There’s been discussion about homeschooling on my dash in the past few days that I felt like saying something about, as a person who was homeschooled. The argument is that home schooling kids lets parents abuse and isolate their kids and also is fundamental in brainwashing their kids into cults. And I’m conflicted because I’ll be the first to tell you that homeschooling communities are hotbeds for religious extremists and conspiracy theorists, I was SURROUNDED by them. There are many homeschoolers that are antivaxxers or religious extremists. Like I’m not going to deny that it’s a Problem
But also as an autistic person with adhd…My life would have been so much worse if homeschooling had not been an option. When I was going into the 1st grade we lived in an area with very few resources and i was considered “extremely gifted” and would have been just jumped forward like 3 grades had I gone to public school. It wouldn’t have gone well for me.
a lot of the reason I succeeded so much academically was that I was accommodated so well at home. I could get out of my chair and pace if I needed to, I could stim if I needed to, I didn’t have to deal with sensory overload because I could change my environment if I needed to. If I was forced to be surrounded by other kids in a non-home environment for hours every day…tbh I don’t understand how kids do it, and I understand why the school system messes kids up so much, and especially neurodivergent kids
I don’t like the implication that public schools don’t abuse kids, as if autistic children haven’t died in restraints at school or been stuffed into duffel bags for hours, as if relentless and cruel bullying isn’t abuse, as if being in a loud, overwhelming environment for most of the day without any ability to self regulate isnt going to be horribly detrimental to kids with sensory sensitivities. the school system is horrible and it’s not changing.
one of the families we know of through the homeschooling community pulled their (biracial) kids out of school because of persistent racist harassment the kids were getting from their (overwhelmingly white) peers which the school took nearly a year to even address. that kind of bullying is definitely abuse and the system is not going to do anything about it
like I don’t know what the solution is and like shit I get the ableist implications of antivaxxers congregating in home schooling communities but educational alternatives need to be an option somehow. public schools are horrible environments for so many kids and there needs to be an alternative. I don’t know, maybe there should be more regulation on homeschooling, definitely get rid of vaccination related loopholes in laws. but we can’t be like “oh yeah the school system is horrible and borderline torture for kids and abuse from teachers keeps killing or traumatizing autistic kids” and also be like “making every kid go to a public school will protect them from abuse”