where does this idea come from that People Crave Structure
it is apparently seriously proposed in diverse contexts that the near-lethal anomie levels prevalent in our atomized society, etc, etc, are to do with that people are lacking in sufficient structure to thrive, and are sensible of this unmet need for structure, which individually they may or may not be able to articulate, but ayup: that’s what’s wrong with them!
this question is brought to you at the current time by the fact that I just saw two different posts that portray jordan peterson and marie kondo as a sort of matched gender-binary set of questionably benevolent hierophant spiders growing their webs of influence great by this one weird trick of throwing lifelines of structure out to the wailing hordes a-wandering lost in the howling void
can’t relate? extremely alienated from whatever the fuck this is?
it’s not exactly mysterious that the appeal of order rises during periods of chaos, but that’s extremely situational and contingent, and not just to decades or periods, but across and within individual lives. this is not a spectrum with one end good and the other end evil thing, it’s a balanced middle with two opposite pathological extremes thing. if you go around framing order as super low on maslow’s hierarchy of needs and a fundamental necessity to human thriving, like oxygen, where having it is definitionally good, and chaos as the absence of that good is definitionally bad, you will end up writing the opposite problem right out of your model. do you remember that problem? the flip side problem? the one where the nightmare is about being trapped, stuck, stifling grey endless stasis, chains, the cumulative and compounding pain of not being able to move, crushing boredom, blank despair? the one where the oxygen that’s in dangerously low supply is change and possibility and freedom
obviously I can see that the chaos coefficient is concerningly high at present, but the constraint coefficient is just as evidently disturbingly high, like it very much does not seem to me that In Our Society people are living lives of untrammeled freedom where the biggest problem they have is too much time and choices and freedom to pursue their passions and dreams and live their best possible goddamn lives and find their way to be their best selves? to the extent that these are problems at all –and I don’t concede either that it’s happening or that it’s problematic if it is happening – they are the kinds of problems you steal an extra few minutes in the bathroom at work or stay awake till 3 am in order that you can worry about them adequately. to the extent they exist these problems are about ‘penthouse of maslow’s pyramid’ type needs. the actually pressing problems that people In Our Society have today are to do with the part where you’re in this ever tightening horror-movie game-show competition for permission to sign away the vast, vast majority of your time and energy in exchange for an increasingly tenuous hold on the capability of satisfying your own material needs, as in 'bottom couple layers of maslow’s pyramid’ type needs, and even when you’re doing okay the anxiety of it just keeps pushing out to new maxes because if you ever dare stop running or fall behind fuck you, you get nothing, good day, sir
not to even get into the equal horror of the domestic sphere because nope
frankly? the last thing I need is more fucking structure in my life. I’m dying of suffocation from the fucking surfeit of structure. let me the fuck out. atomize this ass
Tuafw you were sufficiently "normal" growing up because you were smart and only a little weird by kid standards, but the moment you went to college it became significantly harder to get work done (because there's not enough structure) and your peers started to consider you immature
Hello, I'm thinking of cosplaying as Estelle from Tales of Vesperia but I have no idea of how to make the coat keep its shape around the shoulders and the bell shape on the skirt. Any advice you could offer? Thank you!
Ah yes, the old not caring about gravity when making a character design issue.
Mostly for this kind of outfit, you are going to need to add a lot of extra structure. This can come in the form of boning, interfacing, horsehair braid, wire, or any other item that can be inserted into the fabric to make it stiffer and behave more to your will.
The sleeves are going to be a bit tricky in how they are patterned, since they don’t have visible gathers. You can either add gathers to the bottom where they will attach to a separate piece for the lower arm, or you can leave it ungathered and add a panel in order to bridge the two, much like how lantern sleevesare constructed.
As for keeping them off your shoulders, I would recommend a heavy interfacing and some sort of still material in the open edge. It would be even sturdier if you continued that stiff material in through the top neckline edge of the jacket. Horsehair braid is a good option, but if that ends up not being sturdy enough for your tastes, soft plastic boning (the cheap stuff, not anything like German plastic or synthetic whalebone) inserted into the edge would work quite well. If you have issues keeping the sleeves up, they can be attached, either permanently or with hidden snaps on the inside, to the pink undershirt.
The skirt is also tricky, but the main issue you will have will likely be keeping the petal shape, not keeping the poof. There are going to be at least two parts to the structure of the skirt: an underlayer that holds the petals out away from your body, and structure within the petals that keep their curved shape and allow them to fall in that lovely egg shape around your body.
For the underlayer, I would recommend a small petticoat. Be sure to get or make one with more of a bell shape than an A-line shape, because this will help support the top of the skirt as well as the bottom. Thankfully, the front of the skirt is closed above the knee or mid thigh (depending on how you are proportioning this to yourself), so you can easily hide a support garment underneath.
