out in a matter of months. It is no longer worth it to buy from gc2b.

If you want some sources on this, check out the reviews here on trustpilot with people talking about this.

You'll want to keep your eye on brands that are still doing good work: Spectrum Outfitters (UK), For Them (seems to be a hate it or love it company; I know some who swear by them and others who feel they dont' really sell actual binders - just sports bras/lighter compression tops), Shapeshifters (good custom work and larger sizing), and Underworks (best budget brand).

Reminder that transmascs who are very feminine, transfems who are very masculine, and non-binary people who aren’t androgynous at all still deserve their pronouns to be respected.

Presentation does not equal pronouns or gender identity, and this especially goes for people who choose to be gender non-conforming.

Be respectful, ask for pronouns even if you’re 100% sure, you may be surprised.

ppl who oppose gender affirming care for kids are nuts like the extent of medical intervention for trans kids is maybe puberty blockers but they’ll still be like “SO UR SAYING WE SHOULD LET TODDLERS HAVE TOP SURGERY???????” barbara toddlers do not have a top to surgery

Saw someone asking "so do you endorse giving puberty blockers to five year olds?"

Friend, a five year old should not have puberty to block. If they do that's called precocious puberty and is the original reason puberty blockers were invented. If a five year old is going through puberty I absolutely endorse them being given puberty blockers

Benoit Blanc is trans

Exhibit A:

I rest my case

Exhibit B

I had to steal these from a d*ily m*il article but AG has released a book promoting body diversity and love, which includes parts supporting trans kids!

Conservatives are ofc throwing a fit rn– so over here in our trans-inclusive space, let’s show overwhelming support for this book! Esp with the recent h*rry p*tter collab, let’s show AG that we want them to continue supporting ALL women!