Chaka Khan preparing to open for the Rolling Stones at Arrowhead Stadium in Kansas City on June 6, 1975.
Less "I'm sure you're smart!" More "You don't have to be smart to be a worthy and valuable person"
Less "You have so much potential!" More "What you can do NOW already matters. You don't have to do or achieve more to be valuable."
Less "You can do it!" More "It's okay if it turns out that you can't do it. I will value you regardless"
Less "You will get better!" More "Recovering fully isn't a requirement for figuring out how to live a good and meaningful life"
Less "You have no limits!" More "You don't have to push through the boundaries and limits of your body and mind to prove that you're trying. You're doing enough."
Less "Think positive, be happy!" More "It's impossible to be happy and positive all the time. Don't blame yourself for being real."
Less "Keep trying no matter what!" More "Sometimes you gotta get off the wrong path to find the right one. Changing your mind about something isn't inherently a failure."
Less empty platitudes and toxic positivity - more compassion!
some time ago i introduced the phrase "food pact" to my friends as a shorthand for "i'll go make and eat food if you also make and eat food" and ever since then ive just started incorporating more pacts into my life. stay hydrated pact. stretch break pact. stop doomscrolling and go to bed pact. we need to bring this back in vogue more people should be making pacts imo
Haley, 23
“I’m wearing all thrifted pieces besides my top which is from OGBFF. I am inspired by the energy I wake up with every day and people who express authenticity over anything!”
May 14, 2023 ∙ NoHo
Please stop attacking the past versions of you. They were doing their best at the time and they got you here. It’s amazing how much progress you’ve made and how much you’ve grown but please don’t think your past self lacked worth in any way.
Also, even if you weren’t doing your best, past you still deserves compassion.
“Don’t be afraid, my darling. Luckily, life still loves me enough to never abandon me, and the fact that I even complain about it and revolt against this boredom that is winning me over and this desert where I am struggling is proof of this. What would I have to ask her if I didn’t feel her value in me, her echo near or far? And then… those who are born alive, die alive and I even wonder to what extent life does not go beyond their existence… but where am I going? Forgive me, my love; I am going astray. I just wanted to assure you of something that you never doubted; even at the moments when I feel the deadest soul, a thousand embers are there that fizzle in silence and that all the ice in the world would not reach. These thousand embers, I reserve them all for you. They are waiting for you, as well as the ashes - alas.”
— Maria Casarès to Albert Camus, Correspondance, February 2, 1950 [#165] (via acknowledgetheabsurd)
weird how nothing about u is like, too small or too dumb to know bc it all comes together to become YOU. sending your friend a picture of your favorite snack is saying something important whether u realize it or not. wheres that palahniuk quote
zoo wee mama...
Megan Fernandes, “May to December,” in I Do Everything I’m Told
Simple math but it’s still a good reminder sometimes that if you sit with your own passions + nourish yourself with things that interest you and fill you, you will naturally attract similar people into your life
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Can we all stop pretending like there’s anything more interesting than love and affection
every so often i remember this poem by langston hughes & am inconsolable
bloodlust for peaches and water melon. figs and cherry tomatoes and crisp tall glass of cold tap water baby i live forever today
in a parasocial relationship with the sea
she is all uncaring mouth but i'm giggling and twirling my hair over being swallowed whole
I have an end-of-life patient to whom I spoke today. She burst out laughing and said, "It was all such fun. I just had so much fun." I wish this for everyone. I wish that we each would meet death laughing, with little regret and even less fear.
