I think the most concerning thing about Tumblr’s new design is that not only is it determined to badger me into following every single person whose posts cross my dash, which feels like it represents a fundamental misunderstanding of how people use the site, but on multiple occasions it’s suggested that I follow myself.
Sometimes I feel the need to remind people that there is a pattern of conspicuous consumption to social media that pushes us to think things like, “if they aren’t posting about it, they don’t care about it.”
If you ever have that feeling pop up (and it will, because part of the stimulus-response of social media is that performance/audience aspect of demonstrating concern via posts and engagement), take a breath and remember:
• that blog or poster may have multiple outlets and the one you see as lacking is their self-care distraction account
• that blog or poster may be very active in IRL activist circles and doesn’t want their activity tracked back to their identity via social media
• that blog or poster may have a disability or disorder that makes it overwhelming to engage with these topics at the speed social media demands, and may prefer to engage with them one-on-one in a space no one else can see or comment on
• that blog or poster may be so deeply affected by the topic at hand that they need to process personal feelings about it without displaying those feelings on social media
• that blog or poster may be doing plenty of listening and learning and adapting their IRL behavior but fears the forced permanence of bad-faith screenshots and shares if they do make a mistake in their attempt to be active in a conversation that shouldn’t center them
• any number of other valid reasons that we need to be careful about conflating someone else’s morality or motivations with the way they interact with a highly limited, censored, imbalanced, ad-driven social medium
You’ve seen people who know all the right things to tweet about justice and accountability, then the mask slips and they end up being harmful jerks just exploiting the performance of social justice to get attention. You’ve seen the people who you know in your heart of hearts will unapologetically use at least one slur today, sharing memes about how everyone but them needs to change.
Have faith in the other side — people who are learning and growing and enacting that justice and accountability, just not in an easily shareable format. They’re out there.
Young people in Europe and North America in particular, but increasingly throughout the world, are being psychologically prepared for useless jobs, trained in how to pretend to work, and then by various means shepherded into jobs that almost nobody really believes serve any meaningful purpose. […] I am convinced this is the primary reason for the rise of social media. […] What we are witnessing is the rise of those forms of popular culture that office workers can produce and consume during the scattered, furtive shards of time they have at their disposal in workplaces where even when there’s nothing for them to do, they still can’t admit it openly.
Sorry for not posting for a while! I’m back and I brought a Herongraystairs Family Social Media Au with me! ;)) Ok so I decided to obviously have Herongraystairs as the parents but also have Kit, James, Lucie, and Matthew all exist at the same time as their children (except for Matthew but he’s so close knit to them that he’s basically family). I hope that makes sense!
I’m sorry that this isn’t funny and light as my edits usually are but I just wanted to show Thomas in a more serious light. I may do a more funny one for Thomas at another point in time but anyway. A lot of people see him as either one half of Thomstair or ‘the one who cleans up the Merry Thieves’ messes’. I want that to stop to be honest. He is so so much more. I wanted to show him as being brotherly and caring how we all know he is. His character is overlooked a lot so I wanted to give him the hype. He deserves it. If you think anything is out of character or just doesn’t fit, please let me know! I do take constructive criticism, just please be kind! Also, I understand that the Twitter part might seem unnecessary or like it doesn’t fit but it does (in my mind anyway). It’s James showing his appreciation for Lucie, in light of it being Barbara’s death anniversary.
Huh – I just noticed that Tumblr’s post IDs jumped six hundred quadrillion places on February 24th of this year. It happened at some point
6:20 PM and 6:35 PM UTC, from the look of it. I wonder what that was about?
Here’s my entry for @evansxxx writing challenge! Using prompts 10&14, I hope you guys like it😄
“Chris? Y/N?” Scott yells from out front “Back yard Scotty!” You yelled back. Scott jogged around to the back and came over to you sitting in the lounge chair and Chris on the ground putting something together. He sat in the lounge chair next to you “Swing set for the kids finally came?” You nodded your head “He told me he doesn’t want my help, so I’m just going to play the supportive partner and watch him fail” you said to Scott as you sipped from your glass of water.
Both of you watching your husband trying to put together the swing set for the kids in the backyard. “I heard that Y/N” Chris sighed “oh good because I meant you to”. Scott laughed and hollered over to his brother “why don’t you just read the directions?” Chris stood “I don’t need to read directions on how to put together a stupid swing”. You looked over at Scott “he’s been working on putting the same two pieces together for the last hour” Scott tried his hardest to not laugh “where are the directions anyway?” You held up the booklet “he tried to throw it away but I kept it because I knew this would happen. Because the same thing happened when the kids were born and he tried to put their cribs together”.
A shadow was suddenly looming over you and you looked up to see your husband with a frustrated look and his hands on his hips “will you stop being rude and help me please?” You stood and smirked “I’m only doing this because you called me rude and I take that as a compliment” Chris just rolled his eyes as you walked ahead of him. With you reading the directions and Scott helping it only took another hour to put the whole set together.
