Ok I’m really curious

I’m sorry who in their right mind would call that anything but a puppy cup. It’s a fucking puppy cup. Who’s out there calling it a fucking fluffy cup.

……..I do…………

Ok I feel the need to specify that these are roleplay blogs for a furry webcomic and that this poll takes place within said furry webcomic. Their world is entirely furries. None of these are real names for kiddy cones. The joke is that since it’s a world full of a bajillion different species with a bajillion different terms for their kids that they don’t have one specific name for the cone. Am I making sense.

ah you see I see this post on my dash with no context and I think perhaps people just have insane regional names for ice cream cones that I have never heard

SYLVESTER STALLONE as JOHN J. RAMBO 1985 | Rambo: First Blood Part II, dir. George P. Cosmatos

I made some pride bats, enjoy! 🦇🏳️‍🌈

@stillneedsmorekissing

How to Get a Chronological Dash as a New Blog

I've been working on a Tumblr Roleplaying 101 guide, and in doing so wound up making a brand new Tumblr account for some screenshots. And this process made me realize how weirdly complicated Tumblr has made it for new accounts to get a chronological dash. So if you just want to see posts from people you follow, in the order that they made them, this what you have to do.

First, go to your settings, go under Dashboard, and scroll down to Preferences. Toggle off Best Stuff First. This switches your dash from an algorithm feed to a chronological one.

If you have an older blog, that's all you have to do. But if your blog was created more recently, you have an extra step.

The Tumblr dashboard has different tabs, which you can see across the top of your feed. Most older users have completed tuned these out, because we don't care about anything other than the basic feed. There is a Following tab, which shows posts from users you follow, and a For you tab, which shows recommend posts Tumblr thinks you'll like.

On blogs created before May 8, 2023, the Following tab is the default view. However, blogs created after this date have the For you tab as the default view. (This is an intentional change by Tumblr.)

This means if you are a newer blog and want to see posts from people you follow, you'll need to manually switch to the Following tab every time you open the dashboard.

If you do not like this change, consider contacting Tumblr staff. Submit a form under the Feedback category and explain that you'd like the option to make the Following tab the default for new blogs. And please, be polite! There is a person on the other side of the screen who likely had no say in this change, and even if they did, they don't deserve to be yelled at.

Not to sound nihilistic, but I feel like the best works of fiction with kid protagonists are almost always the ones with a key understanding of how strange, helpless and even kind of crushing childhood can really be, not the ones that see those years as pure innocence and nothing else.

Sharing the secrets of your hearth with strangers who will never be able to meet or thank you. Honoring the dead through learning their traditions of the home; emulation and exaltation. A good carrot cake.

Candle Holders // Totto Pottery on Etsy

jack harkness is actually very intelligent he just doesn’t have any common sense

*it may not seem like I can be, but seeing that someone needed to hear it and so they let me say it makes me so so proud. It’s a bit of an oroboros but we’re ignoring that. <3

Josephine Baker in Zouzou (1934) dir. Marc Allégret

Biggest fucking mood.

They’re also meant for hiltops, not small rooms. Cant get the right reverb with all that echo.

they’re also meant to make you fight the english. don’t forget that part.

My fav bagpipe player was a dude who would go out to the middle of a soccer field near my college apartment on Sunday. No one was using the field and he’d just be out there playing his heart out and the sound were just spread out over the plains. I’d be working on art for class so I’d open the window and listen. I still have fond memories of the day a kid biked up to the edge of the field, ran over to the bagpiper and the music stopped for a moment and as they talked. I couldn’t hear it but I had assumed the worst, that someone had decided to tell him to stop playing. Instead after the pause the musician seemed to nod, readjusted his bagpipes and started belting out the Star Wars theme. 

Holyshit that is the most interesting thing I’ve heard in awhile

Holy shit yes

I would also like to offer this because this artist is really cool and if you’ve never known the joy of a Celtic/Punjabi mix, you’re missing out.

Also consider anything by Delhi 2 Dublin

An equally fascinating performance on bagpipes is The Bad Piper, playing the AC/DC classic Thunderstruck

Listen, bagpipes can do dainty! You just need to go with lap pipes… totally different tone!

yo real quick:

PARASOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS ARE NOT BAD.

Like, they are a normal part of humanity. ppl in ancient rome were having parasocial relationships with famous gladiators and marc antony and caeser and shit, and they weren’t the first to do it.

the PROBLEM that arises with parasocial relationships is when ppl assume that their familiarity with a famous person equates to that person being equally familiar with THEM.

Just because you understand a random in-joke a couple of youtubers have with each other doesn’t mean that it’s comfortable with them if you use it.

Parasocial relationships themselves are not cringe. Acting as though your own familiarity with someone means they are equally familiar with you is Cringe.

Like: you have parasocial feelings etc. Even if you think that’s cringe. You have feelings of familiarity and closeness based on your exposure to someone in a public role that are not reflective of a real social bond between you.

The relevant part is always “remember that’s not a real social bond”. Your feelings of closeness and familiarity with someone based on their public performance does not represent an actual intimate connection with a real person.

(On the flipside: are you a performer? Do you have a public presence? You are creating a parasocial relationship with your audience. You will have to negotiate that; that is literally part of BEING A PERFORMER, of using this entirely parasocial place to build your audience. That means you also need to think about that, think about and establish your own boundaries and what you’re willing to put up with and not, because it WILL come up. Like literally right now I’m addressing an audience I mostly have a parasocial relationship with - hi guys! - and it behooves ME to remember that too.)

