okay, hear me out for a second. something has been keeping me very stressed as of late.
tumblr’s treatment of celebrities and it’s very own and specific branch of celebrity culture is very, very harmful and honestly terrifying - especially in the case of men.
sure thing, in the earlier phases of popular culture, tabloids, gossip magazines and official fan clubs were the sources of information for everyone, fans or not. but keep in mind that because of the extremely limited amount of knowledge and information (which, to an extent, either the celebs themselves or their agency controlled and held back), these people, these stars were more like ideas in people’s heads than anything. that restricted knowledge surely wasn’t enough to assign a personhood to, assume a personality about anybody, so fans treated them on the level they could: as idols, as role models, as people to admire. (with a few odd exceptions.)
however, the changing nature of accessibility and exposure is what has made the whole approach to this situation very dangerous, of which tumblr is a prime example. with the constant exchange and influx of information, celebrities and well-known people not only have their every move reported and commented on by those who have this as a “job” (paps for example), but the public also constantly gives its feedback. and it demands that instant information and knowledge more than ever.
because of this, the lines have totally been blurred in a way that people don’t only act like they have some sort of a personal connection to the person in question, but also act like they have a right to even more knowledge about their lives, their actions, their motives, and aren’t hesitant to outright express these demands or complain if they haven’t been met. and as a continuation, get incredibly disrespectful and downright violent if the person in question does something that doesn’t necessarily meet their concept of them.
people on tumblr invade celebrities. and not only by forming a right to know everything about them, not only by acting as some sort of a moral tribune. they invade their privacy, their intimacy and their bodies.
the way you treat the respective in vogue male darling is incredibly alarming, with 80% or more of the discussion being about sexual advances, or fantasies, or remarks on being attracted to him, his physique, his desirability. even if it’s about something intellectual or emotional, it more or less boils down to - pardon my french - wanting to fuck him.
before you start to think about what could be possibly wrong with that, try to envision the reverse of the situation - the same kind of attention and eagerly overstepping attitude towards women. constantly talking about what you’d (physically) do to them if you had the chance, calling every popular 30+ actress mummy/mommy, expressing how much you yearn to be with that woman, to touch them, etc. this website would burn faster than fucking rome did.
the fact that this is not only widespread but has somewhat become the norm is incredibly, incredibly disturbing. and let me clarify that the sexual angle, although the most severe, is just the tip of the iceberg. while the easier access to information, the vast amount of information, AND a lot of personal (often very intimate!) things being contributed by the celebrities themselves via social media should make it easier to treat these people as people, you’re doing the exact opposite. to be very blunt, a lot of this attitude that i’m referring to is downright dehumanising. and it doesn’t only happen with the big names. it happens in smaller communities, like with youtube stars or streamers. it is appalling.
instead of feeling like they’re more human, more close to us, you’re reducing them to black and white characters (idolised or condemned, buried, cancelled), to concepts that you can say or think whatever about, and ultimately to sex objects.
in a lot of cases, there are a myriad of things to celebrate and talk about regarding a celebrity. and yet, you keep talking about riding their dicks.
they are PEOPLE. just like you and i. people with personalities, emotions, friends and families. privileged, yes, in most cases, but still people.
have you ever thought about how all that information not only travels very fast to you, but the things you’re saying, how you’re treating them, can very easily reach them as well? (not even touching upon the fact that there are a lot of people whom you can reach quite directly on social, and even there users carry on with this behaviour.)
how would you feel like if you saw tens of thousands of people talking about nothing but how they want to get emotionally or sexually engaged with you, vehemently so? if 90% of the discussion you saw yourself involved in was incredibly explicit and forward about one of the most vulnerable and intimate things (yes, sex) in one’s life?
i’m afraid the fact that it usually happens to males has a lot to do with why this has become so normalised. and that isn’t an excuse. it’s not a pass.
tumblr is raving mad about the importance of consent (and is very right in doing so), but entirely ignores respect, autonomy, and common decency in this case.
don’t fucking invade other people just because you fancy them or have a somewhat perverse way of ‘loving’ them. it doesn’t give you any right.