Now you and Chris were sitting in the grass by the swing set watching the kids and Scott play. He reached over and held your hand “I love you and I’m sorry for being a stubborn ass today” you smiled and laughed “I love you to babe”. He leaned over and gave you a peck on your cheek. You stood and pulled him up with you “come on Captain, let’s relieve Scott of kid duty” he laughed “you got it General” you just shook your head as you both ran over to play with the kids.
I don’t want to be self hating or sound like I’m putting white people on a pedestal. Black women are beautiful. Just not me. Being black and ugly is hard to say the least. Colorism, texturism, and featurism are real. And of course racism. I know of black women that resemble Naomi Campbell that have trouble dating. I’m ignored or insulted. If you don’t look like Rihanna it’s a problem. And white/non black women who look like honey boo boo having great relationships and being considered attractive
Let's Talk: Cancel Culture and the Lack of Influencer Accountability
This week a shocking reveal occurred on social media which created a not so friendly environment on twitter (as if it can get any worse).
You may know that Jenna Marbles made a video addressing past events that were displayed on her channel that could seem racially insensitive. Overall, I appreciated her apology because she held herself accountable for her actions. However, as a very white girl, is it my place to forgive her? No.
So I decided to wait it out, sure I was sad that such an icon was deciding to leave youtube due to her remorse of harming anyone with her actions, but I waited out until I saw a good amount of people who the apology pertained to that forgave her. They did.
In all honesty, calling Jenna’s botched tan racist is like calling that episode of friends racist because of Ross’ tan – there is way more to be mad at about that show.
The conversation about cancel culture blew up on twitter where people were pitting the blame of Jenna’s departure on the people of twitter, including influencers, specifically white, placing blame.
Here’s the thing though. The only thing wrong with cancel culture is its name. Cancel culture doesn’t do what it’s supposed to do. It’s meant to cancel someone, yet they always find there way back to top, ie. Louis CK.
Something that influencers need to understand about cancel culture is that in a way it’s spreading awareness to someones poor behaviour and brings it to the person in questions attention. An influencer isn’t going to apologize because of 1 comment under their video but they sure will try if #blankisoverparty is trending.
Cancel culture on paper is meant to hold people accountable for there actions. So I decided to compile a list for these creators, as well as their fans who need to be aware of the theory of cancel culture.
Don’t get me wrong, cancel culture sucks, see James Charles. However influencers still deserve to have their dirt brought up and be held accountable and PROVE they really did change, assumptions otherwise shouldn’t be made because it is very easy not to change in ten years.
- Ten years ago was 2010 NOT the 90’s — Ten years ago and being young isn’t a defence or a reason, it’s an excuse using the narrative that young people are dumb and ignorant to their surroundings. We’re not.
- People can change — But that change is only accepted if you hold your past-self accountable and prove your remorse.
- Creators need to hold other creators accountable for their actions — Regular twitter users aren’t the reason why cancel culture fails, fellow creators are. Hold people in the industry accountable instead of letting them get off scot-free like Shane Dawson.
- The only thing wrong with cancel culture is its name — Holding people accountable isn’t the problems, it’s that no one is ever permanently cancelled and it paints the whole awareness as a failure.
- Holding people accountable is NOT bullying — No matter who you are, people are not owed forgiveness and if they harm people, they need to held responsible for their actions no matter when it happened.
- People who give bad people platforms are just as bad as the bad people themselves — Shame (Yes I know) Dawson constantly gives bad people platforms which creates a false narrative that they aren’t so bad.
- Do not accept an apology that wasn’t meant for you — If somebody is caught using the n-word, the only people who can forgive are black people.
- Do not say “sorry IF I offended anyone” — You did offend somebody, that’s why you were called out.
- Respect isn’t baseball or Bill Clinton’s policy on crime, you only get 2 chances no matter how rich you are — Three strikes is too much, you get one chance to change your act to how it was originally and if you fail, you are done.
For young influencers, especially tik tokers:
Gen Z kids have been taught about the idea of social media footprint and the harm it can cause forever. If you use harmful language and commit harmful actions, you deserve to be held accountable for those decisions, it does not matter what your age is.
This rant was mainly sparked by Corinna Kopf’s tweets about Jenna Marbles leaving.
I noticed quite a lot of contradictory phrases. Saying someone should be held accountable but their growth should be seen instead of their past actions doesn’t hold up in context. It’s literally what Jenna’s video is about: holding herself accountable and showing she’s grown while using her platform to vocally admit that. Yes, we should hold people to their current position but how do we know someone’s changes if they’ve never explicitly said that have. I love Jenna but no matter how long ago it happened people deserve an apology.
A rather radical example of this contradiction from Corinna is as if someone murders someone and years later they realize killing is wrong. Should we hold them to their past actions or their current outlook? Like I said, maybe this comparison is rather extreme but the message upholds.
I will admit it is true that Jenna is probably the perfect person, but human mistakes are still meant to be observed and called out.
It’s also not Corinna’s place to forgive her, just like it wasn’t mine.
