22 lessons I have learned in my (almost) 22 years of life
1. “Your health is your wealth.”-my mom
2. “The trick to wearing makeup is to make it look like you’re not wearing makeup at all.”-my dad
3. When you have a with someone, remember first to understand and then to be understood.
4. If a relationship (platonic or not) falls apart it is because there were flaws from both sides, it’s almost never one person’s fault alone.
5. The single most important part of any relationship is COMMUNICATION.
6. Sometimes it’s who you know, sometimes it’s what you know, oftentimes it’s both.
7. You cannot help someone who doesn’t want your help.
8. Although I find myself going back and forth on the topic, my faith is what has gotten me through the worst of times when I thought no one else could help.
9. There is a very thin line between being nice and becoming a doormat for others, tread lightly.
10. As Andy Warhol said, “There is beauty in everything,” The ugliest things in life have beauty. To find it in everything is one of life’s hardest challenges.
11. There is no such thing as successfully ‘faking it until you make it’. Developing and maintaining true self confidence takes a lot of time, effort, and honesty with yourself.
12. YOU CANNOT TRULY LOVE SOMEONE ELSE UNTIL YOU LEARN TO TRULY LOVE YOURSELF FIRST.
13. “If you’re really sorry it means you won’t do it again.”-my 7th grade science teacher
14. Setting and meeting goals is what makes life worth living. A life without goals is a life without purpose.
15. “The best things in life make you sweaty.”-Edgar Allen Poe
16. Whether you consider them wise or not, you can learn a lot from people older than you.
17. As poet Sarah Kay once said, lots of people will walk through their lives with their fists up to their face, wanting to take on the world and everything in it. I’ve found that walking through life with my hands open and outstretched allows me to catch all the good and bad in the world and helps me to see everything in the world more clearly. (side note if you look up ‘sarah kay hands poem’ on youtube she does a far better job explaining it than me)
18. The only thing you can control in this life is how YOU act. When encountered with a big decision or major life change, sleep on it for 3 nights before acting to avoid letting those initial emotions to get the best of you.
19. Every action by every person is meant to reach the same goal; happiness.
20. Money is not the root of all evil, ignorance is.
21. Travelling is important to becoming cultured and developing a better worldview, but a person who is open to other ways of life besides their own is truly cultured. There’s a difference.
22. A wise psychology teacher in high school once told me “When you really look at the world and everyone in it, you’ll find that the amount of things we have in common far exceeds the number of things we don’t.”
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