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There's actually a reason that the trope of making a female assassin or female warrior in a video game or comic or action series scantily clad but justifying it as "but she uses it to distract her male enemies!!" is mostly something you only see from male writers and artists and also something that's long been denounced by feminists as misogynistic and objectifying regardless of what "reasoning" is given.

Other feminist writers who actually hold doctorate degrees on feminist subjects and are actually published writers have written on this better than I ever could, but it's a patriarchal myth that women secretly hold so much power and control over men by using sex and seduction. Turning yourself into a sex object will never grant you any access to any real power

The myth that women secretly hold a lot of power and control over men by using sex and seduction is a patriarchal myth that needs to die already. It's a myth that men use as a justification for their misogyny, men who buy into that myth use it at best as a justification to be suspicious of women and at worst to be outright violent towards women.

It's also blatantly false that using nudity or sex appeal to distract men would work in IRL combat because we know that IRL men have no issue with violently murdering nude or partially nude women. Women are murdered by their boyfriends or husbands while she's not wearing any clothes all the time, her nudity sure didn't save her or 'distract' him from violently murdering her. Also think of the high rate of violence and murders against women in the sex industry, most of the women murdered in the sex industry are nude or partially nude while they're murdered by clients or pimps, and their nudity or partial nudity sure doesn't save them by being from being violently murdered by being 'distracting' to the heterosexual men who murder them.

hate hate hate how people act like a woman who doesnt wear revealing clothes must not be comfortable with her body. hence the push to treat wearing a bikini as a fat woman (or even as just a regular non-fitness-model woman) as a victory. no one is telling men that they need to wear speedoes to show they love themselves.

Listening to popular music when you’re a woman be like: Hm, that’s a sexist slur. Another sexist slur. Violence against women. Sexualization. Trivializing violence against women. Sexist slur. Insulting stereotype that is already a stigma against women. Sexist slur. Objectification. More sexist slurs. Blaming women for violence. Shaming women. Male entitlement. Misrepresentation of facts. Demotion of women to objects. Sexist slur. Sexualization. Sexist slur. Casual mention of abuse of a woman. Sexist slu

Every time I'm with my aunt shes listening to a song that is to some degree about ppl wanting to fuck a woman, or a woman sexualizing herself or any of the shit I mentioned above about degrading women. its very uncomfortable but also u start to realize how these songs are part of every day life for everybody, little kids hear these songs on the radio and learn the words and it forms their impressions on women and gender roles, these ideas are present in every moment of our lives. Kinda feels a little like a 'no hope for women' moment

Women are taught that their anger is ugly, that their anger shouldn’t be expressed, that their anger makes the unappealing, irrational, ridiculous. Women are taught that expressing any anger threatens their romantic relationships, that they’ve got to smooth it over and shove it down and bottle it up or they’ll be unloveable and alone. Women and taught that they’ve got hide their hurt and hide their rage and justify their mistreatment and make it work, that they have to settle for ignoring their own feelings, hide their irritation, in order to earn safety and stability in their relationships. Not to stir the pot, not to overreact, not to start ‘drama’. It’s toxic and unhealthy and unfair that women are forced to live in dread of being labelled a ‘nag’ or a ‘controlling bitch’ or a ‘ball buster’ or whatever other misogynistic term and have to exhaust themselves putting their partner first trying to be the cool and perfect and chill and undemanding and never, ever needy girlfriend for fear of being a burden and dead weight just for having feelings.

men will always say they would love to be catcalled by beautiful women, they'd love to be prostituted to women, they'd 'love' to be taken advantage of by a woman, because that's how they see the roles being reversed. they never think to put themselves in women's shoes and imagine MEN calling after them on the streets, MEN following them home, MEN paying to use their bodies, MEN taking advantage of them. "straight men seem to understand consent perfectly well when it's gay men who come onto them" is all too true. they will never empathize.

