12 ADHD hacks that are actually helpful

Disclaimer that this is my own experience with ADHD, which may be totally different to someone else's. But hey, these are some things I've always found useful.

cutting someone out of your life won't always feel good.

online, people say cut them off casually. they say - you'll feel amazing and your life will be so much better, trust me.

sometimes it isn't better. sometimes the other end of that is hard, and kind-of worse. it's lonely, and angry, and sad. it's picking up the phone thinking to text them. it's not being able to listen to that album anymore, it sounds like the time you spent with them. sometimes it's slow, guilty nights.

sometimes even the worst people are lovely. they can make your whole life glitter. yes, that glitter is also shattered glass - but it does all sparkle, don't it? they filled your hours and your mind. gave you something to hold on to, even if that something was anger and hurt. without them, life can be... bland. undefined.

you can sit there, knowing - they were a magnet pulling my compass off and then still wish you had that pull back. now your compass is just spinning around on its own.

it's worth it, always. but sometimes feeling like-it's-worth-it takes months. sometimes years. you'll look back from the ever-slow progress you've made, and there will be no confetti you did it! or big-sudden sense of peace. just plodding along carefully. missing them. hating yourself for wishing it hadn't happened.

it's okay. it won't always be easy to leave.

but some future version of yourself is looking back at this moment and saying - thank you for doing it. it saved me.

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Had a revelation recently and thought it might help other people too.

There is absolutely NO shame in having a ton of projects on the go and switching between or even dropping them on a whim.

Hobbies are meant to be FUN.

You can have 20 writing projects, or knitting, or whatever your thing is, and putting them down for a bit or abandoning them is a-okay.

I personally would never think that someone who started playing a video game and then decided to play another before it was finished was a quitter, so why am I so judgemental towards myself?

Doing your hobbies in a way that brings you joy isn't selfish or weak, it's...literally the whole point of them. Go nuts!

It feels scary because it’s unfamiliar, not because I’m incapable.

falling back into patterns and behaviours you thought you'd worked to overcome doesn't mean you've lost all your progress.

changing things we've been doing our whole lives takes time and it's perfectly fine if that's hard sometimes.

infact, learning to overcome setbacks is a part of recovery.

there is always more than what is happening today. maybe today sucked. that’s okay. there’s always tomorrow. maybe you’ll bake cookies, and see a cat on your way to work or school. maybe next week you’ll see your friend for the first time in a while, and you’ll feel at home again. maybe next year you’ll feel happier than you thought possible. there are always new movies to watch, animals who want petting, books to read, candles to light, a comfy bed to come home to. today’s only a snapshot of your life. maybe tomorrow will be a prettier one. you got this.

Have you ever been annoying? Yeah me too! And that’s okay, because we’re human and humans are annoying sometimes. 

We have a whole lot of feelings and thoughts, and sometimes they don’t line up quite right with the people around us. 

You are not a bad person because you have been annoying. You still deserve love, you still have people who adore you.

Remember that you are just a person, and while you’ve probably been annoying you’ve also made people happy, comfortable, confident, and wanted. 

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Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

It's all about love!!! It's about holding hands and smiling at strangers and waving at babies!!!! it's about bringing tupperware full of food to someone who just had a baby!!! it's hugging someone when they cry and cheering for them when they succeed!!! it's unconditional, it's vital, it's everything!!!

shaking you by the shoulders and telling you that change is a natural byproduct of growth and that you shouldn’t blame/judge/be disappointed with your past self for making choices that you made because you didn’t know any better. telling you that you were genuinely just trying your best. imploring you to practice compassionate self-awareness so that you don’t only forgive your past self for the mistakes you made, but thank your past self for getting you where you are today in your journey

A loved one having to enforce a boundary with you or communicate something you’ve done that has upset them doesn’t mean they hate you, think you’re terrible or don’t want you in their life anymore.

Honestly, the fact they’re taking the time to enforce a boundary or communicate an issue with you is actually a sign they want to continue to have you in their life!

The legacies people leave behind in you.

My handwriting is the same style as the teacher’s who I had when I was nine. I’m now twenty one and he’s been dead eight years but my i’s still curve the same way as his.

I watched the last season of a TV show recently but I started it with my friend in high school. We haven’t spoken in four years.

I make lentil soup through the recipe my gran gave me.

I curl my hair the way my best friend showed me.

I learned to love books because my father loved them first.

How terrifying, how excruciatingly painful to acknowledge this. That I am a jigsaw puzzle of everyone I have briefly known and loved. I carry them on with me even if I don’t know it. How beautiful.

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this season, may your blankets be cozy and your feet warm

Stephany L