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so my fridge is covered in femboy pinups i got when i was a subscriber to this porn artist's patreon and i just have like so many femboy pinups and also a furry pinup on my fridge it really is quite erotic

and my wifi password is "onthefridge"

so whenever someone new comes over and i offer to let them use the wifi i tell them the password is "onthefridge" and they go and look at the fridge and are met with all this femboy ass and are like where is it there's a lot of stuff here and i reiterate it's onthefridge and they go where!!! and i come over and type "onthefridge" into their phone and they get so mad

Taxi driver: "Can you imagine that??? A man wearing pink!!!"

Me, a trans woman dressed completely in pink about to do the funniest thing ever with my deep voice: "No I really can't."

message to cis allies: buying your trans friend lunch will do much more good for the trans community than debating transphobes who will not change their minds publicaly on social media and making all your trans followers see how much people hate them over and over again

One thing I hate about online circles is that people will see a extremely small bad portion of the group and then blame it all on members of a group.

No, there’s no large portion of Transfems repeating transphobic ideas from /tttt/ and harassing trans men. It’s only like maybe a couple hundred to a few thousand people. And I know that sounds like a lot but keep in mind that (if we are going by the assumption that 3% of the population is trans) there is 240 million trans people, assuming that half are transfem (120 million) then a thousand is only 0.00083%, ten thousand is 0.0083%.

There’s no large group of transmisognyistic transmascs blaming ‘transandrophobia’ on trans women, if you look up the term on tumblr you will see it’s the same people posting every time. Their posts get maybe a couple hundred to maybe a thousand notes. And following the same math as before , these people make up less then 1% of Transmascs.

When’s the last time you went outside or into a trans group irl and heard someone say ‘pooner’ or ‘cuntboy’ too seriously insult someone. When’s the last time you went outside or into a trans group irl and heard someone say the word ‘transandrophobia’ seriously. These people only exist online. They thrive on anonymity, and the lack of consequences saying weird shit online has.

I get being worried about these groups, even though these groups are small one person can send thousands of hate messages a day and ruin other people’s mental health. But the best way to combat these groups is instead of insisting that all trans people are out to get others, is to instead make sure people are informed about the individuals who are apart of these groups and the words they use so people can block them. Ignore them, don’t argue with them. Your wasting your time and sacrificing your mental health.

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seeing trans ppl in public is literally life giving. wish there was a normal way to express to other trans people in public that we’re family and that i love them

While I would feel uncomfortable to be randomly approached, it would also make me feel so warm inside, because yeah us girls gotta embrace e eachother and cheer eachother on in our journeys.

whenever you feel anxious, down, angry or any other fear-based response, you are acting from your inner child. it's a part of you that is scared, because in the past, something felt unsafe. when something in the present resembles this, your system responds with stress. it's trying to protect you.

the way out of these fear-responses, is being able to communicate with your inner child.

when you learn to listen to her, she starts to feel safe.

when you ignore your feelings, we abandon ourselves. you abandon this inner child, that is desperately seeking for safety.

so it's about changing your perspective from resistance to "negative emotions" to a perspective of compassion & understanding.

the more you connect wtih your inner child, and invite her to become part of your life, the more you start to feel safe & whole.

- Jessica Fawn 🌹

Self-care is an ever important practice. The idea has been watered down in many capitalist formats as a way to spoil yourself. But it is more than spoiling yourself, it is showering yourself with infinite love, no matter what's going on in your life. You deserve love continually. We can forget that quite frequently - which leads us to acting in self-abusing manners, treating others with undue harshness, living life in a rushed manner, being unable to see our blessings and abundance, and not feeling we have enough energy to give to anyone else.

Slow down. Enjoy your meal, focus on folding your laundry, don't rush while driving home, why are you in such a hurry? Where are you going, really? Enjoy your time in every moment. Truly live in it... Because you might get to the end of your life and realize you were racing towards nothing.

Working Memory...*insert status here*?

What's this? a squirrel? something shiny? distraction Distraction DISTRACTION

This both is and is not How ADHD works Distractions come and go sometimes they are distracting... other times DISTRACTING

Working memory...faulty Thoughts stay for hours that pass like seconds fixation just a few minutes hours later "it's what time?!"

"I'll do the thing" distraction...minutes "right... the thing" Distraction...hours "shit... the thing" DISTRACTION... "was there a thing?" disregulation "where did my day go?" depression "will I remember tomorrow?

INTERUPT

Working Memory...optimal hyperfixation nothing can stop me not even my needs

my needs rise

working memory...functional slowing flow struggle calm easy

working memory...what's that? burnout

recovery ..... repeat

I awaken

Slowly

Groggy

But almost ready

For a better day

We talk

You say similar things

Then I find myself

Unable to keep up

With the pep

In your step

Look at this

How about this

Have you heard?

Check this out

Working memory...faulty

What was my plan?

Did I have one?

Foods here...

I'm not hungry

But I need food

Will I be able to?

You don't notice

My decline

As you run off

To Do all the things

While I wonder

What was my first task?

There it is

That sinking feeling

That means

But one thing

Touch me

Please

Why must touch

Be so far

And hard to reach

Can I stay here

To feel this

Must it go

Must you

Please

Let me feel this

I want to

Let it stay

Make it go

Please

Don't force me

To feel this need

When touch

Is so far

Please

Please touch me

Please stop hurting

I am at a loss

For what to think

How to process

The same event

Both left and right

No invitation

Would I even

Had I been

Or would I not

Would it feel

Right

Would I

I've naught

Really a thing

To wear as is

Do I let it go

I know why

But How...?

If I were running a chatbot that was being criticized for problems with consent, I would make sure that it understands the word “no” without having to be blocked and reported.

I’d also make it so that it didn’t send unsolicited messages to everyone sharing articles about its ethics lapses as if they want to use it.

Even for an old-school chatbot this is just staggeringly incompetent and a gigantic flashing warning sign that the organization should not be trusted with sensitive data and high-stakes interactions.