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Stay Out of It, Nick Lachey

@stayoutofitnick

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i dont know what you are talking about i am a normal human person. i love pointing flashlights at animals at night and making noises at the beach and placing strange devices on turtles when theyre minding their own business. like normal human people.

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I have a disease that makes me like vampires and titties its callled being a fucking genius

Random pieces of advice

  1. The world is less scary and chaotic if you lie down on the floor
  2. Noticing different kinds of light (stars, candles, sunshine or city lights) can bring back the feeling of wonder and hope
  3. If you can’t shower, washing your hands and face will help you feel better and cleaner
  4. If you can’t clean anything else, changing and/or washing your bedsheets can do wonders
  5. Fresh air and being outside in general can help with depersonalisation
  6. Spending time around animals can help you recognise what’s important and calm anxious thought cycles
  7. Techniques for emotional regulation in children can really help adults too
  8. Putting random asortment of food on a plate without creating an actual dish still counts as a meal
  9. Drink something warm
  10. Delete that app
  11. Treat yourself as if you were a kid. Buy yourself a toy, play around, learn about cool new things
  12. Fast paced life isn’t morally better and it’s not good for everyone
  13. There is no good reason to keep yourself hungry
  14. Singing to your full lung capacity can be a great way to let out built up emotion
  15. Tension in the face can cause headaches. Try to massage your face regularly
  16. Nothing is as important as your health
  17. You are a whole person on your own, you don’t need someone else to be there to deserve love and attention. Your life can be full as long as you are present
  18. You should cry things out whenever you feel like it
  19. Slow walks are still movement and they do count
  20. It’s never as bad as you imagine it
  21. Try changing your toothpaste flavor if you hate brushing your teeth
  22. Anything can be a stim toy - one of my favourites is a heavy dragon necklace that has a complicated surfice. It’s fun to touch and hold and it’s not even “actual” stim toy
  23. Procrastinating and feeling bad about it is true waste of time. Learn to truly rest. It takes the same amount of time but it is useful
  24. Sometimes you have to force yourself to do the things that make you feel better
  25. Don’t trust the thoughts you have after not sleeping for a while
  26. Friendships don’t have to be forever to mean something

Don't get sucked into the "if they really cared I wouldn't have to say something" spiral. No matter how close you are with someone, it's unfair to expect them to know things you haven't actually communicated.

How to tell a raven from a crow. Made with corvid researcher Dr. Kaeli Swift for her blog post on the subject!

These are all well and good (accurate and informative and also fun) but here’s the best way to tell the difference between the two:

Ravens are FUCKING huge.

The best advice I’ve heard about this is as follows:

If your thought is “wow, is that a Raven??” It’s a crow.

If your thought is “Holy shit is that a CAT?!” It’s a raven.

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and if your thought is “wow, is that a crow?” it’s a grackle

People blocking my path bc they are slow-moving, e.g. elderly people and others with mobility issues: Take your time, no problem, please do not apologize, I am in no rush 👍🏻❤️

People blocking my path because they are not paying one bit of attention: I feel murder in my heart. I feel seething, bone-crushing rage. You had to stand and stop in a fucking doorway? What are you doing on your phone? Are you tapping your last will and te

All the patches I did for my Poser Jacket. This is the best thing I've ever thought of.

Here are (most) the designs in decent quality, feel free to steal them, feel free to make up your own in a similar style, feel free to show me, feel free to do whatever you want!!!!!

On needing a comprehensive harassment policy

We've been getting some confusion about the part of our demands that talks about OTW needing to consider "off-site coordinated harassment of AO3 users, which is fair, because I realize that could sound like "OTW needs to monitor/regulate what happens on other platforms" - but that's NOT what we meant by it.

What we meant is that if AO3 users are getting harassed on AO3, and they provide proof in their abuse claim of off-site harassment, that off-site harassment should also be considered as context for making a decision in the abuse claim.

An example of this - which we have permission to share - is what happened to an abuse claim filed by Dr. Rukmini Pande. We won't be linking directly to what happened because we are not trying to target individual users here, but all of what happened is still in public record.

Dr. Pande, a scholar of fan studies who wrote the seminal text on race and fandom, talked on her twitter account a few years ago about a Nazi fic on AO3 that was not only supremely offensive and antisemitic, but where the author had been sending their friends to harass people who criticized the fic. The author proceeded to add a tag to the fic that said "Rukmini Pande Lied About This Fic".

Because Dr. Pande tweeted her criticism from the account with her full name, people said this wasn't doxxing - which is true. But the author of the fic also was tweeting publicly to entertain the idea of reporting Dr. Pande to her employer, and they were also once again sending friends to harass her on Twitter.

When AO3 considered this abuse claim, Dr. Pande provided proof of what was happening on Twitter to prove that the author of the fic added the tag of her full name with the intention of inciting harassment to her. But the AO3 Abuse team said that this did not constitute harassment under their TOS.

Cases like that are what we mean by OTW considering "off-site coordinated harassment of AO3 users". Obviously OTW cannot control what is happening on Twitter, or Tumblr, or any other platform. But their Abuse team should be able to consider off-site harassment, when they are given proof of it, in determining whether a case on AO3 is harassment or not. (Also if you aren't familiar with Dr. Pande's work, her book Squee From The Margins: Fandom and Race is not only fantastic but was the first to comprehensively look at fandom racism, and she also edited a great anthology of articles on race and fandom called Fandom, Now In Color: A Collection of Voices. If you can't afford to buy them, you can request that your local library stock them!)

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listening to creep on the radio in the car and after it ended the host just sighed and went “well, im sorry you feel that way thom” and then played the next song