By pitting the blame on regular twitter users, she forgets the fact that so many problematic influencers maintain a-list careers because other influencers constantly provide them with a platform. For example, people reviewing Jeffree Star’s palettes or giving someone the ability to be the focus of a way too long docu-series
With almost all popular things, cancel culture can go two ways.
1. A random person uses #tomhollandisoverparty because they’re bored which results in people using the hashtag to question the purpose yet they’re still contributing to the trend.
2. Someone says something insensitive and the hashtag is well deserved. It gets the accused to reflect on their actions and respond.
But the problem with cancel culture isn’t its theory, it’s that it never works.
But is how Corinna says it, do we “suck for that” or is it people with her mindset that will allow accountability to be over shined by ‘growth’ (Not specific to Jenna, of course – We love you)
Despite his harmful use of racial slurs and propaganda, Jeffree Star still capitalizes in the beauty community, he is still the most popular. Yes. Not infamous, popular. He barely apologizes yet somehow is rewarded with forgiveness anyways.
But why does Jeffree get away with this? Because other gurus promote his product to their audience which gives him more support. His scandals aren’t new, they are myspace old and he consistently gets more chances warranted by the people around him NOT the people who are harmed.
Pro-tip for Shame (Yes) Dawson is to stop thinking that past trauma and mental health issues are an excuse to harm other people. Jeffree Star’s rough childhood isn’t a reason for calling Jackie Aina a gorilla or telling black women to bleach their skin. Being called homophobic slurs is not a reason to call someone racial slurs. Treat people how you want to be treated. I thought we all learnt that in kindergarten?
But I guess we do say often birds of a feather fly together for a reason. Shane Dawson has never been held accountable for his racial, predatory and even bestiality actions. Is that because of his viewers or influencers failing at their jobs? Influencers are meant to influence so when you see people constantly praising Shane Dawson for his videos, you being to question the integrity of the influencer rather than perpetrator themselves.
Friendly reminder, Shane Dawson won an award for providing people like Tana Mongeau and Jake Paul platforms instead of helping them seek support in private. Tanacon was a fiasco that needed legal attention not 12-year-old girl’s attention. While I don’t support him, painting Jake Paul as a sociopath instead of a manipulative, abusive jerk is harmful to everyone in the scenario including Jake himself.
However, as I said, celebrities give him a platform and label him as the grandfather of youtube – I don’t know about you but my grandfather never called a 19-year-old a sexual predator to “serve them a piece of humble pie”. When Shane says 'grandfather’ does he mean boomer energy of developing jealousy of younger more successful people because if so, spot on.
Overall, cancel culture does deserve to be cancelled (in all it’s irony), however, no one to get away with something even if it happened years ago.
In all, Jenna, we love you. Shane and Jeffree, we do not.
Watch Amandabb’s channel for a more in depth criticism of Jeffree Star and Shane Dawson especially since she’s from a way more intended perspective on their blatant racism.
I find it embarrassing when I see black women claim biracials as black. For example Meghan Markle, she is biracial and has always called herself that. I don’t think anyone is obligated to follow the one drop rule anymore.
You and Damian have been paired up for an assignment much to both your dismay. Now you have to learn to work together for the next week. Little did you know, the two of you have much more in common than you thought. You end up forming an unexpected friendship. 5/??
Alot of the time I hate being a black women. Been crying myself to sleep since I was probably 11. Im reminded on a daily that no one cares about black women and that by society’s standards I’m unnactractive and barely a women. College has only worsened my thoughts. For once Id liked to know what its like to be a woman when people see me and not a black woman. I get treated differently in almost all situations compared to my nonblack friends, classmates, and coworkers and its hurts.
No one addressed this here and I’m sick of it happening, so I’ll say it. STOP AGGRESSIVELY POLICING SOMEONE ON WHAT THEY SHOULD IDENTIFY AS. Just because someone doesn’t look black or mixed with black to YOU, doesn’t negate their upbringing nor experience. Those who are black / mixed with black are not a monolith and come in all shapes and sizes. If y’all gonna throw of this phrase in an attempt to invalidate someone’s experience, then at least stick to it.
Private First-Class Vanessa Guillen, aged only 20 years old, was reported missing two months ago at the Fort Hood Army Base in Killeen, Texas, on April 22. She went missing shortly after she confided in her family she was being sexually harassed by an unnamed sergeant. She said she felt unsafe while on-duty. On Monday this week, a group of 30 volunteers searching for the Private discovered human remains and items believed to be linked to her in an undisclosed area, The Daily Mail reports. During the desperate search for Guillen, the Third Cavalry Regiment commander also launched an investigation into her sexual assault allegations. To highlight the prevalence of sexual assault in the force, other army women shared their stories via Twitter using the hashtag #IAmVanessaGuillen.
You and Damian have been paired up for an assignment much to both your dismay. Now you have to learn to work together for the next week. Little did you know, the two of you have much more in common than you thought. You end up forming an unexpected friendship. 6/??