I know it's a small thing, but I love how my co-worker keeps saying 'I know you want music on but I just don't understand how you can work like that!'
And every time I say 'It's the only way my adhd brain can focus. It's not a want.'
And then we repeat the same cycle there next time it comes up. OTL
I know I've said this a hundred times on a hundred different subjects, but words matter.
I don't want music on. I need music on.
I don't believe in evolution. I accept evolution.
I don't identify as genderfluid. I am genderfluid.
I phrase things this way for a reason. Saying I want music implies I function just as well without it when I don't. Saying I believe in evolution implies I believe it with or without evidence, putting it on the same field as religion. Saying I identify as genderfluid implies, at least to some degree, that I chose it when it's just a descriptor for who I am.
Please pay attention to your words. They make such a difference.