crazy that in the 1970s they were like, "fine, women can play sports. but because they're innately less athletic than men, only in a special ghettoized League For The Frail And Delicate where they get paid less 😊". And not only is that still the system in 2023, but viciously lashing out at the smallest challenges to that system gets framed as Feminist Praxis

even setting aside the fact that gendered bodytype averages aren't universals, and plenty of individual (cis) women and (cis) men could easily go to toe to toe. have we considered that the fact that all the most prominent and well-paid sports are ones that require things like Being Tall and Having Muscle Mass, as opposed to, ex, gymnastics...is itself an artifact of sexism

Also consider the existence of sports where women would have an advantage, and yet, somehow, the most famous and well paid ones are not women.

I'm thinking of jockeys. Jockeys get an advantage from being smaller and lighter, and while obviously you need sufficient strength to stay on the horse, a well-trained horse does enough of the work that you don't need upper body strength to do the job. Given this and that the majority of children obsessed with horses are female, you'd think most jockeys would be women. Yet somehow they are not.

NASCAR at one point threatened to handicap Danica Patrick by putting extra weight in her car to compensate for the fact that she is smaller and lighter than other racecar drivers. If she gets an advantage as a driver, why is she like practically the only female racecar driver, or at least the only one anyone knows about?

Women, apparently, have an advantage in long distance swimming. Higher body fat percentage and higher endurance means that women can go greater distances in the water. Is long distance swimming even a competitive sport?

Women have actually been excluded from competitive Olympic skiing on the grounds that the jumps required could damage their uterus. The people who actually have unsupported reproductive organs hanging outside their body are considered to have better support than the people whose reproductive organs are nestled in alongside unisex organs like the small intestine and stomach. How does this make any goddamn sense at all? If a uterus could dislodge from the force of a skiing jump, so could intestines and the sport wouldn't be safe for anyone.

Theoretically, any sport where you get an advantage from low center of gravity, better balance, higher flexibility, or being closer to the ground, women should have an advantage. This should include soccer (football in non-US places), and might include hockey if the hockey players hadn't introduced unnecessary viciousness to the sport.

So in any sport where women would excel over men, they're either excluded, unfairly penalized, the sport doesn't exist, or the sport is considered unimportant and no one makes money on it. Hmm. I am thinking the problems here are not actually what the TERFs and transphobes make them out to be.

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me, an hour ago: "fuck, the stove is on! what do we do?" [immediately does all the wrong things]

PSA: What NOT to do when you smell gas

In this situation, we got home to a smell of gas throughout the house and discovered our gas stove was on without a flame. it was only a tiny stream, and everything turned out fine, but here's a brief list of everything we did wrong:

1. If your stove has an electrical/spark ignition, do NOT turn it off.

Spark ignitions often spark when turning on *and* off. Spark + Gas = Boom. Boom is bad. Avoid boom.

Instead, turn off the gas at the source, i.e. the physical valve at the meter. There may be a smaller valve near the stove. If you don't know where the shutoff is, the fire department will find it.

2. Do NOT turn on (or off) vents or fans.

In fact, don't flip any electrical switches - that includes lights, plugging in or unplugging appliances, etc. These cause sparks. Spark + Gas = Boom.

Also, don't start your car. obviously.

3. Do NOT open windows

counterintuitive, I know. This is mostly because you want to prioritize your exit, but it's also to keep the fumes from spreading outside, where you should be waiting for the ~professionals~ to come handle it.

4. DO take all people and pets outside.

Do this very first!! (one thing we actually did right - go us!)

This is obviously because you don't want to go boom, but you also don't want to suffocate. Gas is poison!

5. DO call the fire department/emergency line

They'll check for other leaks, shut gas off if needed, then test for air quality and eventually clear your house for reentry. It takes like 1-2 hours for the gas to dissipate, generally.

Yay, you survived! Congrats!!

idk, this was actually pretty scary, especially when we realized how much of our immediate response was wrong and could have turned a dangerous situation into a real disaster.

tl;dr: If you smell gas when you shouldn't be smelling gas, just get all the people and animals outside, shut off the gas line, and call the fire department or gas company. don't fuck around with gas. you're not overreacting, you're taking the proper safety measures.