There is this style of videos I’ve been seeing lately where some guy doing “street interviews” will ask a woman a question about her type “what do you think about bald men, fat men, short men” “what’s the biggest turn off for you” and I want every woman to look at the comments and realize this is a way for men to bond. They do not give a shit. The person either wants her to be a cool girl and be all like every goblin is precious. Or he wants her to actually be honest so then the scrotes online can be openly misogynistic and bond with each other. I saw one recently where this woman was asked about bald men. And she said it must be sad, but they have xyz options. And the dude replied with “nice nose job” she said thanks. The comments were so happy he brought it up and were making fun of her. But she didn’t have a double standard. She thinks she should use surgery and different treatments to achieve a look she considers attractive. She expects a man to go through the same lengths. I don’t agree with her. But she’s consistent. Men expect women to change themselves for the sake of beauty.

THIS. I saw one where a guy asked a woman how she'd rate herself out of 10,and she said a 10. he then showed a picture of her to several RANDOM MEN on the street (without her consent, presumably) and asked them to rate her. they all said much lower scores.

men want you to be insecure. they want you to feel like shit so you won't notice when they're nowhere near good enough for you

“Porn Has Completely Destroyed Me There was a time - I’d say pre 1999 - when I would have tolerated a girl with an errant fat roll, a mildly problematic ass, or even non-porcelain veneered teeth. And come to think of it, I might have even green lighted a B cup chest. But with the installation of the high speed cable modem, alas, I am sad to say that those times have now passed. I now only want - and will only solicit affection from - girls with killer porn star looks and behavior. I am ashamed and I do not like what now stimulates me, but the Internet, with all of its quick fix, crack-like vices, has made me extraordinarily intolerant. Are you a Tufts or Harvard grad and a great conversationalist? Not important. Do you have a quirky sense of humor and a knack for cooking Asian Fusion cuisine? Don’t care. Would you like to discuss the sub-text meaning of the whip sawed brush strokes of that Kandinsky painting at the MFA? Fuck off. Be the source of a blood rush and make me throw a rod in my pants or kindly turn into anti-matter. I am ruined. I am dead on the inside. I am ashamed and embarrassed of what now stimulates me and I know that I am irrevocably changed for the worse. For all practical purposes, Internet porn has destroyed me. So who am I? Not who you’d think. Not the dandruff-haired blob of shit in the cube next to you. Not the UES Michigan frat boy. Not the faux disheveled Downtown hipster with the silly retro Puma sneakers. Sadly, I am the “normal” one that you’re actually interested in. Cultured, eloquent, well dressed. I am the one you discuss with your girlfriends over Sunday brunch. I am the one you hope to bump into at Karen’s pajama themed apartment party. I am the one who takes the lead, holds doors, and hails cabs. Shit. Do you dream of a man who will “love you just for you?” Do believe that you have peripheral, intangible qualities that men of substance will key upon and gravitate to? Do you shun the gym in favor of The Apprentice and a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Chunkey Monkey, thinking that your black cigarette pants will sufficiently mask any belly spillage or ass expansion? Then forget it. It’s game over. You’re a walking, talking non-compete clause and you’re going to end up alone with a slobbering oversized Rotweiller named Chuckles. Pull your head out of your ass and be advised - porn viewing/obsession is spreading like the plague amongst my gender - upping the already unrealistic physical expectations, pushing boundaries in the bedroom (you’re down with anal, right?), and providing instant, customize-able sexual highs with the push of a button. If you’re female and you don’t posess prodigal, Einsteinian caliber intelligence that would propel the cause of humanity forward, and, if you don’t relish the idea of being alone, then … … throw every last dollar you have at your physical appearance. I’m serious. Personal trainer. Porcelain veneers. High-end boob job. Get scared and get it done. Do not extend my gender any credit. Do not hope that a guy will be in awe of your cello playing, your VP title, or your cute apartment. I promise you he won’t care. Don’t kid yourself into thinking he will. Men are programmed to respond to the visual. Look good or you’re alone.”

