“Dreamy Picnic” by Mya

positive press? for tumblr???? my gd.......

we fucked up its getting more profitable

Anti anxiety.

I’VE BEEN LOOKING FOR THAT CAT ONE FOREVER

So mesmerized

The cat

Hey my followers with anxiety here’s some things that might help.

This is amazing

Another my favourite

It’s essential for you and your partner R xx

I've been laughing like a hyena for the past 15 minutes

LMAO

She’s one of my favorite people lol

I literally felt like I did not have a choice.

Robin Williams says reblog, you reblog. 

…okay.

did i even really have a choice?

okay robin williams

i hesitated for a second and then considered the repercussions

just gonna reblog…

okk

already 400,00 notes

800,000 …Make it a Million

Almost

Break it.

if Robin says reblog. You reblog!

It’s at a million now do 2 mil

You don’t just fucking not reblog Robin Williams

Fuckers better reblog or you won’t get any wishes.

We miss you Mister Williams.

I fucking miss you guys.

Chris

Tommy

Jere

Scott

For Robin, for my brother Travis, and for so many others.

Reblogging not just for Robin and the friends I have lost. I reblog for those considering. Find someone to talk to.

Providing aftercare to your Dominant/Top

I’m not complaining even though it might sound like I am. But I can’t go a day on tumblr without seeing at least 3-4 posts dedicated to aftercare represented solely with images and assumptions around submissives being the only ones needing aftercare. 

One of the biggest problems with domdrop is that many dominants themselves go through it without recognizing the signs let alone requiring the care afterwards. Most tops are so used to being strong and in control that a drop may be brushed off as manageable. Yes, it is manageable for some, but not all. 

Aftercare is a mutual act that needs to occur at the same time. Dominants need it as well as Submissives (regardless of gender). 

Some of the things that can be done to ease a top into both recognizing their need for aftercare, as well as provide it to them without them seemingly needed are:

1. Reassurance - Remind them that the scene was good (if it was) and that they made you feel happy, safe and cared for throughout the scene

2. Cuddling/Hugging/Being held - Tops need this as well and it becomes a part of providing the comfort. It’s ok if you remain still during, but I would recommend wrapping your bodies around each other (both of you). 

3. Gentle/Light communication - As tiring as the scene might be, it’s still a good idea to keep a very gentle conversation going. It doesn’t have to even be intelligent. But it should contain talking about feelings. While expressing how you’re feeling, ask the top how they’re feeling as well. Not just about the scene, but physically and emotionally generally.

4. Remember till the day after - In a lot of cases, I’ve noticed that tops tend to have belated responses to a scene. This is what happens to me personally where the adrenaline delays the drop by a few hours and then it hits me like running into a brick wall. The crash includes lithargy, low energy, fatigue, low/depressed mood. If you see any signs, they could be indicative of a domdrop. That’s when they need aftercare. A massage, backrub, showering together, or even space if they need it. But space doesn’t mean leaving them completely alone. Ask them regularly what they want, and keep doing the things that they like you to do for them normally. 

5. Assist with regaining proper mindset and energy - It uses a lot of power, energy (both physical and emotional). At times dominants enter what is known as “performance mode” where they’re becoming increasingly involved in their role to the point of a temporary loss of identity. That’s part of domspace and requires a lot of energy to maintain. Find out how deep into domspace they went and that could indicate if a domdrop is coming. 

6. Remember experiences and signs - This one goes without saying. If you’ve experienced a domdrop then you already know what needs to be done. If you’ve experienced one and didn’t recognize it, then honestly it’s time to really take a few steps towards learning more about it. 

All the best. And be safe. All of you.  

Here are some resources I collected from the internet on this subject:

http://brairthornblog.wordpress.com/2009/12/05/dominant-aftercare-taken-from-a-different-blog/

http://www.submissiveguide.com/2009/11/dominant-recovery/

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more articles in the Library For Kinksters.

Just sharing…

I always reblog good writing that steps outside the “it’s all about the sub” paradigm.

i never noticed how strong that penguins braid game is

thats a raccoon

what a BEAUTIFUL BOY

I feel obligated to reblog any and every bat for obvious reasons.

I love working with bats they’re incredible

@bb-wizard

Wow they’re beautiful

The wittle ears!

@tis-i-bat-anon look it yoU!!! 

@clownchecked :0 look, babeys

Aw its a sky puppy

Anyway, isn’t it weird how you can love a voice

I feel this so much.