The director of cybersecurity from the Electronic Freedom Foundation is offering to help women who have been threatened with compromise of their devices.

I better see EVERYBODY reblogging this

advice:

- don’t care about strangers judging you

- wear what you want

- make daily goals

- listen to new music

- be excited about little things

- give compliments

- try new things that scare you

- be interested in what people say

- it’s ok to be “embarrassing” and goofy

- wake up earlier

- pain isn’t permanent

- remember the wonder you had as a child

- never listen to impulsivity when you’re sad or angry

- drink water and stretch very often

- keep your belongings tidy and make your bed

- smile when you’re looking in the mirror

- have an inner monologue that deflects negative thoughts

- journal often

- always try to say yes to spending time with people u love

I have so much love and respect for women who are honest about their own loneliness but also find the good in it like when audrey hepburn said “I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel” and when charlotte bronte said “I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself” and when jenny slate said “I think I’ve come to terms with the fact that there will always be a ribbon of loneliness running through who I am. But that’s why I want to do comedy, and why I want to connect with people. You can use that ribbon to be a part of a finer tapestry, or you can choke yourself out with it! Your choice!” and when mary oliver said “whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh & exciting - over & over announcing your place in the family of things”

via @extramadness

via @extramadness

AAM Love 101

First off, let’s just pretend that they aren’t discussing how in another life they would find each other because I am in no way waiting for them to meet in another life. That would mean one would have to die and I am not even going to entertain that. The writers on this show have been phenomenal and I don’t see them going for a cop out.

That being said, I would like to give a shoutout to the writers for giving an alternate view to love. They built a world where you are forced to look at love from an ethereal perspective. The idea that your soul can be eternal and the body is just a mere vessel. It opens your mind to the idea that love can exist regardless of it being between a man and woman, or a woman and a woman, in reality, it’s actually between two souls. With that concept, you are able to shed some of the homophobic stigma around it so others may just view it at its simplest form. At the same time, they don’t hide the prejudices that love faces, people are forced to see how it actually impacts themselves as well as those around them. Sometimes this is all that is needed to change a person’s perspective, and because they aren’t shoving tolerance and acceptance down your throat, people are able to face their actions and thoughts without judgement. This is when conversations can happen and things can change and I for one am impressed with their ingenuity.

However, for the record, this doesn’t just apply to Juliana and Valentina, if you look it also applies to Lucia and Leon. Regardless of the body belonging to El Chino, Lucia and Leon have found themselves drawn to each other. Both may have started and stayed in this relationship for different reasons, however throughout the show, you see various times when they struggle with the idea that they are in love and what that means. They both could have easily walked away or turned the other in, but they live these tortured lives not understanding why they can’t let go.

The underlying message: Love is eternal, whether it be love between two souls, love between friends, or love between families, it is infinite and continues through death.

The Neighbourhood || The Beach

“Do not fall in love with people like me. I will take you to museums, and parks, and monuments, and kiss you in every beautiful place, so that you can never go back to them without tasting me like blood in your mouth. I will destroy you in the most beautiful way possible. And when I leave you will finally understand why storms are named after people.” Caitlyn Siehl

wow

Holy

Dang!!

I’m at the point in my life where I need you to be straight up honest and back up every word you say with actions. If you miss me, tell me. If you wanna see me, show up or ask me to come over. If you’re upset with me or something in general, tell me. I’ve done the whole playing games, chasing hearts around that never belonged to me. I’m done doing it. If you want me, I’m here, where I’ve been. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

Mood

I’m at the point in my life where I need you to be straight up honest and back up every word you say with actions. If you miss me, tell me. If you wanna see me, show up or ask me to come over. If you’re upset with me or something in general, tell me. I’ve done the whole playing games, chasing hearts around that never belonged to me. I’m done doing it. If you want me, I’m here, where I’ve been. Say what you mean and mean what you say.

a gentle reminder that you did well this year. you met new people, learned new things and felt new feelings. you did so many things that made you scared. you picked yourself up off the floor after feeling completely defeated or heartbroken. there were some really tough nights but you survived them all. you made people happy just by existing. you accepted many goodbyes but the serendipitous meetings made up for them. it was your own hard work that paid off but you always downplay it or compare yourself to others. that’s not fair on yourself. you’ve come so far from the first day of this year. you have more wisdom and strength now. yes, other people seem more “successful” but does that even matter? please don’t think so lowly of yourself to only think about your failures. 2018 was your year of growth. I hope you take a moment to be kind to yourself, and believe that 2019 will be even better.

— Lewis Carroll, Alice’s Adventures in Wonderland & Through the Looking-Glass (via goodreadss)

— F. Scott Fitzgerald; The Ice Palace

— -M.I.

I will not hold back

My Daughter, The Jock

Oh no, I’m crying.

This is one of my favorite things about being a parent: how you learn things that you might not have had to otherwise. That’s the thing about it–yes, I love my daughter and she is the focus of my parenting goals, but my experiences with her have helped me learn and grow in ways I never expected, and I’m grateful.