Honestly I move with the trees in the breeze and I know that time is elastic

The more confident you are, the more emotionally resilient you become.

Confidence is an affirmation of our abilities and self worth. It is grounded in self awareness and recognizing your strengths and weaknesses. When we possess this self belief, we inherently trust our judgment and skills, regardless of external opinions. Many people look for external validation, leading to emotional vulnerability. If your sense of self-worth is tied to external validation, you become more susceptible to criticism or negative feedback. However, when someone is genuinely confident, they often don't rely on external validation. They perceive challenges or negative feedback as growth opportunities rather than personal affronts. This mindset stems from a strong internal locus of control, where you believe your actions can influence outcomes. This confidence brings a lot of benefits, such as diminished fear of failure, better decision making skills, and healthier relationships.

i hate to be the bearer of bad news but truth is nobody is coming to save you and nobody cares about your sob story. we all have endured hardships once in our lifetime. this generation isn’t too fond of a sob story but more so intrigued with a comeback. so get up. God will meet you wherever you’re at. but you still have to meet him half way. i admire my perseverance + resilience. no matter what life has thrown at me — i took it on the chin. kept my head up, and prevailed my way through. i cannot be stopped because i’m destined and nobody can strip me of that.

I promise to build emotional intelligence & resilience in my future children early, so they can cope better with the heartaches, sorrows & disappointments than I did.

Emotionally healthy people are quitters. They make choices that align with their well being. Quitting a relationship, partnership or job that makes you unhappy is a sign of self awareness. If someone stays in something bad for too long, it's not because they're strong, but because they're afraid or have low self esteem. Being emotionally healthy means having awareness, setting boundaries, and knowing when it's time to move on from situations that no longer serve you. It's about prioritizing your mental and emotional health over sticking with something that's causing you harm or making you unhappy.

Emotionally healthy people also tend to have good communication skills. They express their feelings and needs calmly, openly and honestly. They also look for guidance and enlightenment because they understand that seeking help is a sign of strength not weakness.

They make decisions out of self love rather than attachment or fear. When you prioritize loving yourself, you make choices that align with your happiness and growth, rather than staying in situations out of comfort or insecurity.

Recognizing when you have an unhealthy attachment or that your feelings may not be conducive to your well being is important. It allows you to take a step back, evaluate the situation objectively, and make choices that are in line with your best interests.

Sometimes holding on can lead to more pain and struggle than necessary. It's a sign of emotional maturity to recognize when a situation is no longer good for you and to have the strength to let it go.

Things that are genuinely right for you should not cause you harm or emotional pain. Choosing pain is a sign of a lack of self love. Recognizing the need for change, prioritizing self love, and making healthier choices is how you begin to change your life.

Reframe your mindset from “this is hurting me because I love it” to “this is hurting me because I do not love me.”

Everything we say yes to is a no to something else. When we say yes to going out of our comfort zone & trying something new, we are saying no to staying stuck. When we say yes to taking time to heal, we are saying no to future self sabotage. When we say yes to trusting God, we are saying no to worry and anxiety. Say yes to the things that will help you grow.

Layla Al-Attar, Iraqi artist and painter, killed by a U.S. missile attack on Baghdad in 1993, as ordered by Bill Clinton.

Practical Magic (1998) dir. Griffin Dunne

“Allahumma inni as-aluka husnal khatimah”

Ya Allah, I ask You for a good end to my life.

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Women all around the world have created traditional dishes and dances and sewn the clothing and organized the parties and preserved the photos and created the rituals and practices and customs and decided on the decor and set the trends of their communities and I am very proud to descend from them. Women make the world vibrant and warm. People say, oh but you haven’t invented as many machines and gadgets or you haven’t written as many classic books or you haven’t built the architecture but guess what? I don’t care because I will always take pride in how women have contributed to coloring the world in various unique ways

how to be less reactive

1. learn what triggers you. what is it, really, that is making you respond in such a way? this may involve shadow work, digging deep into your insecurities and noticing what circumstances trigger these. take a moment to observe when you are feeling reactive and note these down. it is difficult but worth it if your truly want to improve your interpersonal relationships and protect your peace of mind.

2. focus on responding, not reacting. take a moment to step back from the situation. are you exaggerating? overreacting? often it is our own insecurities that we are projecting onto others. take the time gather your thoughts and arguments, as hard as it is sometimes, before reacting in the heat of the moment. you are more likely to be understood and heard if you respond rationally than reacting emotionally.

3. nothing is personal. the majority of times people treat you in a disrespectful manner or rude tone, it is a reflection of them and their situation rather than you personally or it is often a projection of their worries and insecurities. take the time to practice empathy and, if this person is close to you, take time to truly understand their position. it is likely it is an issue they are dealing with themselves or something you have done which has triggered such issues or insecurities. try not to take things too personally; it is not a reflection of you.

“You shouldn’t even be entertaining men who aren’t used to dating women like you.”

look at me all cute and smart and shit getting my life together having the best year of my life🤩i'm a star i've always been a star i've always been an icon. my life is so damn perfect everything works in my favour. i'm the pretty perfect girl with the perfect life. my waist snatched. my face, on point. i love my life. the world is my oyster. the distance between me and success is zero cause i'm already so freaking successful. i do not chase i attract