— Anon dude on craigslist, April 2005 Found at oneangrygirl.net

Oh right. This is a fun read.

It’s so funny to me (in the morbid sense) that he states himself as unchangeable- too far gone- and tells women to change to keep any hope of being relevant to men in any way. The assumption that women will sink with his ship is so hammered in that he doesn’t consider that women have the option to not follow in the direction he’s leading, and it’s so deeply arrogant. Not to mention how, by saying that ‘he’s too far gone’, framing it as some tragic downfall, he’s attempting to absolve himself of any responsibility to change or better himself.

“Do not extend my gender any credit.” We won’t! Women need not follow when men self destruct because they cannot see women as human beings anymore. You can see how much he also wants to make women believe that there are no better men than him- so that they must settle and follow those principles. There are better men- and he wishes there weren’t. (Even if porn addictions are becoming more common.)

Also, “get scared and get it done” is so disgusting beyond words.

I keep seeing men doing this… they will warn women against themselves, but never realize that the obvious takeaway is to avoid them, protect ourselves, look elsewhere for fulfillment. No, they warn us and say, “the situation with us is dire. It is ugly and foul, and only getting worse. We do not care about your humanity and will hurt you for our pleasure. Strap in for a bad time.” And the penny never drops that women can just…opt out!!!! They need us more than we need them. If it’s shit, hit the bricks! The sheer, self centered, absolute narcissism of men to assume that if they are going down, women have no choice but to follow, forever seeking their attention.

“Porn Has Completely Destroyed Me There was a time - I’d say pre 1999 - when I would have tolerated a girl with an errant fat roll, a mildly problematic ass, or even non-porcelain veneered teeth. And come to think of it, I might have even green lighted a B cup chest. But with the installation of the high speed cable modem, alas, I am sad to say that those times have now passed. I now only want - and will only solicit affection from - girls with killer porn star looks and behavior. I am ashamed and I do not like what now stimulates me, but the Internet, with all of its quick fix, crack-like vices, has made me extraordinarily intolerant. Are you a Tufts or Harvard grad and a great conversationalist? Not important. Do you have a quirky sense of humor and a knack for cooking Asian Fusion cuisine? Don’t care. Would you like to discuss the sub-text meaning of the whip sawed brush strokes of that Kandinsky painting at the MFA? Fuck off. Be the source of a blood rush and make me throw a rod in my pants or kindly turn into anti-matter. I am ruined. I am dead on the inside. I am ashamed and embarrassed of what now stimulates me and I know that I am irrevocably changed for the worse. For all practical purposes, Internet porn has destroyed me. So who am I? Not who you’d think. Not the dandruff-haired blob of shit in the cube next to you. Not the UES Michigan frat boy. Not the faux disheveled Downtown hipster with the silly retro Puma sneakers. Sadly, I am the “normal” one that you’re actually interested in. Cultured, eloquent, well dressed. I am the one you discuss with your girlfriends over Sunday brunch. I am the one you hope to bump into at Karen’s pajama themed apartment party. I am the one who takes the lead, holds doors, and hails cabs. Shit. Do you dream of a man who will “love you just for you?” Do believe that you have peripheral, intangible qualities that men of substance will key upon and gravitate to? Do you shun the gym in favor of The Apprentice and a pint of Ben & Jerry’s Chunkey Monkey, thinking that your black cigarette pants will sufficiently mask any belly spillage or ass expansion? Then forget it. It’s game over. You’re a walking, talking non-compete clause and you’re going to end up alone with a slobbering oversized Rotweiller named Chuckles. Pull your head out of your ass and be advised - porn viewing/obsession is spreading like the plague amongst my gender - upping the already unrealistic physical expectations, pushing boundaries in the bedroom (you’re down with anal, right?), and providing instant, customize-able sexual highs with the push of a button. If you’re female and you don’t posess prodigal, Einsteinian caliber intelligence that would propel the cause of humanity forward, and, if you don’t relish the idea of being alone, then … … throw every last dollar you have at your physical appearance. I’m serious. Personal trainer. Porcelain veneers. High-end boob job. Get scared and get it done. Do not extend my gender any credit. Do not hope that a guy will be in awe of your cello playing, your VP title, or your cute apartment. I promise you he won’t care. Don’t kid yourself into thinking he will. Men are programmed to respond to the visual. Look good or you’re alone.”

