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Becoming homeless while disabled could kill me

My lease is terminating.

I’m BEDRIDDEN and I CANNOT SURVIVE HOMELESSNESS.

Jan 29:   LESS THAN  1 HOUR LEFT to raise $650 for paramedic transport etc. to new flat. Without payment, I’d be left to face homelessness & LIFE-THREATENING DANGERS

NO DONATIONS SO FAR. I am PLEADING for your help - PLEASE donate something!!!

  • I’m disabled & COMPLETELY BEDBOUND with complex regional pain syndrome [MEDICAL REPORTS].
  • My lease was terminated. If I don’t leave by April, the landlord can apply for a sheriff to remove me to the street by PHYSICAL FORCE
  • If I’m left on the street in my condition, I WOULD NOT SURVIVE
  • I need help to move to a rare accessible home and escape homelessness
  • Paramedic transport ($550) is needed to leave my home; a ramp must also be made ($426 left to raise. tradesperson postponed deadline.)
  • Other expenses incl.: removalists & other moving costs ($625); replacement mattress ($1000)
  • I am BEDBOUND. There is a UNDENIABLE chance that I COULD DIE, if left without shelter even for a short time.
  • DELAYS TO FUNDING COULD PUT ME IN ***MORTAL DANGER***

PLEASE DONATE HERE Counter must reach: at least $34,215 To exclude expended old donations

Recurring donations for my disability expenses can be made here & MUST be **registered at this link** to be valid. Recurring donations could ensure my ongoing safety and prevent CONSTANT FEARS FOR MY LIFE. Alternative donations page with lower fees (but no paypal)

*NO DONATIONS SO FAR* *NO DONATIONS SO FAR* *NO DONATIONS SO FAR* PLEASE DONATE. PLEASE HELP ME. I AM BEDRIDDEN. HOMELESSNESS IS A MATTER OF LIFE AND DEATH. WITHOUT IMMEDIATE HELP, I COULD BE LEFT TO DIE ON THE STREET.  LESS THAN 1 HOUR LEFT TO RAISE $650

PLEASE DONATE HERE (Donations counter must reach $34,215)

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THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

EVERYONE BOOT THE FUCK OUT OF THIS

This is so fucking unfortunate that we need this

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xphantasia

it just makes me angry that women need this.. but we do and if you see this, PLEASE REBLOG. it doesn’t matter if you are a male or a female. by reblogging this, you might save someone’s life.

Don’t scroll past this, it’s so important

nothing to do with what my posts are normally about but this is SO damn important!! don’t scroll past without reading and / or reblogging!

this is fucking important. Idc if your blog is perfect, fucking reblog this. It may save someone.

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sorry if i reblog this everY FIVE MINUTES

Important 

No worries if this post doesn’t fit your aesthetic or theme, this is important information. You could save not just a physical woman’s life but you can ALSO prevent things like PTSD that a woman would acquire from an attack if left alive

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I wasn’t asked to a single dance in high school and didn’t have a serious romantic relationship until I was 22. And like, yeah that shit hurt when I was younger. I had a lot of fears that I was unlovable and that I didn’t deserve to be happy. And every time I would try to talk to anyone about it, the conversation became, “you’ll find someone”, when it should have been, “you don’t need a relationship or a date, you’re lovable & complete & beautiful on your own”.

So yeah, please normalize young people not dating, and please stop shaming them for it. There’s more to life than romance, despite what the media wants us to think.

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In light of the tragedy that has taken place today, I urge you all to get help if you are having suicidal thoughts or symptoms in any way. No one deserves to die alone and no one should take the initiative to end their life. You are loved and you always will be. Talk to a friend, do something that distracts you or get professional help. You are needed. You are wanted. Maybe that’s all Jonghyun truly wanted to know.

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yehetuwu

I’m.. speechless. Being a shawol for almost 6 years, I’ve loved Shinee and Jonghyun so much. Jonghyun and his love for music, is absolutely undeniable. He is one of the most outspoken, warm hearted people ever and now he’s gone,,, and im just really shaking. My deepest condolences to his family, friends and acquaintances. He was a beautiful man and if he’s peaceful where he is now, there’s nothing more to say to it. . Idols aren’t superhumans guys. They have emotions too, they have a heart too. Mental health is very important, and losing such a gem of a man like Jonghyun should be a slap on our faces. Promote mental well-being, please. _ Today, all the fandoms, whether Shinee js your ult, fav or not, please stop fanwards and come together and help us Shawols get through this, because we really need the support. Its always going to 5hinee in our hearts and we love you and will miss you more than you think we would, Jjong. Krump krump(TT)💔💓 _ Stay strong, my family.

Feel free to ping me, if you have no one to talk about this to:)

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youxidol

please respect the wishes of his family. 

he’s a son and a brother. that’s more important than being a celebrity