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high and stone femmes are beautiful and valid not selfish or lazy!! 18 + only! NO TERFS
slow replier!! check out the faqs/what has already been posted xxx
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lyrifemme
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lyrifemme

Happy Valentine’s Day to all you lovely butches, studs, and femmes of every variety. I love you all so much— I’ve never felt so at home as I do with all of you 🖤

(This is part of a series I’ve been working on of soft little butch/femme moments, but the one that means the most to me. Love to my muses 🖤)

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moodr1ng
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moodr1ng

i totally understand that when discussing the sex lives of gay people, there is a very large overemphasis on a top/bottom dichotomy to the point that many people (especially cishets and lgbt people w little experience in the subject) believe that all or at least most lgbt people are exclusively tops or exclusively bottoms, and i understand wanting to correct that misconception, especially because part of the reason it is so widespread is because cishets assume that in same-gender relationship one person must always be "the woman" (who therefore exclusive bottoms) and one "the man" (who exclusively tops). i understand wanting to make people understand that for many if not most gay people, switching is natural and enjoyable and that these roles are not usually so strictly defined.

but ive seen far too many people say things like "we take turns like normal people" or "im normal i just switch" - with that specific phrasing of "normal" or very similar wording - and i really want you to consider that that is a very hurtful thing to say. there is and has been a longstanding disdain for men who exclusively bottom and a specific disgust for men who bottom in sex with other men, as well as disdain for stone butches and stone fems, who are often treated as regressive, selfish, reproducing heterosexuality, or inherently sexually disordered. people (especially wlw) who exclusively top or bottom are often treated as if their sex life cannot be satisfying, as if they are sexually defective, as if their boundaries are unfair to their partners, as if they have some sort of sexual issue that they need to just get over. before you say something about how switching is "normal" unlike the supposedly immature or regressive people who dont switch, please consider that there is no "normal" sex, that it is not more progressive to put norms on how people may have sex, and that what is most unhealthy for all of us is to tell people that their sexual boundaries and the things theyre not comfortable or willing to do during sex make them abnormal. as someone who is a stone top in large part because of sexual trauma, some of you honestly make me feel like shit about myself for not wanting to be topped, and i dont think thats "normal".

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Anonymous asked:

So I'm a stone femme but like in the way a stone butch is stone like I do not like being touched but I'm ok with touching others and can have fun with that, is that just stone femme or is there another term for that

i think ppl would understand what you meant if you say stone femme.... i personally originally started identifiying as a stone femme [who is a bottom] when i made this tumblr which is why it's called what it is but now i identify myself more as a high femme bc i dont want people to be confused... but i dont want to change the name of this tumblr & were are all stone together if that makes sense !! idk if that's helpful but yeah i think stone femme if ur a stone top works fine! and if you need to you can always clarify what you mean if people are confused (or not if u dont care to!) <3

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Anonymous asked:

so im stone in the same way stone femmes are but im butch, and I don't have a word for that which sucks a lot. but I came here to say that stone femmes I love you!!!! I see you and feel kinship with you!!!! y'all are fucking amazing and I hope that everyone of you find a partner who respects your stone ♡

this is a very old ask but is also really sweet thank you!! u can call urself a stone butch bottom... or maybe we should get the term 'high butch' going lmao so it would be like stone butch/high femme & high butch/stone femme ....

#unfortunately i think high femme has a better ring to it but it could work#<3#asks
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Anonymous asked:

is it okay if i'm stone but also submissive? i'm sry if this question makes anyone uncomfortable 😞

yes ofc!

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farmerlesbian
#this is basically a leslie feinberg fan tumblr lbr
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ibitedoctors
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hyenasbreath--archive

ACTUALLY making a separate post for lesbians of color . im so sorry the lesbian community is so dominated by white lesbians and all the movies we want to watch have blond white lesbian one and brunette white lesbian two who half the time arent even sapphic . i wish every lesbian of color a beautiful relationship with someone like you who will love you . and i wish every lesbian of color whos told they cant be lesbians because they are x race a very you are still a lesbian .

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Anonymous asked:

hey you say no terfs in your desc so i'm assuming this is an accident, but the blog you link to a few times in your faq (persistentlyfemme) is a hardcore transphobe posting about how terfs are the only rational ones left, so, uh.

omfg !! tysm for letting me know, i have deleted those sections linking to her, when i linked them she definitely wasnt, as far as i was aware, a massive transphobe! i dont have spoons to do much else but yh... ty again for telling me !! <3

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chirpchirpmuahaha

tired of joining lgbt poc discords n feeling like a total outsider cause ur black? 

me and @strawbunniekiss​ have made a server for black lgbt people! we got bots n cool epic channels. just dm me for the invite if you’re interested in joining the server. 

[non blacks r more than welcome to boost this post]