in honour of my first self administered t shot yesterday :)
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Sexual themes
engaging with themes during sexual engagements/role play has the same relationship to those themes that talking about them has. you are not enacting the acts you are role playing, you are processing them.
much like how one can discuss loaded subjects in harmful ways, all sexual encounters can be handled poorly, and incorporating high-stakes subjects increases the level of risk. but to say that certain themes should never be explored in a sexual context is comparable to saying that those themes should never be discussed.
it isn't helping anyone to say that victims of abuse and oppression aren't allowed to process it in the ways that they need to.
I didn't mean process exclusively in the "heal and recover from trauma uwu" sense but rather in the "processing of information" sense. I certainly don't think it needs to be some sort of trauma healing thing you earn through receiving abuse, but I think we live in a fundamentally abusive and oppressive world and that many of the most controversial kink subjects (pedophilia, racism) engage with phenomena that can only exist in an abusive and oppressive world and so engaging with those particular kinks inherently is a form of processing (as in, responding to an input of information) systems of abuse and oppression, even if the processor is not themselves someone typically regarded as a "victim" of such systems. so yeah I totally agree and my point was not that kink is only ever a way to cope, but rather that kink that engages with themes of abuse is often the most controversial, yet is some of the most essential, as it serves as a way for us to explore and understand and build new relationships with themes of abuse, no matter what out history with said themes may be.
reading a past Xavier Dolan interview
Tell me more, was it love at first sight? 😉
All the way from the past for a very Happy Valentines Day! 🏹♥️
adorable valentine day card!
art by autumnalwood on insta
Omnipwesent horseshoe crab blog wishes you a sweet Valentine’s Day
GORDON RAMSAY: Alright, mate. I'll forgive the cockup with the soup course, but I want that caprese salad, and if there's any more forbidden knowledge of the future in it I'm going to need words with the chef de cuisine ME: Absolutely, chef. We have your caprese salad coming out now *additional member of waitstaff brings out a dish on one hand, and lifts the cloche to reveal basil leaves, fresh mozzarella, and slices of San Marzano tomato artfully arranged to spell out "MARCH 15, 2048 - AUTO ACCIDENT"* GORDON RAMSAY: Hold on a moment. Is that when and how I die? ME: I don't know, chef. It seems at odds with the concept of free will that knowing such a thing would even be possible GORDON RAMSAY: Not even through the antipasti and I'm already being asked to subscribe to a non-deterministic universe. Fuck me
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yuri of the week
captaintightpanties
What if birds could actually speak English and we were speaking bird the whole time. Like really how weird would that be?
shinyriolus
the geese are back? God I hate them so fucking much.
darling-highness
what the fuck is this newspaper
From Gold Carson Sánchez's chapbook, Live Action Capitalism, available from Bottlecap Press!
Patchwork quilt floor!
You just know that some sweet little old Nana who has been making quilts for the last 50 years has seen this photo and gone “challenge accepted” and make a blanket with that pattern
anxious-achillean
Ok, I’ve decided I can’t leave well enough alone, but these pictures really do not do this mosaic justice. It is 9,000 square feet, and is basically patchwork spanning over 15 centuries. Here are some other pictures of the Antakya mosaic:
Also, it is not one of the largest mosaics; it is the single largest intact ancient mosaic in the world.
traditional cross-dressing on ukrainian malanka holiday. the woman is dressed as vasyl (folk adaptation of st. basil) and the man is dressed as malanka (folk adaptation of st. melania).
during this holiday, ukrainians honor the ancestral spirits and imitate them by dressing as animals and opposite genders, since it is believed that the otherworld blurs the line between male and female, as well as between man and beast.
photographed by anna senik (ładna kobieta)
I hit a pothole (a Michigan pothole so basically a sinkhole) today and my check engine light came on. I don’t have one of those computer plugins to reset the light and I knew it was just a sensor that got knocked so I was just like “well let’s see if this works” and on the way home I swerved and hit the pothole again and the check engine light turned off
leonard cohen's you want it darker should be remixed and played in clubs like if i heard "hineni hineni....i'm ready my lord" and then the most insane beat drop of my life i'd see god on the dance floor
