If you don't mind saying, I was wondering if Fluff and Phangs is going to have non sexual BDSM? I'm most curious about if itll have non sexual D/s in particular but curious about it on the whole as well. Sending positive vibes your way
The fluff and Phangs version, at present, does contain non sexual elements of that part of their relationship dynamic. The sexual sub/dom play in the erotica version of the manuscript tends to range from very intense sexual scenes, to very soft, warm scenes. For the non-sex version of the book, I’ve removed about 99% of those scenes and replaced them with other relationship “stuff”, but the softness and the way they play off each other remains very much the same.
Nathan has a very strong, warm personality, very sure, very calming, very much the Big Spoon and a huge part of his personality is his love of taking care of people. It’s just his thing. He’s a soft Dom, basically, and that element about him doesn’t change between books. He is who he is. He gets a far bigger emotional happy from taking care of people and giving them what they want, far more than anything else that might interest him, and Vlad needs a lot of kindness, he’s needs that warmth and reassurance. As does Ursula to some degree (though she’ll deny it, tooth and nail).
So there will be scenes, that are devoid of sexual interaction, but where Vlad is perhaps being a little needy, a little clingy, and quite a bit anxious, and Nathan just lifts the anxiety away with a lot of soothing, both verbal and physical. Similarly with Ursula who tends to be a little harsher, there’s a lot of playful verbal needling followed by her own kind of aftercare which differs from Nathan’s, but is still caring and tactile in terms of physical displays of affection.
The easiest examples I can think of is one scene in particular where Vlad is just emotionally and physically exhausted and he drops to his knees in front of Ursula cause stick a fork in him he’s done, he needs comfort and for someone else to be in charge for a little bit and maybe pet his hair and tell him he did a good job until the stress drains out his bones. Or like in the first book when Vlad works himself into such a state of over exhaustion he makes himself ill, and Nathan winds up using his Dom tone of voice to override him and gently pushes and prods him into performing self-care, helped along by Nathan because he’s not unconvinced the vampire won’t drown in the tub if left unattended. (The fact that vampires cannot drown is irrelevant lol.)
Another example of how the scenes pan out would be this excerpt from book 2:
“Don’t,” Ursula said, without even bothering to look up, and Vlad, hand halfway to his mouth, flinched.
“You were going to prod your tooth,” she said, looking up from her book and giving him a level stare, “again.”
“It hurts,” he whined plaintively, contenting himself with bracing his face with the palm of his hand.
Usually by now he’d be blitzed out of his mind, four bottles deep and several narcotics down the rabbit hole towards oblivion. But he’d been sober for just over a year and had no desire to give it up—pain lanced through his face and he cringed—yet.
“Put clove oil on it,” Ursula told him, and Vlad rolled his eyes mournfully toward her.
“Put more on.”
“Put more on what?” Nathan asked, emerging from the other room, running a towel over his wet hair so that it stuck up at all ends.
“He’s teething,” Ursula said, and Vlad glowered at both of them.
“I am not teething. My canine is regrowing.”
“So,” Nathan began, a poorly suppressed smile tugging at his lips, “teething then.”
“Fuck off,” Vlad muttered, pulling his knees up and wrapping the throw over the top of his head and shoulders. He heard Nathan’s amused chuckle, and curled further inward, refusing to be coaxed. He yelped a moment later when he felt the world shift, the couch dipping as Nathan sat down and pulled Vlad effortlessly into his lap.
“Oh, there now,” the other man soothed, rubbing his hands up and down Vlad’s back. “No sulking.”
“I reiterate my previous statement,” Vlad muttered, hiding his face against Nathan’s chest, “fuck off.”
Nathan chuckled again, the sound vibrating through Vlad’s bones. “Look up.”
Vlad looked up, watching as Nathan unscrewed the top of his hip flask, upending it but keeping it stopped with his thumb. “Open.”
Vlad opened his mouth, going cross eyed to try and keep Nathan in focus as his lover gently, oh so gently pressed his rum soaked finger to Vlad’s tender gum.
“Spoiled.” Ursula said beside them, though not unfondly as she reached out and raked sharp fingernails through his hair.
“I know.” Nathan crooned dulcetly as Vlad melted into him. “But we all need a little spoiling sometimes.”
Largely I’ve tried to convey it through the act of care, which most people overlook when they think of BDSM dynamics, or if they do, it’s usually as an afterthought, something obligatory you have to mention to keep it safe, sane and consensual. Which I mean, I get it, people are usually reading BDSM for the harder, taboo stuff, but there’s more to BDSM than whips and chains, and it’s that “more” I’ve always been more interested in. And I think (I hope) I’ve kept that part of their dynamic intact.
So yea, non-sexual kink elements exist in the Fluff and Phangs version. It might get toned down some more, depending on how beta goes, but at the moment it is what it is.