For the shape of the petals, you will need to do a few things. First is to make sure you pattern them so that they retain a curved shape on their own – the inside of the petal is going to be larger than the outside edge. This is simple enough on the petals that are split between the two shades of pink down the center, since you can simply make the two pieces curved, sew them together, and have a curved shape. The pattern will look roughly like this, though be sure to do some tests at small scale to ensure the proper curvature:
(ignore that my handwriting is terrible!)
You can see here that the middle seam is curved to allow more space inside of there than a simple straight seam would allow – this is what creates the curve of the petal. It’s the same principle as a princess seam or any other curved seam that creates fullness.
For the front petals with asymmetrical seamlines, you will need to play with the patterns a LOT to create fullness in the top portion without adding too much fullness near the sides. On these, I would recommend also creating a vertical seam on the light pink portions, running from the tip of the petal to the seam that attaches it to the dark pink (so about halfway up the petal), so that you can shape it with the fullness that you need. These petals would then be three pieces (two light, one dark) rather than two. I would personally pattern the symmetrical petals first and then modify a copy of that pattern by slicing along the curve where the dark meets the light and adding seam allowance to that edge. This will ensure the same shape as the other petals and save you a bit of time on trying to get those curves correct!
The petals themselves are also going to need some structure in order to keep their shape. Interfacing will help quite a bit. You can also experiment with a few things, which will give you a few different effects: running a length of plastic boning down the center, running a length of wire down the center, running a length of wire around the outside edge.
The boning would be the most “bouncy” of the structures, and would be the first thing I would go with. Wire down the center would be a hybrid. Wire around the edges would be stiffest, but would also be the most posable. Be sure to get a wire that won’t discolor your fabric over time, like a millinery wire, which is intended for use next to fabric. If you are finding that the petals tend to collapse with only a center support, you can also try a center support and a V-shaped support, with the lines of the V running from the point, through the centers of the panels, and then to the waist.
This skirt is going to be heavy and cumbersome pretty much no matter what you do, so be sure to give the waistband good support!
Hello! I've recently discovered your blog and I saw you never went to uni and have really cool ideas about education. I'll be finishing my undergrad soon and the thought of starting a master's degree fills me with dread. I feel like uni has mostly been making me vaguely unhappy, but on the other hand I'm not sure I could actually learn more on my own or what I would actually do with my life other than academics. I know this is really random, but I'd love to hear your thoughts, if you have any :)
For millions of years our species evolved without structured days, in a world of changing circumstance where adaptability meant success or failure. From a young age we would be exposed to that intrinsic chaos of life, and we would learn to walk our own path for better or worse.
In a very recent timeline we have dramatically changed childhood. We have taken children out of their natural tendency to experience and grow from chaos, and placed them into rigid structured environments.
This state of submission to the structured day gradually creeps further into life. We get younger kids in pre-preschools, and we send older kids to university, first for bachelors, but when that isn’t impressive anymore we send them in for masters and doctorates and so on.
While there is still a cultural myth of the “Chaotic Childhood, Structured Adulthood” the fact is children have virtually no exposure to the typical life-chaos they would have experienced even a hundred years ago. This fundamentally restricts what our brains are prepared to deal with - and consequentially more and more people are uncomfortable without structured guidance.
Whenever I hear someone say they struggle to imagine life outside academics, it typically reflects that their life has been governed and shaped in such a way the only environment they have learned to live within - is the school itself. Which is perfectly reasonable if that is where you have spent the majority of your life.
(On a side note - this also reflects the recent evolution of startup culture, where childlike rewards imply a “Fun” business culture, essentially mirroring the vibrant but fiercely structured experience of grade school. That people long for such cheap environments is a sort of twisted nostalgia.)
So anyway I realize that what I’ve written may seem cold and impersonal thus far, and what I’m going to say next may seem incredibly rude. However I want you to know I say this with the kindest intentions. If you have been made to be only useful for one thing (generating capital for a business, getting good test scores for a school etc) then you lack utility in your own life.
What I suggest someone do in your situation - is to live life beyond your comforts so you can experience the chaos of life fully. University is rarely an environment that promotes genuine adulthood - and if you want to have a life beyond the walls of a university (or whatever office may hire you) - you are going to need to catchup on all the things you have been missing out on over the years.
Go do something physical and relatively unstructured. Learn to learn without textbooks and final exams. Relearn to read a book without studying it. Buy a $10 keyboard from goodwill and play improvised jazz. Just generally do what you need to so the repressed chaos-seeking child inside of you can finally learn what it needs to in order to grow into a functioning adult. People may accuse you of being “Childish” especially at first - but accepting that part of you and letting it breath is better for your long term mental health than never having given it a chance in a world designed to squash it.