— Anon dude on craigslist, April 2005 Found at oneangrygirl.net

Oh right. This is a fun read.

It’s so funny to me (in the morbid sense) that he states himself as unchangeable- too far gone- and tells women to change to keep any hope of being relevant to men in any way. The assumption that women will sink with his ship is so hammered in that he doesn’t consider that women have the option to not follow in the direction he’s leading, and it’s so deeply arrogant. Not to mention how, by saying that ‘he’s too far gone’, framing it as some tragic downfall, he’s attempting to absolve himself of any responsibility to change or better himself.

“Do not extend my gender any credit.” We won’t! Women need not follow when men self destruct because they cannot see women as human beings anymore. You can see how much he also wants to make women believe that there are no better men than him- so that they must settle and follow those principles. There are better men- and he wishes there weren’t. (Even if porn addictions are becoming more common.)

Also, “get scared and get it done” is so disgusting beyond words.

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I much rather be alone thanks. Which isn’t really true, I wouldn’t have a romantic relationship but I would have friends so not alone.

i love how hes saying “oh yea its all men every single one all of them always no exceptions” and if women said that all hell would break loose

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When I reported sexual abuse to the police and told them about the physical force used, they told me ‘well, some people are into that.’

So yes, your promotion of BDSM is hurting rape victims.

Courts have let rapists go free because though they see physical violence was used to force the victim to have sex, they’re not convinced she didn’t truly want it. It makes me fucking sick that people are essentially pushing for the acceptance of sexual violence in the name of feminism and choose to remain blind to the very obvious consequences of their stance. 

How many cases have been in the news where women were killed and the report says something about how the couple was inspired by 50 Shades and whoops the man accidentally ended up strangling her to death or beating her bloody?

Jian Ghiomeshi publicly admitted to choking women and punching them in the face and still walked free of all charges.

This is a feature, not a bug, of BDSM culture. They want it so that women are beaten down, exploited, and cast aside under the pretence of “it was just BDSM!”. It’s a ploy for men to get what they want free of charge and scorn.

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"Not all women" doesn't exist. If a woman does something stupid men are quick to say she represents all women. They'll immediately make blanket statements about us, hiding behind a "joke" or being totally serious.

Say a woman is playing a video game in a team full of men. If she gets the lowest score at the end, men will think: this is further proof that women are inferior to men. And the next time a woman finds herself in their team she will be kicked out. Because one woman is all women. We are not individuals. If she gets the best score though, she will be seen as exceptional "not like other girls". It's a lose-lose situation. All women know this. You know that if you mess up you will make all women look bad. That's an incredible amount of pressure. Women in STEM fields are especially impacted by this.

For men it's literally the opposite. When men do bad things we are immediately told not to make any sort of generalization. It's "not all men are like that". Even when billions of men make misogynistic jokes, you are still not allowed to say men are misogynists. Even when men commit most horrendous crimes, you are still not allowed to talk about male violence. If a man does something stupid no one says: this is men. If a man loses a game against a woman no one will claim it's proof that men are inferior. It's just one man. However if he wins it proves that men are better than women and that women should stop playing.

Furthermore, the only time you are allowed to generalize about men is to excuse their behaviour. As in "boys will be boys", "oh darling, all men are like that", "it's in men's nature so we need to work with it."

It's the only social class that benefits from this, as far as I'm aware. The only social class for which people will immediately become angry and jump to the defense, not allowing any form of general observation let alone criticism and discrimination, stressing that men are all different individuals.

