It’s weird to miss who you were before the trauma when there was no you before the trauma.
Many survivors say, “I don’t remember anything,” without realizing that they are remembering when they suddenly startle, feel afraid, tighten up, pull back, feel shame or self-hatred, or start to tremble.
Janina Fisher, Transforming the Living Legacy of Trauma (via snorlax-and-co)
Re: Thomas Jefferson, George Washington, and all other “Founding Fathers” and historical figures who owned slaves
Fuck ‘Em
Listen to me, Tumblr, because apparently somewhere along the line a whole bunch of yall decided that we should just accept that whatever rich white people do as morally excusable if it happened a long enough time ago: owning slaves was evil.
Slavery was evil. Slave owners were evil. Even if it was legal, even if they inherited their slaves, even if they weren’t as physically abusive as they could have been- all slave owners were evil.
Abolitionists existed in America before, during, and after the American Revolution. Folks KNEW. Folks knew that owning other human beings was evil. It wasn’t fucking an unheard of idea that you shouldn’t OWN PEOPLE.
Thomas Jefferson spent years raping a slave girl and then kept the resulting children as slaves. George Washington used the teeth of slaves to make his own dentures. This is not “product of their time” wishy washy nonsense. This is not “Well, EVERYONE was doing it” like drinking their cocaine and canning their food with lead.
So yes, when you see someone pulling down a statue of Robert E Lee, or that sucking slave trader in Bristol, or Columbus, or Thomas Jefferson, and when you ask “who’s next? GEORGE WASHINGTON?” The answer should be - YES, FUCK EM.
Slavery, especially Atlantic chattel slavery as we saw it here in the Americas, was morally repugnant, start to finish, and without question an institution of untold horror and human suffering, and ANY ONE who directly and knowingly benefited from it was a bad person. We don’t need fucking STATUES of them because they can not and should not represent the values we wish to celebrate.
There were no good slave owners.
Cold remedies and tips
I am currently sick af and thought I’d use this time to give some great remedies for colds.
Aromatherapy: I actually got an aromatherapy diffuser for Christmas, and I have been using peppermint oil to help clear my sinuses. There are all sorts of oils that you can use that help when your sick, just look on Pinterest!
Use shower melts too, you can pick up a shower vapor tablet at CVS and take a warm shower to open up your sinuses. Plus, you always feel better when you’re clean and fresh, especially after laying in bed all day.
I like using my mint face scrub, which does the same thing as the peppermint oil in my diffuser. It makes me feel like I can breathe better.
Take Emergen-C if you think you’re likely to get sick. Tho these are for more preventative measures, it has something crazy like over 1000% of your daily vitamin C, and other vitamins to help prevent a cold.
DRINK WATER. DRINK WATER. DRINK WATER. And drink orange juice!
Try to stay away from dairy if your throat is sore. I like to eat a lot of soup, fruit, and rice when I’m sick.
Sleep!!! I know you want to go out, or have to go to work, but call out and get your rest, because your body needs it. Lay in bed and watch tv or read and sleeeeep all day. And if someone covers your shift, don’t be stingy and cover theirs in the future. Help each other out.
Keep lights dim to avoid headaches and migraines
Tan alka-seltzer plus cold formula!!! I know it tastes like shit, but it helps with symptoms. Zicam also helps with cold symptoms and doesn’t taste as bad.
Another thing, DON’T PANIC about stuff you need to get done or should be doing. You need to REST. I was so busy during Christmas, but as soon as the day after Christmas hit I woke up sick, and had no energy to do anything on my massive to do list. I got a little anxious about it, but I realized I needed to let my body rest!
Snap: hannah.brii 👻✨
Also, drinking a light soda (Sprite, 7Up, or gingerale is ya want) mixed with orange juice will make you burp so that the orange juice doesn’t give you a tummy ache.
Cheryl Strayed - Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar
A comic about the spectrum of responses to stress - we talk alot about the more extreme ends of this and trauma, but the more subtle and every day responses can be harder to spot. if we can understand our own and other’s responses better, problems Are easier to confront and blaming is less likely to happen :) hope it’s helpful!!
i carry a lot of hurt in my heart but that will not stop me from growing and healing and becoming better than i have ever been
laura’s endless list of favourites ● ships ➼ emma swan & killian jones “Just because you learn that you come from true love doesn’t mean you believe that you’ll ever find it. But thanks to you, now I have.”
can’t stop thinking about percy’s claiming scene now let me hold on a second.
we have this child, who has barely just escaped death by a hellhound, seemingly being healed by water. the girl who kinda-sort-of-hates-him knows full well what is happening. his wounds heal. she mutters about how she didn’t want this to happen. this could only mean one thing. poseidon, they whisper. and sure enough, just above his head, is a holographic figure of a trident.
ngl i have chiron’s line memorized by now lol.
“earthshaker, stormbringer, father of horses. hail perseus jackson, son of the sea god.”
and it’s just beautiful imagery, because everyone bows to him. everyone, as in, even the ares kids who had just tried to kill him. and it hits different if you think about how technically, percy jackson is a sea prince. it hits different when you realize that in canon, no other demigod got this treatment. maybe it was because few children of poseidon existed in comparison to zeus, or that poseidon is seen as a more elemental and primordial god, therefore is shown more respect. it hits different when you realize that percy becomes a figure of respect and dignity.
whatever the case, this scene FUCKS ME UP. annabeth bows down, chiron bows down, luke bows down, clarisse bows down…and meanwhile, the kid in question is scared out of his goddamn mind. he just thinks: why are they treating me this way? i don’t want this power. i don’t want this attention. i don’t want respect. because, here’s the thing—he’s not used to it.
but from then on…percy will be treated this way, like royalty, bc technically he is. his father is the ruler of the seas, and the ocean has always been feared, has always been respected and admired. and not only that, but he grows into that power. it’s so interesting to see this little boy who was just told, in the most dramatic way possible, who his father is—and then see a dramatic change in his character during botl when he wants more power as he cleans the horse stables in texas and realizes that the sea was inside of him all this time. that he is unrestrained. it’s so interesting to go from a little boy who wants nothing to do with his dad and his powers to a 16 year-old who sinks his sword into the williamsburg bridge and causes it to split in half. like his father did in athens. he commands armies, becomes his father’s son as he screams out when he realizes that michael yew is nowhere to be found, and so, with that scream, he makes the ground shake. he unleashes that power with titans, with gods, with monsters. and he cannot be stopped from then on, when he realizes that it’s inside him, that he has no choice but to want it. even if it scares him, at first.
so that claiming scene creates, in my mind, this domino effect on percy and his link to the ocean. to his father.
earthshaker, stormbringer…it all comes full circle. and the next time a group of demigods bow down to him, i can assure you that he’ll accept it, grimly. because what choice does he have? he is poseidon’s mortal son, and still he makes the ground shake and the seas rise to his command. he is the camp leader—but each day that his powers grow, everyone questions if he’s truly half human in the first place, or if he maybe belongs to the sea, as his father’s lieutenant like zeus had suggested in the first place.
and it all👏starts👏with👏that👏claiming👏scene
everyone gives annabeth a lot of shit for being angry at percy for spending more time with rachel before the war, and yeah she didn’t express it well, but imagine living with the knowledge that your best friend in the world has 3 months left to live and he doesn’t want to spend it with you.