polemica

“this is the hill you want to die on?” oh no i just love arguing. i fully intend to leave this hill once it gets boring. sorry for the confusion!

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what is this sudden obsession with being “healed” as if life doesn’t happen day after day, giving us new problems and worries, reopening old wounds? what is the state of being healed? if someone says they’re healed I don’t believe them. it is being “saved” by jesus rebranded, a word that truly signifies nothing but makes you feel guilty for having regular emotions or reactions, as if being saved/healed means you are above being human and reacting in a human way. you aren’t a real Christian if you xyz. you arent a truly reformed and healed human if you still fall back into bad habits sometimes, if you don’t respond to a given situation perfectly, etc.

so many of u lost religion and replaced it with therapy speak and self care.

also so many people talk about confessing to their therapist the way Catholics talk about confessing to a priest

Honestly the increasing prevalence of americanised maitainance therapy as psuedo religious practice is creepy and whenever you say smth about it youre AnTi MeNtAl HeAlTh, things like betterhelp and the idea that talking to your friends is emotional labour and everyone including kids should be in therapy permanently to maintain their mental state regardless of circumstances, the increasing use of pop psych buzzwords and if you look on reddit every minor family spat is met with hundreds of copy pasted "did you try therapy" its BIZARRE

if you've spent any time with babies, toddlers, and small children, the idea that these kids have any idea about their personal identity is just bananas to hear people talk about seriously.

"i love being a girls girl 🌸🩷" you tormented amber heard.

posting is a trauma response to thinking

don’t worry about why i had to google this but this example sentence is killing me

women use AI to like make pictures of their favorite kpop boys as an elf or a fairy or a werewolf for their silly little fanfics and fantasy AUs. men will use AI to make violent porn of women they don't know bc they fantasize about abusing those women and will vigorously defend their right to do this and upload it online for other deprived men to see.

and im supposed to believe women are just as bad as those disgusting worthless good for nothing animals?

you cannot advertise to me in a way that matters.

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woman: does a dance in public

man: you deserve to be raped

Exhibit 2737

who is she?

probably no one that we need to acquaint ourselves with.

moids online are scummy as fuck but you can help yourself by not demeaning yourself for their approval, nothing good will come out of this shit. and most women are uncomfortable with it, someone even shared the story of some kind of OF recruiter woman on the porn is misogyny sub and she said that the woman she was tasked with facilitating the exploitation of had to do "sexy dances" on shit like TikTok for exposure. essentially bringing to mind that axiomatic expression about how some men pay women to demean themselves in porn for their sexual kicks so women who aren't in pron will do it for free.

you can watch 1 billion youtube videos on how to "hack" learning a language but I'll tell you from experience rn, 90% of it is just actually wanting to. ppl will see someone who speaks English natively get fluent in Russian, Chinese, Arabic, Farsi, and think, "wow they must have a gift!" Like maybe, but in almost every case it's bc the reason they learned it in the first place outweighed how hard it is.

anyway this is true for literally everything and I hate to make a post that's not mean-spirited; but if you want to do some giant-brained shit like idk astrophysics bc you're obsessed with it, just commit. outside of the "so genius I don't know how to function around people" guys, everyone else also thinks it's difficult, just stay passionate + stubborn and you'll be fine.

I love Matilda because it's a story about a child who sees injustice around her and gets mad about it and questions why things aren't fair, and instead of the ending being that she learns how the world works and that life isn't fair, she catapults one of the adults who abused her out of a building with her mind

those people who say the same thing about every horror movie and it's like "i would've killed myself immediately wouldn't even have tried to survive" me about movies where a character gets pregnant