No other group is treated this favorably. For example, if an arab person commits a crime it's "arabs are savages go back to your country". So we end up with people living their lives trying desperately not to feed the stereotypes. Black women trying never to appear angry, fat people not eating in public, gay people not talking about sex, women not talking at all.

But men get to live utterly unconcerned with what other men do. No matter how frequent, no matter the scale, no negative generalization is allowed. It must be really nice to live that.

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Also shows why men automatically assume women are in lower-paying and less appreciated jobs immediately. I've heard so many women say that men assumed they were talking to nurses, receptionists, or some random staff member when in reality they were talking to an actually qualified female in a high-position.

They think all women must be in jobs that come below men, so they automatically assume the women they're talking to must be in a relatively lower position because women are not seen as individuals who can be different than the silly misogynistic stereotype.

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Men just reversed the gender of what women said as if it has the same ground and meaning. These men don’t actually have any points to make, they just want to argue and disagree with women.

Male nature

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I am glad she was able to escape, I am glad the other girls helped her. The other two women were beyond brave

Men are the bad guys. You just saw fake persona they present to you so you can trust them.

I don't think men actually 'switch'. They knew what they wanted. I even could think it was planned at some degree.

Males are not friends of women, they are around you because they want to fuck you someday.

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I completely agree, this was their true form and they finally showed her how they always have viewed her. I think it was completely planned, first they will make her feel welcomed and befriended so she has lower her guard. Next, her thinking these moids are her friends will make her think she can be alone with them. When she is completely vulnerable, then they attack. True evil pray tactics

Males are predators

All radfem ideology is built on one rock, and that is the reason that it is all bullshit. It is all built on the foundation that radfems know other people better than they know themselves

"I actually feel like a man/woman" no you don't you're brainwashed

"I like wearing makeup" no you don't you're brainwashed

"I want to shave my legs" no you don't you're brainwashed

"I got plastic surgery because it makes me feel better, not for other people" not only do you not think that, but you are actively being a misogynist just by thinking that you think that

I don't know who needs to hear this, but: NO MATTER HOW ENLIGHTENED YOU THINK YOU ARE, YOU DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING IN OTHER PEOPLE'S BRAINS. AND YOU MOST CERTAINLY DON'T KNOW WHAT IS HAPPENING IN OTHER PEOPLE'S BRAINS ENOUGH TO TELL THEM THEY ARE WRONG ABOUT THEIR OWN, SUBJECTIVE FEELINGS

Radical feminism is built on one rock, and that is: women are oppressed on the basis that we are female.

"I actually feel like a man/woman" no you don't you're brainwashed

No, genderists are asked to explain what that even means and can't, because any explanation that could be given would be so obviously sexist.

"I like wearing makeup" no you don't you're brainwashed "I want to shave my legs" no you don't you're brainwashed

Criticism of the beauty industry and the extra expectations put on women as a class have nothing to do with what you personally enjoy.

If being encouraged to examine it makes you uncomfortable that might be for a reason.

"I got plastic surgery because it makes me feel better, not for other people"

Plastic surgery is a similarly predatory industry to the beauty industry. Why do all these progressive, woke, anti-capitalists always seem to be ready to throw down to defend large corporate industries when they prey primarily on the insecurities of women.

I mean I'll give you a very easy explanation, but I'll be willing to get you have been given it before but just pretended it didn't exist. Scientifically speaking the structure of a male and female brain is slightly different in predictable ways, and the brains of transgender people seem to align more with that of the gender they say they are. More to the point, why do you demand an explanation just to be a nice person? Especially considering that 40% suicide figure that you and your cohorts are so ghoulishly fond of. All scientific evidence we have seems to support the existence of trans people, but even if it didn't why would you not just treat these people with basic decency?

