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@temporal-infidelity / temporal-infidelity.tumblr.com

she/they, queer, late 30s
I write stuff

something im noticing is the redditors are just commenting on everything via reblogs with reckless abandon. and its so funny bc thats how youre MEANT to use this fucking website but we've trained ourselves out of it somehow.

I feel like a fucking chimp raised in a lab let out into the wild and just doing shit without understanding wtf is going on because I was raised to click the button to get cookie

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Honestly we could use an influx of people actually commenting. The hostility against speaking above a low mutter was starting to get kind of weird. Like yeah tag talk is great but so many of the "hello, newcomers!" posts straight up say to NEVER comment, like...what? It's making this place feel empty and quiet even though the userbase is climbing, and having that as a norm makes it so a disproportionate amount of comments are left by people who either actively want to be annoying or are socially oblivious, instead of people who...want to particulate in their community. I've definitely noticed an increase recently of people constricting discussion to tags in ways that pretty much deadend conversation, like by chattily responding to conversation starters from my tags in their own tags instead of by copying my tags and responding.

Between how super long posts don't get blockquote-constricted into invisibility anymore AND how the new site settings mean people see tags on their posts unless they go out of their way not to instead of the other way around... Why are we living like this. It's lonely! Let's talk to each other!

i do think that no other media has managed the fake swearword scheme as effectively as Red Dwarf. farscape had a whole colourful swear lexicon, and of course everyone knows frak, and gorram and the less popular but deeply fun to say shazbot. but in terms of visceral impact? nothing beats smeg. to this day i still can't see a picture of Smeg brand electronics without thinking 'how can they get away with putting that on a fridge?`. it just hits. its real. its not even a fake cuss for me. if someone called me a smeg head in real life id take it more personally than if they called me a cunt

For those wondering, SMEG appliances do predate the show and it’s an acronym for Smalterie Metallurgiche Emiliane Guastalla.

How to Finish

I drew this poster for Jon Acuff and his FINISH book tour. Big thanks to Jon for this collaboration, his book has some great ideas about how to complete creative and life goals.

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Love this, but reblogging it specifically for “Get rid of secret rules.” That’s one of the most amazing illustrations—and points—I’ve ever seen.

so important especially for perfectionists who procrastinate and never finish, or even start because they set such high standards for themselves.

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what’s your favourite colour of the sky?

[ID: A fake poll with several options, each one without text and filled in a with different color to match the “do you love the color of the sky” post. End ID.]

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Ahh compressed for our convenience, just what I like to see

constantly fighting the battle between “rimmer is completely undiagnosed” and “he got a diagnosis when he was too young to remember but his parents never told him”. either way the inherit trauma of going for such a long period of time without the proper supports you need plays in heavily

I can see a well-meaning teacher trying to get him a diagnosis and his family just shutting them down

Trans man here, and my girlfriend of seven years is trans too. I'm currently reading The Sandman and I'm delighted and impressed at your portrayals of trans people, particularly with it being written in 1989.

I wanted to ask - did you know a trans person who died back then? A great deal of cis people (even today) aren't aware that trans people are frequently disrespected in death in the same ways that Wanda was.

I am curious to know how you were so intimately aware of what goes on at a trans person's funeral.

And I want you to know that the way you depicted Wanda's funeral means a lot to me, and it sticks with me.

(Also casual reminder for any trans people reading this to create an advance directive or equivalent paperwork to prevent your deadname from being on your tombstone. If your next-of-kin is transphobic, you've got some legal work to do.)

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I made friends with the late and much-missed Rachel Pollack in 1985 at the Milford SF writers workshop, and Rachel wrote to her friend Roz Kaveney and told Roz we would hit it off as friends, and we met at some publishing event or other, and we did.

Roz knew everyone and everything, and over the next few years she introduced me to her friends, so the number of my LGBT friends increased enormously. I remember being shocked when Roz told me about friends and acquaintances of hers who had been deadnamed and buried as Wanda was, and I wanted to put that outrage in Sandman, which was my most prominent way of reaching a lot of people. Wanda then acted as an introduction to a number of people over the subsequent decades who were in the (sometimes very long) process of transitioning, and felt that I was someone they could safely talk to.

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I’m sorry friends, but “just google it” is no longer viable advice. What are we even telling people to do anymore, go try to google useful info and the first three pages are just ads for products that might be the exact opposite of what the person is trying to find but The Algorithm thinks the words are related enough? And if it’s not ads it’s just sponsored websites filled with listicles, just pages and pages of “TOP FIFTEEN [thing you googled] IMAGINED AS DISNEY PRINCESSES” like… what are we even doing anymore, google? I can no longer use you as shorthand for people doing real and actual helpful research on their own.