baekdere-deactivated20160106
kris is bald and chinese
if it truly is impossible to tell from non-verbal clues, or verbal clues that are less explicit than what you’d say to a small child, if it would TRULY require a mind-reader to determine whether a woman wants to have sex from that information, then YOU HAVE NO EXCUSE FOR INITIATING SEXUAL ACTIVITY WITHOUT EXPLICITLY ASKING HER IF IT IS OK! if you have NO IDEA whether she wants it, if you COULDN’T POSSIBLY know whether she wants it, YOU DON’T GET TO DO IT. IT IS NOT FUCKING HARD! you want to say explicitly asking about consent is too formal and unsexy and that you can tell she wants it from more subtle cues, but HOW CAN YOU TELL A YES IF YOU CAN’T TELL A NO? YOU CAN’T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS, YOU DUPLICITOUS FUCKS!
My own use of the term “intersectionality” was just a metaphor. I’m amazed at how it gets over and underused; sometimes I can’t even recognize it in the literature anymore. I was simply looking at the way all of these systems of oppression overlap.
Kimberlé Crenshaw, who coined the term “intersectionality”, reflects on its current usage in Intersectional Approach: Transforming the Academy through Race, Class, and Gender (2010)
“We were never that close”
Yeah, I can see why.
I pity her daughter for the misfortune of being born to this piece of absolute shit.
chrisshemsworth
okay but you should really read the full response to this though:
I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around this letter. I encourage you to reread it and to ask yourself that time-honored question, “Do I sound like a villain in a Reese Witherspoon movie?” You are, presumably, sympathetic to your own situation and are invested in making sure that you come across as reasonable and as caring as possible, and yet you have written a letter indicting yourself at every turn. This girl is “like a daughter” to you, and yet you want to shove her to the side of your other daughter’s wedding just because she walks with a limp. Your daughter’s wedding will be perfect with Katie as a full and honored member of the bridal party. A limp is not a fly in the ointment; it’s a part of Katie’s life. It is not only wrong to have asked your daughter to consider excluding her best friend over this—it is ableist, and cruel, and it speaks to a massive failure of empathy, compassion, and grace on your part. You must and should apologize to your daughter immediately, and I encourage you to profoundly reconsider the orientation of your heart.
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myhalloweenurl-deactivated20171
We Regret to Inform You That The Person Being Racist Ironically Is In Fact Just Racist
altonin-deactivated20180325
st peter @ the pearly gates: my numbers have you basically 50/50 so if you’ve got any more virtues to profess, now is the time
me: sometimes I thought tumblr posts were fake but I didn’t say anything bc people seemed to be having fun
st peter: go right in
idk, it's weird understanding the relationship you have with social media but I've found that the more I depersonalise with it and put of the things I want to be judged by a wider audience for, it has worked out better for my mental health.
Also finding that not posting selfies or sharing selfies also weirdly helped me with how I perceive myself? My looks? Treating my instagram more exclusively as an art space is much nicer because I prefer people look at what I make. I take pride in what I make. I like how I look too but I guess I don't like sharing my selfies bc privacy is pretty nice I guess lmao.
Wish I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was younger thought, it would have saved me a lot of time and grief. I still appreciate that I did get diagnosed but I feel like learning all of these coping mechanisms would have been much more easier when I was younger. Either way it's nice that I know how to utilise these things now, and I can catch myself or ask for my boyfriend to help me intervene of a self destructive cycle. But I have found that changing the relationship I have will all social media, applying strict rules that don't allow me to exercise the self destructive stuff has really helped.
Idk, I still like having the personal blog here, I just find that more often then not I work through my feelings in a far more healthier way when I'm working on my art and stuff. This isn't advice btw like I know every person has a different relationship with their creative work but yeah. There was a time when broadcasting all my crisis would help me. Now I find painting and stuff helps. I much prefer this method bc I'm focused on something else and I can clear my mind quicker.
Also like disengaging with fandom and learning how to like a thing privately is also just a very nice thing that has benefitted my mental health.
Who would have thought that imposing strict rules on yourself regarding to social media would improve the state of your mental health truly not even being sarcastic
altonin-deactivated20180325
you’re a tumblr elder if you remember non-drunk-driving privilege
The fact that we even have door to door sales people always bothers me. How many people end up dead doing that shit.