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Some interesting stats from a survey taken from this article:

This is what Bisexuals mean by Pansexuality perpetrated harmful stereotypes that affect us IRL & how we’re seen in the community. I found this on Twitter and had to share.

You linked the wrong article; this one has the survey in it.

My bad sorry! I found it on twitter & someone there linked it. I didn’t expect so many notes on this either 😳.

Reclining Nude, 1935, Zinaida Serebriakova

Not discounting the possibility of him having internalized homophobia or whatever, but I can't see how this viewpoint would actually hold up at all. People have sex all the time without sexual attraction. Just look at lesbians who had been in relationships with men before realizing they were lesbians. Them having had sex with a man doesn't negate the fact that they aren't attracted to men.

How is a lesbian sleeping with a man before she realises she's gay the same thing as a "straight" man actively choosing to seek out and have sex with men weekly

There are plenty of straight men who go through dry spells and still don’t feel the urge or sexual need to pull another man to fill the gap. That’s why sex work is a thing lol, actions speak louder than words. Or this guy has a sexual problem, maybe an addiction or smth.

Greg Ellis is an MRA who sent revenge porn of his wife to coworkers and is permanently barred from seeing his children

Your daily reminder that bi lesbians don’t exist, they literally cannot exist as it’s impossible. If you like men as well as women you’re bisexual. Lesbian literally means no attraction to men. Anyone genuinely using that label is a massive lesbophobe AND biphobe and it doesn’t make you an exclusionist???? To say that???? Saying that lesbians can be attracted to men is incredibly???????? lesbophobic? (And you fuckers who say well what about trans women are being majorly transphobic and you should drop dead)

Like u guys for real took a terf identity (febfem) and were like “oh cool lemme rebrand this rq.”

“Wuhhhh lesbian used to just mean woman who loved other women.” Yeah USED TO dumbass. I want you to go and speak to real lesbians in real life and tell them that lesbians are okay with fucking men and I hope you get clocked.

You can all die mad and lesbophobic and biphobic. I said what I said.

this is so so important to me and mine, and I'm asking you to Do Something so I'll respect your time and keep it brief

in the UK, if 100k sign a a government petition it will be brought to Parliament and debated. y'all know this country is suffering from some 80s-style bigotry right now, and this is one symptom: almost 200k fuckholes have come together to force the government to discuss whether it is 'appropriate' to tell children that queer people exist. this is a big symbolic victory for them. and i am burning with fury.

please, if you're from the UK, sign this counter-petition so they can at least see how much of a minority they are. simply put, the attempt to put these bastards in their place isn't gathering enough steam. there are barely 2000 more signatures now than there were this morning (27th January 2023), and that isn't enough. i refuse to let these people feel even a moment of victory or satisfaction. please help.

LGBT infighting is so ridiculous when you apply it to real world situations. Imagine if a queer person was being harassed on the street and someone went, "IDK. They're (insert "problematic" identity here) so I don't want to help them :/" like who is this helping? How is this worth your time? We are family. Get it together.

Ok but no one is doing that so

Why do people create fictional scenarios that will never happen and then proceed to get mad at them

💜PLEASE BOOST!!! A SEXUAL ASSAULT SURVIVOR NEEDS A MIRACLE.💜

Got a terf in my sideblog and the reply is not worth deigning with a response but the pinned post?

This? This is a trap. This is concern baiting. Be very sure that shit like this is not in your best interest and does not care about you. The goal of rhetoric like this is conversion.

You’ll be welcomed and asked to ignore transphobia. You will be asked to side with transphobes at the expense of trans women. Eventually, you’ll be asked to see that, hey, maybe you transitioned to escape how terrible it is to be a woman?

This may seem obviously a trap but I see people every day buy into this. People like this do not care about you! They want to “rescue” you and don’t let them convince you otherwise.

Hey this one got the terfs pissy so like. To say again. Clearly if they’re mad about this, this post hit on something. Maybe reblog it?

something i like about pansexuals is they’ll say the bi flag is bad because it’s “blue for boy pink for girl” when the pan flag is literally “blue for boy pink for girl yellow for the well known homogenous third gender, nonbinary.” and the creator of it literally states this publicly as well as saying they made the pan flag out of a desire to have “something pretty to put on their blog.”

also you can do one google search and less than a minute of reading to find that this was literally never true of the bi flag! though it was created in a time where your average person was less understanding of complex gender identity, the meanings were ALWAYS pink for same/similar gender attraction, blue for “opposite” gender attraction, and purple for attraction regardless of gender. in a modern context this pre-established meaning has evolved to be more inclusive as it ALWAYS WAS, even if we did not have the language to express HOW at that time. misconceptions around bisexuality are based on assumption basically 100% of the time because i guess doing your own research for like ten minutes in this era of information easily accessible to a vast majority of the western community is just too hard for you. lol.