Also, why do you lot keep acting like supporting plastic surgery is some betrayal of these anti-capitalist ideas that you just assumed that I have (odd how even you recognise that someone sympathetic to the plight of trans people is more likely to support making the world a better place)? Literally doing anything in a capitalist society is supporting big businesses, that's like saying if I was a true socialist I wouldn't eat food

Even assuming what you're saying is true, why would you use small differences in the brain matter to determine if someone is actually a man or a woman instead of entirely diffrent reproductive organs?

I abhor men.

Kill them all.

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The same dudes that make these jokes then whine about no one giving a shit about men’s mental health.

When you act like degenerate assholes so much so that everyone else wants you to kill yourself… well 🤷🏻‍♀️

velvety-secret

Tinfoil hat moment but I swear this ‘omg evil SWERFs!!!” nonsense is a psy op bankrolled by the sex industry because in what world is “I think it’s okay for 60 year old men to buy sex from 18 year olds struggling to afford their next meal :)” something you can say with a goddamn straight face. 

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feministjessicajones

that’s not even a tinfoil hat moment tbh like ‘turn off the blue light’ was a campaign run by traffickers, the #notyourrescueproject was run by a man who posed as one of the women he trafficked under the name “molli desi”, there’s probably more examples but yeah, that’s 100% what’s going on 

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candied-corpse

Red umbrella project was started/run by pimps and traffickers too.

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kuromicritical

Also think about now much modern feminism has to do with “sex positivity” and glorifies PornHub 👀

Also the NSWP, one of the most influential sex work orgs (backed by Amnesty & funded by George Soros) has ties to human trafficking. One of their leaders got sentenced for procuring and trafficking a few years ago

Oh and the IUSW openly takes money from pimps, including Douglas Fox who ran one of the biggest prostitution rings in England

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fictocriticisma

Liberal feminists and pro-“sex work” advocates, have you asked yourself who is benefiting from the constant platitudes you throw out? When you forego listening to the experiences of actual women who live in these conditions, the women who have been forever harmed and scarred by these immoral industries, and instead parrot talking points made by child predators, traffickers, pimps, and sexbuyers, who do you think is benefiting? I used to be like you. I used to spout the “sex workers deserve rights, and the way to go about that is through legalization” talking points. That stopped once I started dedicating time to researching the endless campaigns, legislative bodies and lobbyists that end up being the ones who are actively hurting women and selling them into sexual slavery. I started reading theory from women who have dedicated their lives to the protection and advocacy for women who don’t have the privilege of seeking these outlets themselves. Almost one million men, women, and children are trafficked every year alone. Have you ever critically addressed why you support legislation that increases this number? Why you claim we’re “sex-worker” exclusive when our feminism seems to be the only kind that seeks to abolish the sexual violence that pervades still? Empowerment is not commodifying women and selling us into sexual slavery. Empowerment is a state of being that requires that we have the conditions to make choices free of economic or otherwise violent coercion, or ultimatums that force women into inescapable circumstances. Wanting to legalize sexbuying, pimping, or brothel-owning is the advocacy of selling women for men’s sexual pleasure no matter the cost, and attempts to codify into law the types of situations that cause women to become prostitutes or trafficked individuals rather than eradicating the sociocultural, economic, political, and legislative plagues that commodify & objectify women, and force them into scenarios where they must submit to the sexual wills of men to survive.

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“everyone who says they dont watch porn is lying lol” the fact that you cant even fathom the idea of not watching pornography is concerning

Every time I mention my boyfriend isn’t aroused by porn both men and women get incredibly offended

Why does someone’s lack of porn use offend so many people? Like sorry he doesn’t view women as objects so it’s impossible for him to be aroused by objectifying someone? Their guilt is really showing in these situations.

also ppl have incredibly weak memories and can’t recall that in the time before internet, watching porn on a daily basis was considered embarassing at best in most circles, and at worst, pathetic, creepy, or a huge red flag. having infinite access to an infinite variety of porn about every kink and every type of racism, sexism, incest, and rape imaginable isn’t the Natural Human State.

