God commanded in the Bible that the love of husband and wife should cooperate with Him, the Creator, in bringing new life into the world, to bless the union with the challenges of parenthood and to increase society and give a nation a future.
Many people don’t deal well with kids at first. Maybe your own parents, and his parents, didn’t like you kids as babies crying, having tantrums, pooping your diapers, making a mess, and having to be fed and watched on the hour. But children eventually teach adults about the meaning of sacrifice and of love, because they are so innocent and not sneaky, selfish, and isolated like we adults are.
Having children is also a chance of saying that you love someone so much, you don’t mind giving them a piece of you, forever. A woman does not just give up an ovum, and a man doesn’t just give up a sperm. Yes, there is this beautiful and miraculous mixture of two completely different sets of DNA in a baby.
Beyond that, you give up a piece of your soul when you invite someone to help you make a baby. It is the ultimate loving act, because it is the ultimate surrender to another person of a part of your essence. It would be like chopping off your arm, or your leg, and letting someone else have it. But it goes even further, even deeper.
With his surrender, the man, out of love, allows a woman to continue part of herself. And she also gives a man a chance of immortality, in a sense, a part of him that will go on after they die. For the man, for the woman, there is a deep, deep sense of trust that has to be there, and the deepest trust only comes with the deepest love.
Because once a baby is here, nature and instinct will take over. You will become like a tiger, like a grizzly, like a great white shark. All of a sudden, you go from not liking kids and not caring about them to becoming this ferocious protective guardian. You go from being peaceful and chill and laid back, to watching with these beady eyes if anyone comes five feet close to your baby. You go from being sweet and nice, to wanting to kill, dead, whoever would try to hurt your baby.
In almost all countries, and cultures of the world, this is so obvious, it does not need explanation. Practically the world over, when a man falls madly in love, he says, “I can see her having my baby.” And when a woman falls in love, she says, “He is so special to me, I want to have his baby.” Only in countries where we have become selfish and self-centered do we talk about loving someone and stopping, blocking, plugging up, in a sense, the chance to swap flesh and blood.
People think it is so cool and exciting to fall in love and “swap spit” when they’re kissing. They have no idea how beautiful it is to have the fullest, true love and “swap DNA.” And nine months later, your DNA comes out with little feet and starts running around, making pitter patter sounds, soon after.
If you don’t want to have someone’s baby, or if you say you don’t want a person to have your baby, your love just isn’t the deepest love there is. Sorry. That’s just the honest truth. And the Bible talks about this importance of children, but we don’t even need the Bible to tell us this because it is so obvious—when and if you are deeply in love.
I have seen it thousands of times with couples. Even couples that are not married but they are mad, crazy in love with each other. They start having relations and you see it all the time that when they find out there’s a pregnancy, they start crying and getting all happy and she says, “Oh wow, I’m going to have your baby” and he looks at her and holds her and kisses her and says, “I’m so happy YOU’RE having my baby.”
It’s called deep, natural, normal human love. Only in our selfish and self-centered society do we have to explain to people that this is what happens when normal people fall in love. And the Bible affirms that this is what a Christian marriage has—it has deep, fullest love, open to sharing with each other their DNA.
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God bless and take care! Fr. Angel