A few weeks ago my mom stapled pages of a story in one of her women’s magazines together and handed it to me. She gave it to me pretty much with the tag lines “for your feminist blog” and “something new to consider.” Indeed it was; she knows me well.

The story is titled “I was forced to be pregnant.” With a title like that, reading it was actually not on the top of my to read list. I thought it was about women not exercising their right to choice. I was very, very wrong on that one.

Have you ever heard of Reproductive coercion? It is a term that was quite recently coined by the advocates against domestic violence to describe a certain type of abuse some women face. It occurs when a man pressures their partner to have kids and/or impregnates them against their will. Reproductive coercion comes in three different types: 1. Emotional pressure that turns into verbal and physical abuse. 2. Sabotaging birth control 3. Marital rape Over 75% of women 19-49 who reported once experiencing domestic violence also endured some type of reproductive control by men. It’s all about control and domination over a woman’s body.

The first story in the magazine is about a woman who got married around 36 years of age. After a few months of dating her boyfriend talked excitedly about having children. After he proposed he began calling her “The Babymaker.” She then confided with him that one of her fallopian tubes was blocked. He in return insisted she see a fertility doctor. She recounts, “I had finally met a great guy who was eager to start a family with me. What woman wouldn’t fall for that?” Soon after her honeymoon he persisted on in an obsessive manner, but his efforts had to be temporarily halted as she had to get emergency back surgery. Alas, 6 months into recovery he was back to pressuring her again. She was in much pain at the time due to her back, but she agreed to In Vitro Fertilization. She then became pregnant, but soon miscarried. In response, her husband grabbed her by the neck, choking her. He apologized, blaming his outburst on his grief and had her sign up for another round of IVF. And then a third round. She tried to put him off with the excuse that she needed to weigh more before she could take treatments, her husband forced her to get on the scale often and filled the fridge with fattening foods. “It hurt that all I was good for was getting pregnant.” She recounts. At the end, he screamed at her, threatening to replace her with a maid if she couldn’t get pregnant and she told him she no longer wanted to have his child. He destroyed bedroom furniture, pushed her down the stairs and threatened her with a gun. She fled to a domestic violence shelter.

The second story was about a woman who faced marital rape. This woman was 40, had a then boyfriend and two children from a previous marriage. After telling her boyfriend she did not want any more children, her boyfriend refused to wear a condom and began to rape her.  She then became pregnant with her third child. Birth control was never an option for her because she couldn’t hide pills anywhere for he went through all of her belongings. Three months after giving birth, he raped her again, impregnating her with twins. She lost the twins in a physical fight with him, but soon became pregnant again. During her recovery she begged her obstetrician to remove her ovaries and devise a lie to tell him; that she had cancer. After a decade of sexual abuse and violence she was able to get a job that kept her out of the house and often times traveling.

One in four callers to the National Domestic Abuse hotline said that their partners had tried to force them to become pregnant. Why? As one woman stated, “Its like he wants to own me from the inside out.”  Having a baby is the perfect tie that binds. These type of abusers want to create a circumstance in which their partner is dependent on him.

WHAT’S THAT HAVE TO DO WITH PLANNED PARENTHOOD?

Many voters never consider how defunding these clinics could hurt victims of domestic violence who turn to them for counseling as well as pregnancy prevention. Abused women will turn to health care providers long before they will turn to domestic abuse hotlines and organizations. Many women in abusive relationships rely on life saving, affordable care programs such as Title X. It is critical that such places are open and operation when women and children need them so desperately.

tw: abuse, rape, domestic violence

holy fuck im crying.

I know I’ve told this story before, but my abusive ex refused to let me take birth control.  I was on the pill until he found them in my purse. 

I went to the Student Health Center—they were completely unhelpful, choosing to lecture me about the importance of safe sex (recommending condoms) instead of actually listening to my problem.

Then I went to Planned Parenthood. The Nurse Practitioner took one look at my fading bruises and stopped the exam. She called in the doctor. The doctor came in and simply asked me: “Are you ready to leave him?” When I denied that I was being abused, she didn’t argue with me. She just asked me what I needed. I said I need a birth control method that my boyfriend couldn’t detect. She recommended a few options and we decided on Depo. 