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In just my grandma’s time, if a man was found to be watching porn they were labeled as the neighborhood “pervert” and all women avoided that guy like the plague. Let’s bring that back. Don’t date men who watch porn. They have lower empathy for women, higher risk of erectile dysfunction, and they are more likely to see you as an object, not a human. They struggle to tell if the sounds you make in bed are sounds of pain or pleasure, they literally can’t differentiate if a women is being hurt or feeling good.

It’s way more recent than within your grandma’s lifetime. Hell, I just rewatched the original L word (which aired in the early 2000s) and there are multiple episodes that have female characters expressing disgust over a male’s porn use—including straight characters who treat the discovery of porn use by their male partners as a total dealbreaker! I remember similar plotlines on Sex and the City and other iconic shows from the 90s/early 2000s, too. Porn would never ever be presented as a niche weird/gross proclivity in a tv script today… and yet it regularly was discussed and portrayed as such in media as recently as, like, 2006.

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i blame the show friends for the normalisation of men watching porn. the amount of jokes and references to porn in that show is actually shocking, i am sure it created a cultural shift

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It’s not just friends. There’s a shift in y2k shows, even something like that 70s show (obviously very anachronistic) and family guy and adult swim shows all normalized porn and watching porn. Porn stars started to enjoy a more mainstream audience from reality shows and guest starring on network shows. The references to porn have been steadily increasing and Friends is a long-time show during the time period when it happened.

Of course porn didn’t used to be normal. Even fairly recently, porn being “normal” meant that you’ve seen racy photos on occasion (involving partial or full nudity) of carefully posed women. When Friends was on the air, this meant Playboy magazines and softcore videos with simulated sex acts. You certainly didn’t see sex acts being performed in detail, let alone some of the material that’s now considered “standard”. Masturbating to high definition videos, for hours every single week (usually every single day) was not even possible before smartphones and high speed internet, let alone normal. It’s scary how quickly it became completely normal to do this behavior, and how quickly it became accepted by men of all political backgrounds.

You’d expect liberal men to object to having their sexuality hijacked by major corporations, the dark money, the problematic nature of the material (the racist titles, the homophobic ones, not to mention, why are videos titled things like “slut learns a lesson” ok but “baby it’s cold outside” should be taken off the radio?) Porn is bigger than the entire US motion picture industry. They make more money than MLB, NFL, and the NBA combined. These are all billion dollar industries, and porn dwarfs them. You’d expect the kind of men who call for amazon boycotts and protesting hate speech to abhor this industry.

You’d expect conservative men to object to the morality of sexually lascivious material being normalized and consumed, particularly by children. You’d expect them to object to young men preferring unnatural images and sex acts over real relationships. You’d also expect them to be against masturbation, considering many major faiths have rules against it.

But both groups of men, with seemingly disparate values, have both twisted their beliefs into a logic pretzel that lets them consume porn and publicly defend it. They will outright admit that they don’t care if the porn they’re watching is nonconsensual, if it features an underage person, if it actually injured someone to make. They don’t care because none of them see women or girls as human beings. Go to any male-dominated social media site and read what they have to say about the women actors in porn. And yet the only people who are viewed as “hateful” are women who object to porn on feminist grounds. It’s completely insane.

I’m also so sick of the fact that the softcore simulated sex is in almost every show these days. Like who wants to watch a movie with their parents and see a full on sex scene? I honestly don’t think they ad anything to the story, but still.

We’re turning actors into porn stars its ridiculous. They’ve only now included an intimacy coordinator or something, but is that even enough to protect actors who never signed up for porn?

I actually miss the more artfully done sex scenes that was just the beginning and let you imagine the rest. And I’m not a.prude I’ve read my fair of fanfic smut and that’s because it’s written and doesn’t involve possible harm of actual people.

