me saying bye to my trans masc friends as they depart for jupiter to get more stupider
Can I just say, uh, I’m pretty sure noticing you’re asexual is harder than noticing you’re gay, straight, pan or otherwise. Like, I just read someone’s desciption of hitting puberty and, like, there’s nothing like that. There’s no sudden ‘boob’ moment, no sudden ‘fuck, I’d fuck that’ moment, not sudden anything. You just, like, plod on through life as usual going ‘oooh, that’s pretty, I’d like that hair’ or ‘oooooh, they’re nice, I’d like to be close to them’ but there’s no like, ‘oh, someone would want to fuck that but I don’t’, you know? You just- you don’t notice, you don’t realise everyone else has ‘had a moment’ but you haven’t, you just- keep going as you always have.
And then, much much later, you start to wonder why people are getting so caught up in drama for romance or sex, like, why bother? It’s not worth it, they’re not worth it, why are you doing stupid things for something that’s so- and then you wonder if there’s something wrong with you, start mentally over compensating. Like ‘uh, okay, um, who should I date? Who can I stand to date? Who could I stand to fuck?’ like- it’s not, it’s not something you want, but you want to fit in, to be normal.
Sometimes you don’t even know that you’re doing it.
Sometimes you don’t even know asexual’s a thing.
I dunno, I guess, I just feel like, uh, people should understand more?
idk sorry thank you for listening to me
demiwritersblock
Thank you for perfectly describing it.
yourfictionmyreality
It’s way more difficult to notice the absence of something, especially when you’ve never had it in the first place??
It’s like being born without a nose and then being expected to understand what things smell like because everyone ELSE has a nose.
TRUTH
From what I’ve seen so many people also go through other identities before they realise they’re ace.
Like JaidenAnimations said in her video ‘I like everyone equally which is zero so I must be pan right’
I mean I thought I was panromantic & demisexual until I realised that the people I thought I had a crush on were folks I had worked with outside of school so I knew them a bit better and The Autisms™️ said ‘yep you must like them romantically’ but I just considered them friends
Even niet I’m not 100% sure but I feel most comfortable in this identity at the moment and I hope everyone else who feels out of place elsewhere can find their safe space! ^^
Sweatbox 2: Electric Boogaloo?
No photoshop. Just a kitty with HUGE EYES.
The lighting in this photograph is amazing~
eartheld
mostly nature
The very excited blonde lady owns the resort where this is taken. She’s super excited because this is the closest they’ve ever come in before. Everyone else is less excited because this was taken crack of dawn; when blonde lady realized how close the whales were coming, she ran around waking everybody up to see it.
A good, wholesome post.
