Here’s a wild concept but if you choose to have a child just because I’m related to you it doesn’t mean I have any obligation to look after the kid at all.
Me and my family were talking and my sister plans to have a kid in the next five years or so and I said that I don’t want to have to look after them because
1. I am autistic being set off by stress loud noises and bad smells which is all a baby is
2. Have deep routed abandonment issues that make me think I wouldn’t even be comfortable being in the same room as a baby
3. It’s not my fucking kid and I shouldn’t have to do anything with them
My mum got really defensive about this and said that it’s none negotiable that I have to look after them and all that shit.
Never mind that the thought alone of having to push down my own needs in favour of caring for something gives me a panic attack. No I have to look after a creature I get no say in it.
The thing is that one problem is all my parents seem able to handle and a baby would mean that my issues and disability would be pushed aside because I wouldn’t be a priority, I would be expected to suck it up and I don’t want to do that and I shouldn’t have to.
It upsets me to think I have a time limit for being comfortable in my own home but it’s a fact I have had to accept and I only hope I’ve got a place of my own to escape to before the day comes where I have to watch myself be forced to ignore my own needs because it’s inconviniant for them if I don’t want to look after a fucking kid