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“everyone who says they dont watch porn is lying lol” the fact that you cant even fathom the idea of not watching pornography is concerning

Every time I mention my boyfriend isn’t aroused by porn both men and women get incredibly offended

Why does someone’s lack of porn use offend so many people? Like sorry he doesn’t view women as objects so it’s impossible for him to be aroused by objectifying someone? Their guilt is really showing in these situations.

also ppl have incredibly weak memories and can’t recall that in the time before internet, watching porn on a daily basis was considered embarassing at best in most circles, and at worst, pathetic, creepy, or a huge red flag. having infinite access to an infinite variety of porn about every kink and every type of racism, sexism, incest, and rape imaginable isn’t the Natural Human State.

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In just my grandma’s time, if a man was found to be watching porn they were labeled as the neighborhood “pervert” and all women avoided that guy like the plague. Let’s bring that back. Don’t date men who watch porn. They have lower empathy for women, higher risk of erectile dysfunction, and they are more likely to see you as an object, not a human. They struggle to tell if the sounds you make in bed are sounds of pain or pleasure, they literally can’t differentiate if a women is being hurt or feeling good.

It’s way more recent than within your grandma’s lifetime. Hell, I just rewatched the original L word (which aired in the early 2000s) and there are multiple episodes that have female characters expressing disgust over a male’s porn use—including straight characters who treat the discovery of porn use by their male partners as a total dealbreaker! I remember similar plotlines on Sex and the City and other iconic shows from the 90s/early 2000s, too. Porn would never ever be presented as a niche weird/gross proclivity in a tv script today… and yet it regularly was discussed and portrayed as such in media as recently as, like, 2006.

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i blame the show friends for the normalisation of men watching porn. the amount of jokes and references to porn in that show is actually shocking, i am sure it created a cultural shift

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It’s not just friends. There’s a shift in y2k shows, even something like that 70s show (obviously very anachronistic) and family guy and adult swim shows all normalized porn and watching porn. Porn stars started to enjoy a more mainstream audience from reality shows and guest starring on network shows. The references to porn have been steadily increasing and Friends is a long-time show during the time period when it happened.

Of course porn didn’t used to be normal. Even fairly recently, porn being “normal” meant that you’ve seen racy photos on occasion (involving partial or full nudity) of carefully posed women. When Friends was on the air, this meant Playboy magazines and softcore videos with simulated sex acts. You certainly didn’t see sex acts being performed in detail, let alone some of the material that’s now considered “standard”. Masturbating to high definition videos, for hours every single week (usually every single day) was not even possible before smartphones and high speed internet, let alone normal. It’s scary how quickly it became completely normal to do this behavior, and how quickly it became accepted by men of all political backgrounds.

You’d expect liberal men to object to having their sexuality hijacked by major corporations, the dark money, the problematic nature of the material (the racist titles, the homophobic ones, not to mention, why are videos titled things like “slut learns a lesson” ok but “baby it’s cold outside” should be taken off the radio?) Porn is bigger than the entire US motion picture industry. They make more money than MLB, NFL, and the NBA combined. These are all billion dollar industries, and porn dwarfs them. You’d expect the kind of men who call for amazon boycotts and protesting hate speech to abhor this industry.

You’d expect conservative men to object to the morality of sexually lascivious material being normalized and consumed, particularly by children. You’d expect them to object to young men preferring unnatural images and sex acts over real relationships. You’d also expect them to be against masturbation, considering many major faiths have rules against it.

But both groups of men, with seemingly disparate values, have both twisted their beliefs into a logic pretzel that lets them consume porn and publicly defend it. They will outright admit that they don’t care if the porn they’re watching is nonconsensual, if it features an underage person, if it actually injured someone to make. They don’t care because none of them see women or girls as human beings. Go to any male-dominated social media site and read what they have to say about the women actors in porn. And yet the only people who are viewed as “hateful” are women who object to porn on feminist grounds. It’s completely insane.