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Open-minded On A Conservative Island

@switchysyrin

I’m a 34 year old full figured female living on one of the most conservative islands in the world. I think I’m pretty open-minded about a lot of topics regardless of where I live. 18+ only on my page. I identify as a Switch. If you’re wondering where I live then check out my banner. What I share on my page is either aesthetically pleasing to me, appeals to me or turns me on. I’ll leave that up for you to figure out.

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ALPHADOMS

When you say I’m an #ALPHADOM, this is what I hear:

1. I am not like other doms

2. The good lord almighty imbued me with supernatural Dom vibes that set me apart and above from other lesser doms, like yourselves. 

Here’s what I think:

1. You’re likely not like other doms

2. The good lord almighty is more likely to have blessed you with an out of control ego and fun abusive character traits like misogyny and narcissism.

Okay but thank you for this though. I’m a flute and alto saxophone player. The amount of pressure from the tongue that it takes to play a new note that’s not slurred (especially during marching season whenever you have to practically blast without it sounding bad) is very tiring if you’re not used to it. So in other words, thanks for the validation that I’ve said about band kids for years and the validation of my own tongue game (without having ever actually experiencing it) (also that came off more sexually charged than I was meaning but I’m still just gonna leave it in and you can do with that what you will)

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Omg I love this message! Im glad to have provided validation! Everyone thinks guitars are so sexy but really what transferrable skills does a guitarist truly have hmm? More people should be treating woodwind musicians like the true rock stars lmao!

I cannot stress enough how much I am not exaggerating when I say that the tongue game on my clarinet playing lover was 1000x better than the tongue game on any of my partners since.

Everyone should be flocking to date woodwind musicians hahaha! Be proud of your skills my dear! You earned them!

;-)

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Woodwind for life!! 🪈 🎷
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Patriarchy really slaps you in the face when a five year old boy refuses to listen to any woman at school and will only follow a man’s directions. 🙄

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Where is a 5-yo boy learning to be this way?

i think one of the biggest culprits is dads going against rules the mother has made. the lack of respect doesn’t have to be said blatantly, constantly seeing a woman who is supposed to have authority over you be undermined sets a strong enough example

yea like, children seldomly listen but they always follow your example. and when boys see that other boys get away with everything, that their fathers and brothers dont respect the women of the house and that nothing happens to others who disrespect girls and women then thats the example you follow.

it's not only in the home, it's the whole culture around them. both boys and girls could be raised in the most egalitarian environment by the most enlightened, progressive parents, and that's still doesn't guarantee anything when their friends, school, the entertainment industry and everything else will teach them that that's not how it really works

Here's to the people who weren't abused by their parents, but whose parents sucked anyways. Here's to people whose parents fucked up raising you out of ignorance and not malice. Here's to the kids whose parents didn't know what to do with you so they did nothing at all. Here's to people whose parents are getting better and growing as people but still hurt you. Here's to every mean comment that wouldn't have been so bad if it hadn't come from your mom; here's to awkward family dinners because you're all trying to forget;

here's to you, survivor of a thousand 'not as bad as it could have been' hurts. I see you. You aren't alone.

Also: neglect is abuse

it counts

it matters

even if it wasn't as bad as it could have been.

And you aren't alone.

idk guys maybe we should try calling the amazon rain forest “sovereign indigenous lands” more often because i’m still seeing people talk about it like some sort of vast terra nullis where there are only animals–you know, like a colonialist

There are lots of indigenous people and tribes here, and their culture is shared a lot in my hometown — I’m from Manaus which is a city literally in the middle of the Amazon rainforest. So, yeah, people need to stop talking like that.

“Being sexy isn’t about what men want, or how young you are or how your body looks or how much money you have. It’s a certain inner confidence, a comfort level. When you’ve learned something about yourself and what makes you happy.”