I can’t get this out of my mind but Aparna from Indian matchmaking is the kind of girl Indian mothers-in-law will dislike, because she is educated, outspoken, straight forward, ambitious and expects the same from her partner and will probably not stand for the attitude of ‘service to the family’ that is expected from daughters-in-law in this culture. ( a la Akshay’s mother)
Honestly Ankita is pretty similar and having to the see the sparkle disappear from her eyes each second during her conversation with the 'associate matchmaker’ broke my heart a little.
Inspite of all the education, modern upbringing, equal efforts and expectation of equal rewards and treatment, must we as women always bow down to what the man may or may not want?
I’m sure I was not the only one absolutely disgusted when Akshay said he wanted his mother in his wife… Like when I found out his alliance fell through, I was a little relieved because that girl is an aspiring Chartered Accountant, like that degree is one of the hardest ones to get in this country and you gotta literally work so hard that the skin falls off your a**, and she would have had to settle for an immature, boring, mamma boy. (there is a difference between treating your mother right and being a mamma boy)
Sima Aunty kept painting Aparna as someone who is difficult to please or 'difficult to deal with’ , when Aparna was just saying she wanted someone on a similar wavelength as her which I don’t think is a farfetched ask.
The associate matchmaker kept asking what would Ankita do if her future husband had better business opportunities elsewhere and had to move, like did that aunty for a second forget that Ankita was the CEO of her own denim fashion line? Like did she forget Ankita not only would have to give up family and friends but her own fuking company?? Like she can’t just up and wrap up the business she worked so hard to raise and that too for a man she met two days ago???
Where did we go wrong? Why are ambitious women looked at as a 'problem’, 'tough to deal with’ , 'stubborn’? When all we want is to be loved, supported and encouraged by the person we are going to have to share the rest of OUR lives with? The efforts will definitely be reciprocated by us, but we don’t see the efforts from the opposite side happening.
After the show I became so much more averse to the entire concept of marriage, seeing as to how ONLY I will have to Adjust and Compromise.
Raise your sons right, because the daughters are being raised to adjust and compromise for your boys, make sure they don’t have to though, your kids didn’t achieve diety status just because they were born with an extra appendage down there.
Gosh I’m pissed