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Thinking about his small bones

My friend took me to his favorite beignet spot in New Orleans and this was my reaction

the point of my masculinity and male positivity posts are to underline that masculinity and manhood are seen as a threat or in direct opposition to queerness, and that often times in order to be seen as queer you have to be partially or wholly feminine or gender neutral, or express your manhood in a feminine or gender neutral way in order to no longer be threatening, invasive, or a problem.

it is very difficult to exist in queer spaces as a hyper masculine person & a man. you're made to feel like you need to walk a tight rope feeling like you're inherently out of place, as if you existing and being masculine or a man in queer spaces makes others uncomfortable inherently.. just know that when i make positivity posts it is to remind us all that masculinity/manhood and queerness are not opposites and that you do not have to be a feminine man or masc person to be viewed/seen/heard as queer.

chasing men, masculine people, and masculinity out of queer spaces isn't helping anyone currently and won't help anyone down the line. please accept masc enbies, butches, bears, and masculine trans men with the same kindness, love, and passion that you do neutral and feminine people. that's the point when i make these kinds of posts. thank u

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This is 100% thanks to the “No kink at Pride” people. Because?

They didn’t want these men at Pride. This is a leather daddy. (A rather covered-up leather daddy, because this addition doesn’t do anyone any good if it’s flagged into invisibility, but best believe that dude has hella abs under there, and a 50/50 chance of heavy tattooing.)

Here’s another. Again on the modest side for the sake of not triggering the automod thing, but you can see the interplay of queerness and masculinity—particularly a kind of forward, unashamed sexual explicitness, if you take a look at their crotches. That’s a kind of…for lack of a better term, mating display. “I have this and want to use it, or at least know there are men here fantasizing about me using it.” It’s akin to a woman wearing a plunge neck. You’re supposed to look, and if you’re a dude, he’d like you to like it.

These dudes (well, most of these dudes)? They’re bears. (I said “most” because the guy in the sunhat is technically a cub. He’s too young to be a bear.) The furriness and the beards and the age and the bellies ARE THE POINT. The name “bear” is an affectionate one. Literally “I’m big and hairy!” In the 00s there was a stereotype(?) that bears were also super-cuddly. I don’t know how true it is, but I can confirm every bear I’ve ever met gives amazing hugs. They will readjust your spine, your touch starvation, and your entire outlook on life.

None of this touches on the rather large queer kink communities around “men in uniform.” Military, police, construction, I can’t tell you how many strip nights I’ve been to at a local gay bar with a guy dressed as a sexy firefighter getting absolutely swamped with dollar bills and lap dance requests.

You aren’t seeing these men because they’ve been forced out of spaces THEY CREATED. One of the best things you can do is to help bring them back.

They’re not threatening, they’re not disgusting, they’re not somehow dangerous just by virtue of being open about their sexuality and sexual desire. They’re just human beings who human slightly differently than you.

But more importantly?

They’re family. And don’t you forget it.

Rejection of queer masculinity is also largely—but not solely—a problem among people whose only contact with queer folk is online. Yes, I am fully saying this is largely a Terminally Online problem. If you’re gathering with queer people in meatspace, you’re gonna see pretty quickly that queer male culture idolizes masculinity in the real world. We love men. We love masculinity—sometimes to a fault. We’re not all drag queens and Sassy Gay Best Friends. Hell, watch some gay porn and you’ll see this. Look at erotica drawn by & for gay men. You ain’t gonna see many bishies in women’s lingerie there.

What you’ve gotta understand is that Leathermen, biker gays, the uniform fetish, queer male BDSM clubs, and more arose after scads of queer men got a taste of being around each other all the time in WWII, came home, and found they still needed spaces like that. They formed clubs. They invented Leather. They developed cultures. And those things are all still around today.

Who do you think kept the queens safe at Pride parades in the days when the cops weren’t there as escorts but as crowdbreakers?

