I never understood why people are constantly making new dating “requirements”
*Over my friends house*
Friend 1: Ayo bro, 2019 and forward we not fucking with any chick that’s making less than $18 an hour.
Friend 2: Right that’s the wave right there
Me: No girls making less that $18 an hour? In this economy?? lol
Friend 1: Yea bro we only dealing with girls that are making money like us!
Me: Nigga YOU don’t even make $18 an hour
Friend 1: Not right at this moment but you know ima get it.
Me: Then how about we actually get it first
Me: No one in this room is making that much. Why are y’all making dating harder than it has to be?
Friend 2: Cause that’s how bitches be nowadays, so we gotta smarten up
Friend 1: Right! it’s called having standards.
Me: Just because some “bitches” want a dude that’s making money like that, doesn’t mean that’s how all or even a majority of women think.
Me: It’s one thing if we all have a lifestyle that we’re maintaining and we want someone that’s similar to it. But every year it seems like more people are randomly pulling new requirements out they ass that doesn’t even correlate to the lifestyle that they have.
Me: What happened to just liking and dating people for who they are.
Friend 1: Maaan if she out here making money what else is there to like *laughs*
Me: I don’t know, maybe her personality.. tf
Friend 2: Man like you said this economy is trash, making money is the only personality trait that matters.
Me: Y’all sound like the most delusional GoldDiggers of 2019
Me: Listen point blank i remember a time where girls didn’t talk to me at all, let alone let me have sex with them. I’m not about to start limiting my options now just because she’s making minimum wage, ESPECIALLY in America of all places
Me: That’s cutting out like.. *counts on my finger* like 90% of any girl that would like me
GoldDigger 1: Man you gotta stop fucking with these broke bitches bro
Me: We are literally in your mothers basement, in the hood, making minimum wage talkin about who we not fucking with like we can even afford to have this kind of conversation.
Me: Y’all two sound like every nigga that R&B girls would sing and complain about in the early 2000′s up to now
GoldDigger 1: All we saying is that we not messing with broke bitches anymore
Me: And all im saying is that y’all about to be some lonely ass niggas all 2019 and forward.
Can we please stop focusing our relationships around material wealth or financial advantages. Not dating someone because they have no drive or ambition is not the same as not dating someone because they aren’t currently at a certain financial level. Im not telling you guys to date bum niggas. But a Bum Nigga is someone that has no ambition to do well for himself/herself or others, and is content with doing the bare minimum to get by.
Basing you search for a relationship around money or status is a recipe for disaster; Because once you have it you’ll realize that there needs to be something more in order to have happiness in a relationship.
Buying stuff gets old after awhile and finding someone that has genuine care and love for who you are, is one of hardest things to find but it’s they only thing you need.
but im broke so maybe is see things differently lol 😅
If there’s one thing I’ve learned this year, it’s that just because someone is nice or even just seems nice, doesn’t mean shit. Some of the most manipulative and evil people can be nice. Moral of the story: ANYONE is capable of being nice. And everyone posses the ability to be nice. I always hear people say things like, “oh I know him, he’s so nice!” I’ve learned to raise my standards beyond “nice” towards genuine. I’m not impressed by nice anymore. People act like they deserve an award just for being nice. There ain’t that many real straight up people in the world and lots of people have fake personalities. Some of them don’t even realize, and some of them just hope no one notices. I want people who are gonna be real with me. Being nice is nice but I need more than that to trust you.
I’m happy to see that @mistigirl2 announced some reworking of the content warnings that were a major arguing point in the latest drama in the hypnosis community here on Tumblr. But I have yet to see what the actual guidelines are for those warnings. In response to the repeated calls by @neuralnetsandprettypatterns for a community standard boilerplate for content warnings, I did some thinking about what that should look like. I have also seen, both on Tumblr and on NNPP’s Discord server, arguments about where the responsibility lies for the contents of hypnotically themed files. I’m aiming to address both of those issues with this proposal.
The most common defense I have seen regarding the possible abreactions that listeners may have to file contents is that they should “pre-listen” to the file, or to sample bits of the file, before trancing to it. This indicates an assumption that a file will still work with intended effect even if the listener knows what is in the file when they then consent to trance to the file. If that’s the case, it seems to me that the simplest solution would be to simply provide written transcripts for the file, allowing the prospective listener to see exactly what they will be listening to. Short of doing that, and recognizing that many files are not so linear as just a single voice speaking and may have layers of simultaneous inputs, I think the following form should be sufficient when properly completed to summarize the important bits:
Summary: This is your opportunity to “sell” your file, and tell listeners what its purpose/intention is.
Target Audience: This doesn’t have to be a restrictive audience, just an indicator of who is most likely to benefit or enjoy this file.