It's even worse when you mostly agree with where the younger person is coming from.

It's the repackaging of history that gets me. People who are the same as me trying to explain events that they were there for, too, but still somehow manage to get wrong.

I am pretty sure I have been on both sides of this, because people can in fact be wrong about events they think they can personally remember pretty well. Your parents and grandparents will tell you things about "their day" that are verifiably false, or they will remember events but have a narrative that is not supported in the larger context. There are still substantive disagreements about the causes of the Great Depression, but your grandparents will tell you what really happened because they were there (and were teenagers and never had any formal education in government, economics, etc.). You do not even need history. You are on Tumblr right now. You can find people who are absolutely certain about events from the past week and are verifiably wrong. And they will still be wrong when people try to correct them for the rest of their lives. And all of us are that guy in some respect, because none of us are fully informed nor do we have perfect memories. We are all the misinformed young person, misinformed old person, better informed young person, and better informed old person, depending on the context.

average pjo fan: nico, percy, and annabeth are the only demigods who’ve made it to tartarus and back

me, an intellectual:

But where is Houdini's Tartarus story??

Currently headcanoning that Houdini was a child of Hermes and he’s the reason there’s a Hermes shrine in Tartarus

The Chariot. Art by Elisabeth Alba, from the Everyday Witch Tarot.

on perfectionism

There's a difference between striving for self-improvement and being a perfectionist. Working hard to do a good job or to be a better person is laudable. Being a perfectionist makes those things harder to accomplish.

The goal of being "perfect" isn't to improve, it's to avoid shame. If you're aiming for "perfect" instead of "better" then you're probably full of self-doubt and constantly worried about disappointing yourself and/or others. These negative emotions make it harder to take risks and try new things. They make it harder to experiment or to reach beyond your current skill level.

Perfectionists also spend their time focused on the end result. This means that they lose a lot of learning during the process or journey they took on their way to finishing. It also means they can fall into a trap of procrastination. If it's never finished then they'll never be judged for doing a bad job.

If you have perfectionist tendencies, you probably learned them from those around you. Either they are perfectionists and expect you to be one too or their actions pressured you into trying to be perfect in order to escape some form of pain.

Are you constantly being told that you're not good enough? That the things you do aren't done well enough? Are you punished severely for every mistake that you make? Are people always comparing you to someone else who's "better" than you are and asking why you aren't like them?

Perfectionism is a way of protecting yourself from those kinds of attacks and the way they make you feel.

Getting out of the loop of perfectionism takes a lot of time and practice and might also require the help of a therapist. But there are some things you can try to help you ease out of it, at least a little bit.

Give yourself the positive feedback you aren't getting from others. Positive self-talk and encouragement can counter some of the negativity you're otherwise being exposed to.

Allow yourself to make mistakes in areas of your life where those negative people aren't involved. Perhaps even do it in complete privacy at first. Make a mistake and feel the shame and disappointment, but follow that up with positive self-talk. Congratulate yourself on taking a step away from perfectionism. Find something beautiful or funny in the mistake. Realize that you're still okay, even though you aren't perfect.

And above all, remind yourself that your value doesn't come from being perfect. It doesn't come from the things you produce or the actions you do to support others. Your value is inherent and immutable. You're worthy because you exist. You are here and you are wonderful and you are loved. ❤️

Year 3 on recovering from perfectionism after an official diagnosis so I want to add something: You may fall into the trap of thinking you don’t have perfectionism or you have completely recovered if you don’t have perfectionism at one subject.

A common defense I had to my therapist was “But I never obsess over powerpoints or essays; I am easygoing with my fanfictions too! I just hit the send.” so yes, maybe that area of my life is safe from perfectionism, which is great but not the main point.

Sometimes you will be perfectionist to yourself (expect to Be Perfect Something, let it be the perfect daughter or lover or dog mom), sometimes you will excuse your own mistakes but expect people around you to be Perfect partners, friends etc.

Or maybe you are completely aware that no one is, in fact, perfect and that it’s okay. Maybe you are okay with this too, but you are aiming for perfection in academia, school or job applications. Maybe you healed from some aspects that perfectionism impacted you but not the other aspects, yet. At least that’s how it’s going for me. This post made me realize that I have a significant amount of healing, I am waaaay more flexible and relaxed and easygoing in my social life and school work, but god forbid applying for grad school or new jobs; the same loop of perfectionism that leads to intense procrastination heaves on me still. And yes, most probably this was my learned response that I’ll work through.

My point is, don’t obsess over it but just keep an eye in case there are some parts of your life that are safe vs not safe from the perfectionist behavior. It’s good to have a self check once in a while— and I promise, it gets better.

having the ability to stop, slow down, and think "wait, is there any physical reasons I feel bad actually?" is probably one of the most important skills one can have as a mentally ill/neurodivergent person or really just as a human being existing in the world in general

I'd always felt like those "stop! are you hungry? have you had enough water? etc etc..." posts from a few years ago were helpful but sometimes condescending because I really didn't realize how much some people with emotionally negligent parents just were not taught those skills. It can come off as dismissive to be like "you're actually just hungry" when someone's upset but ... There are a nontrivial number of people in this world who cannot function normally when they're hungry and don't even realize that's what's causing it.

Anyways if you're sad and reading this go have a snack. Even if you have a real problem beyond being hungry you're not gonna solve it on an empty stomach anyway so just go have a snack. it won't hurt