Red flags 101

ALPHADOMS

When you say I’m an #ALPHADOM, this is what I hear:

1. I am not like other doms

2. The good lord almighty imbued me with supernatural Dom vibes that set me apart and above from other lesser doms, like yourselves. 

Here’s what I think:

1. You’re likely not like other doms

2. The good lord almighty is more likely to have blessed you with an out of control ego and fun abusive character traits like misogyny and narcissism.

People opening a box that needs a knife using their bare hands

Looney Tunes S13E09

Buccaneer Bunny

Looney Tunes S14E08

Rabbit Hood

Patriarchy really slaps you in the face when a five year old boy refuses to listen to any woman at school and will only follow a man’s directions. 🙄

Where is a 5-yo boy learning to be this way?

i think one of the biggest culprits is dads going against rules the mother has made. the lack of respect doesn’t have to be said blatantly, constantly seeing a woman who is supposed to have authority over you be undermined sets a strong enough example

yea like, children seldomly listen but they always follow your example. and when boys see that other boys get away with everything, that their fathers and brothers dont respect the women of the house and that nothing happens to others who disrespect girls and women then thats the example you follow.

it's not only in the home, it's the whole culture around them. both boys and girls could be raised in the most egalitarian environment by the most enlightened, progressive parents, and that's still doesn't guarantee anything when their friends, school, the entertainment industry and everything else will teach them that that's not how it really works

Here's to the people who weren't abused by their parents, but whose parents sucked anyways. Here's to people whose parents fucked up raising you out of ignorance and not malice. Here's to the kids whose parents didn't know what to do with you so they did nothing at all. Here's to people whose parents are getting better and growing as people but still hurt you. Here's to every mean comment that wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't come from your mom; here's to awkward family dinners because you're all trying to forget;

here's to you, survivor of a thousand 'not as bad as it could have been' hurts. I see you. You aren't alone.

Also: neglect is abuse

it counts

it matters

even if it wasn't as bad as it could have been.

And you aren't alone.

idk guys maybe we should try calling the amazon rain forest “sovereign indigenous lands” more often because i’m still seeing people talk about it like some sort of vast terra nullis where there are only animals–you know, like a colonialist

There are lots of indigenous people and tribes here, and their culture is shared a lot in my hometown — I’m from Manaus which is a city literally in the middle of the Amazon rainforest. So, yeah, people need to stop talking like that.

“Being sexy isn’t about what men want, or how young you are or how your body looks or how much money you have. It’s a certain inner confidence, a comfort level. When you’ve learned something about yourself and what makes you happy.”

@kitten-with-claws

I wish.