This discourse is going around again so let me reiterate:
Supporting atheists so long as they’re not straight white male atheists without religious trauma isn’t supporting atheists. (Often there’s an implied addition of “and only so long as your religious trauma was caused by Christianity specifically”, which is of course racist but I’ll let people with more personal experience speak to that.)
I say this as a trans bisexual nonbinary person with tons of religious trauma! Putting conditions on your support of a minority isn’t support of them, it’s an exercise of power over them. When you say that people are allowed to be atheists only if they’re the right kind of people and have the right reasons, you’re expressing and reinforcing the idea that religion should have a dominant, default place in society while atheism should be relegated to the margins. That idea doesn’t need any more supporters!
And also, it’s presumptuous and offensive to assume that a person’s trauma is the reason for a part of their identity – even if they definitely have trauma. This is as true for atheism as it is for anything else. Atheists are atheists because we don’t believe in God, and that doesn’t require any further justification or explanation. If we feel comfortable going into more detail about the relationship between our religious trauma and our atheism with you, we will.
Atheists are allowed to be proud of the work we put into accepting ourselves as atheists. Atheism is just as good and beautiful and wonderful as belonging to a religion.
If those statements didn’t sit well with you, you have some internalized anti-atheist bigotry to get over. That’s nothing to be ashamed of – I do too – but please refrain from making posts about what kind of atheists are “good atheists” until you’ve unlearned those attitudes.