A TERF can’t go into a Leather club or gay bar and drip poison into the ears of baby queers nearly so easily as they can online. And seeing as how in much of the world it is still literally dangerous to be out, a lot of us don’t HAVE the option of going to munches or Leather bars or gay clubs and learning from our elders, who are, as you might expect, not nearly so active on the internet as said baby queers tend to be.

Capitalism and mass media don’t fuckin’ help here, either. Queer masculinity is so threatening to cishets that masculine queer men pretty much only exist on film as threats—basically as homophobic rape jokes. Muscle daddies don’t appear in ad campaigns. No one’s making cutesy coming-out/coming-of-age movies about cubs.

But we exist, and we have always existed, and we will always exist.

Broaden your horizons. Don’t buy our enemies’ bullshit. Queer masculinity is a good and natural thing.

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we are all just so normal about him

i really hate the hurf durf positivity memes that are like *~you are not a burden~* 😌☺️🙏 bitch yes i am. taking care of sick people is hard. putting up with and organizing your life and tasks around people who take ten times as long and one hundred times as much energy to do simple tasks is HARD. never being on time, abandoning plans, leaving early, not eating normal food, these are all things that make everyone else's life harder. I'm a burden! the point is that humans carry their burdens and always have and the way the species is designed makes this not just ethical but beneficial materially to everyone. saying disabled people "aren't a burden" is just erasing all the work caretakers do to keep us alive. the point is that everyone is entitled to be a burden, and even if you are never sick a day in your life you will still spend years at either end of your brief stint on earth being bothersome to someone else. that's normal

I got to Bug sit yesterday and today too. She is my daughter’s baby pea hen. Such a sweetie.

The two of us hung out in the big pen at Longfeather Lane with Indie and Arcana. Enjoy a few of my pics of beautiful Indie too.

He was showing off for Bug

アカヤマドリ(Copper Pheasant)

PACING IS ABOUT LOAD BEARING WALLS.

*staples violently to my own forehead*

One skelly rainbow dragon 🌈

light yagami is so fucking stupid in like a month they narrowed it down from like it could be anyone in the world.. to it could be anyone in japan to it could be anyone in the kanto region to it could be any student in the kanto region to its honestly probably one of the family members of these two policemen and my god this mans son is so fucking weird whats wrong with him like honestly i think L should have just taken the risk and hit light with a car one day and been like huh funny the kira murders stopped right this policemans son got hit by a car i asked my chauffeur to drive into him funny how that works out

This is kinda why I stopped reading. Like, you get to Vol. 3 and I’m like, “If both of these dudes are so smart, how are we still doing this same dance?????”

Because they both share the fatal flaw of having to be The Best in different ways. Light needs to prove that he’s Better Than Everyone Else and impossible to outsmart, both in his public life and incognito – every major mistake he makes in the entire series is a direct refusal to be embarrassed an intellectual opponent. He gets his position narrowed down to Kanto because he’s publically insulted by L and reacts in anger. L realises very early on that he’s probably a student, nad he responds by an escalation that reveals he has police info on purpose; he justifies this as trying to drive a wedge between L and the police but it’s very clearly a bad move on his part that reveals far too much in a simple attempt to show off. When he kills the FBI, it’s not because he needs to – it’s far safer for him to ignore them. But they challenged him by being there, and L challenged him by putting them there; the move needs a counter-move. And it gives away his identity. Every single time anyone gets closer to Light’s identity, it’s because his pride is hurt and he needs to show off. Every single time.

L has a similar obsession, except that L doesn’t care about people or their opinions of him. Instead of needing to appear the smartest, he needs to be perfect. Practical shortcuts like hitting Light with his car would save so many lives, but that’s not what L is there for – it’s explicitly stated right from the beginning that L only takes cases that happen to interest him, and this proves accurate throughout the series. He’s interested in the puzzle. He will preserve lives directly in front of him when he can do so easily (such as safeguarding the detectives he works with, or not deliberately provoking Light into killing more prisoners, and using death row inmates for his experiments), but more important than that is winning correctly, with his intellect. Hitting people with cars when you don’t have the evidence to properly arrest them instead is against the rules.

Death Note isn’t the story of two opponents who are doing a good job. It’s two opponents who are just clever and prideful enough to halfway burn the world down in their pissing contest.

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