When I told her that my boyfriend read my emails and listened to my phone messages and was known to follow me, she suggested to do the Depo injections at off hours when the clinic was normally closed. She made a note in my chart and instructed the front desk never to leave messages for me—instead, she programmed her personal cell phone number into my phone under the name “Nora”. She told me she would call me to schedule my appointments; she wouldn’t leave a message, but I should call her back when I was able to.

And that was it. No judgment. No lecture. She walked me to the door and told me to call her day or night if I needed anything. That she lived 5 blocks from campus and would come get me. That I wasn’t alone. That she just wanted me to be safe.

I never called her to come to my rescue. But I have no doubt that she would have come if I had called. She kept me on Depo for a year, giving me those monthly injections in secret, helping me prevent a desperately unwanted pregnancy. 

I cannot thank Planned Parenthood enough for the work they do.

If you can read this, and still think there is no situation in which a woman should have access to safe abortions, basically you’re saying that you value women as little as the abusive assholes in these personal, true stories did. That you’d rather have a woman die at the hands of her abuser than terminate a pregnancy, and that you’d rather have numerous children born into a dangerous, damaging, terrifying home than allow a woman to have control over her own body and her own reproductive choices.

There's no way to make rape a job. Being raped isn't work. Filming it does not make it work. Being raped is not labor.

Money is power. Using power to get sex is rape. Porn is rape on tape.

"Under capitalism all labor is coerced!" Yes, and what do you call coerced sex? That's rape.

If you don't want to have the sex itself, you only want the money, you're being raped. If you dissociate and go somewhere else mentally, you're being raped. If you need cocaine or other drugs to get through a scene, you're being raped.

Prostitution is rape. Filmed Prostitution is still rape.

Jacking off to rape desensitizes you.

Oh so now the crossdressing moid who makes YouTube shipping videos for children’s cartoon shows is now some “expert” on how porn ACTUALLY doesn’t harm women and children? Shut the fuck up, male

"Radfems will sometimes say something that almost makes sense like 'women don't deserve to be raped on camera in order to eat,' but what they REALLY mean is 'we refuse to put male desire or priorities ahead of women being exploited' 🥺"

This is such a fucking false equivalence I don't even know where to start. The way this is phrased perfectly encapsulates why the radfem arguments around sex work don't make sense because you're right, all labor is coerced under capitalism. And yet, when people discuss other forms of labor, they never suggest that a particular form of labor should be outright banned in the short term.

You could argue that restaurants and coffee shops and theme parks are just as unnecessary to the functioning of society as sex work. Plenty of people have been traumatized by workplace injuries and customer or management abuse working at these places. And yet no one ever says we should make restaurants or coffee shops or theme parks illegal. For all of these jobs, leftists generally agree that the solution is worker control and removing the threat of homelessness and starvation. Because if the workers own the means of production (or at the very least have a strong union) and have a social safety net in place to prevent them from dying on the street if they lose their job, suddenly the fact that they're getting paid to do something isn't so coercive anymore!

And YET radfems never apply the same logic to sex work! The possibility that sex workers could have a union or own their own materials or that if we had a functioning social safety net people wouldn't be forced to do sex work they didn't want to never crosses these people's minds!!!

And the reason for that is not because sex work is uniquely evil and traumatizing, it's because they think sex itself is uniquely evil and traumatizing, which is just blatantly untrue for the vast majority of the population.

Criminalization is not the solution. It does not solve the core problem (late stage capitalism) and in fact it creates a new one. Because, as we've learned from Prohibition and the War on Drugs, outlawing a vice industry does not kill the vice industry, it just pushes it underground and makes it way more dangerous for all involved. Even if you reply to all my earlier points with "yeah good luck dismantling capitalism" or whatever, legalized or decriminalized sex work, in the short term, is dramatically better for sex workers (the people radfems allegedly want to protect) than making the industry fully illegal. Literally any prostitute will tell you that their lives would be dramatically better if they didn't have to be constantly looking over their shoulders for the cops. Making porn illegal would just exacerbate all the existing problems with the industry, because it would only serve to remove what limited protections the state offers to sex workers.

In conclusion: sex work is real work and should be treated as such. If you are anti sex work, it is because you are anti sex.

Also I haven't made a ship video in like a year, give me a break!!!!!