Suggestions (Detailed, do not combine thematic suggestions):
One of the other undercurrents of the recent arguments was around the idea of responsibility, and where the responsibility lies. One side seemed to argue that it should be solely the creator’s responsibility, while the other side seemed to respond that the listener is fully responsible for themselves. My view is that responsibility lies not only on both sides, but in fact, on all sides. So I would like to propose the following standardized responsibility breakdown, perhaps to be distributed with files. (For those curious, this thought was inspired by the GPL (GNU General Public License) and the freedoms and protections it offers for software. I’m an IT nerd, after all.)
The Creator of the file shall produce content in good faith without intention to harm Listeners or negatively impact their lives or livelihoods.
The Creator shall also provide either a transcript of the file or a detailed list of Suggestions, Triggers, Anchors, and Subliminals contained within the file, to allow fully informed consent on the part of any Listeners. (Hereafter referred to as Content Lists.)
The Content List shall be available with the same access permissions as the file itself, ideally in the same location or packaged with the file. (This should also offer the Creator some protection for their creative work if behind a paywall, etc.)
The Creator shall promptly modify Content Lists to correct any omissions that are brought to their attention.
Any modifications to Content Lists shall be announced through the creator’s regular communication channels that promote the file(s).
Creators shall not use the Content Lists of other Creators to duplicate, simulate, or approximate the original work.
A Distributor is defined as anyone who promotes or redistributes (by means of linking, reblogging, tweeting, etc.) the file.
Distributors shall verify the existence and availability of Content Lists for any files they promote or distribute.
Distributors shall forward any concerns of note from Listeners to the Creator.
Distributors shall verify that any changes to Content Lists that they are made aware of are reflected in their distribution, or are available via a link they have provided.
Distributors shall not beheld responsible for the content of the files or the Content Lists, only for their communication about such files.
The Listener shall confirm the existence and availability of a Content List for the file.
The Listener shall safely preview the file via the method that works best for them, either by “pre-listening” to the file and skipping inductions and sampling the suggestions or by reading the Content List for the file.
The Listener shall bring to the attention of the Creator (or if the Creator is unknown or cannot be contacted directly, the Distributor) any omissions in the Content List. The Listener should not trance to the file until they have verified an updated Content List.
If the Listener decides to trance to the file, it shall then be considered Informed Consent regarding the contents of the file.
I believe these guidelines provide protections and personal responsibility for all parties involved in the release of a file. If everyone can agree to and operate by these guidelines, hopefully such arguments and community divisions as we’ve seen in the past week can be limited to civilized debates on individual topics of differing opinions.
just because someone else is so beautiful does not mean you are not. we all find flowers and colorful skies, puppies and kittens, peaches and stars - awesome, cute, and beautiful even tho they are all different.
Barefeet, leaps off the edge of the pool. Water swirls upward as a body curls into a bawl, settling on the bottom. That’s where you stay for as long as you can.
For some reason, complete silence helps you think. It has been this way since you learned to swim. There, in the deep water–only you and your thoughts. You shouldn’t like being unable to breathe, live in seclusion, speaking to no one. And yet.
You’re not always like this. Namjoon knows that.
The door flung open and he saw you crumpled clothes by the pool. He parameters the edge, saw the distorted image of you there, sitting on the bottom of the pool. In collected and composed manner, he takes off his shirt, leave his boxers on. And jumped in without second thoughts.
Foreign presence. Your eyes snapped open to see Namjoon’s face, so close to yours.
i hate being single but I think I have such high standards because I’ve been hurt so much and I’m like a 3 asking for an 11. Plus movies and books don’t help out, just makes me add more standards for my “perfect” guy.
I want a bad boy who’s pure at heart
I want someone who’s smile brightens up my day by looking at it
I want someone who I can be myself with
I want someone who has a great sense of humor
I want someone who knows how to keep a conversation
I want someone to travel with
I want someone to love
I want someone to care
I want someone to be all about me, head over heels about me
Standards for men have never been at such a peak as in 2019.
Literally there will never be anything better than the Himbo and Feral Bastard stereotypes. And you know why? Because they both have their mandatory Respect Women Juice genes, which we’ve rarely ever had before in character personality types.
With the sudden recognition of characters such as Thor, Kronk and Prince Charming from Cinderella (Himbos) or Michael Sheen, Inosuke and Remus Sanders (Feral) we are just at our absolute peak as a species.
I know I’m the last person who should be talking about this since I have horrible self-esteem and confidence, but what if we didn’t care about the standards of what we should look and act like.
Hear me out.
What if we woke up one day and decided to be completely and unapologetically who we were meant to be. What if we all died our hair and colored our skin and put on makeup of outrageous colors. If we wore whatever clothes we wanted to wear, and wrote stories about whatever we wanted to write about, what beautiful creatures we would be.
Every human being is held back by standards and gender roles that try to dictate how exactly they should look and act and speak and dress. Imagine if one day you woke up and forgot all of that. What great things we could do. If we woke up and didn’t care about what the world said was pretty, what beauty we could possess.
If we weren’t held by these standards, there would be nothing holding us back from being completely ourselves.