In case you need this today

- you are not a failure - you are not a waste of space - you are loved - you are wanted - i believe in you - you can do it

You know what?

I am annoying sometimes.

And that’s okay. It’s not the death sentence I was led to believe. People will love me even if I can’t read their signals sometimes. Not understanding is forgivable. I don’t have to hold myself back so I don’t annoy anyone ever.

The people who love me know I get excited. And I am still loved.

Type Merry Christmas without using the letters in your name.

Mey Chstms

Mrry hristmas

Mrry Chrstmas

m sas

Merry Chrstms

m hitm

mrry hrtm

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Mrry Ctma

i really wish platonic relationships were more important. i’m tired of losing friendships because i’m less important than their significant other. i hate that i’m automatically not as close to my friends because i’m not the person they’re dating/sleeping with. and i hate how whenever i complain about it the response is “you’ll find someone too someday!” like no I shouldn’t have to “find someone” to feel loved and important, maybe we should stop promoting investing all your time and effort and physical and emotional intimacy into one romantic/sexual partner idk

Cat teef moodboard! They smile!

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I noticed when I was a kid that adults seem to forget that everything is real, no matter how young you are. A seven year old doesn’t feel like a helpless infant, they feel the oldest and most mature they’ve ever felt. And they will when they turn eight, too. And nine. Twenty. Thirty. Fifty.

You never feel as young as you are, because you’re always the oldest you’ve been. You can only look back and equate childhood with ignorance and silliness, because there were things you didn’t know then. But there are things you don’t know now, too, that someone older is looking down at you for.

I promised myself I would never forget that, growing up. I put it in a time capsule when I was nine because I wanted to be certain. And sometimes it slips away, and I catch myself scoffing at people younger than me, but you have to fight that. You have to hold on. You have to keep a little bit of your younger mind inside you, so you don’t forget.

I think that’s important.

Remember that you’ll always change, but know that the person you’ll become isn’t going to be any more real than the person you are, or the person you were. They’re still going to feel like You.

types of people- colors

pink- thigh high skirts, lipgloss, strawberry milk, soft voice, stubborn, most likely watches sailor moon, expensive taste, loves attention, wears makeup, being extra, milkshakes, face masks, glitter, sweet perfume, early 00s pop, pouting, cherry blossom trees

red- acrylic nails, bodycon outfits, matte lipstick, crop tops, sunglasses, high top sneakers, audacious, loud music blaring in club, neon lights, smirking, staying past curfew, truth or dare, middle fingers, sharp teeth, confidence, speaking another language, self love, outfits on point, hates being popular

orange- loud laughter, ten hour road trips, sociable, friendly, snacks from the gas station, not afraid to speak their minds, hoodies, messy hair, junk food, bounces their leg while sitting, extroverted, never studies but has good grades, terrible puns, adventurous, gets distracted easily, talks loud

yellow- honey, baked goods, overalls, wide grins, smell of shea butter, fields of flowers, lemonade on a hot day, late summer, fireflies, thrift shops, kind of confused, ukuleles, thumbs up, slight acne, short hair, carries a backpack everywhere, thick eyebrows, tooth gaps

green- mischievous, late night video games, nerdy, underrated, distinguished but a disater, big jackets, ripped jeans, humid forests, minty candies, alien button pins, dyed hair, striped socks, unshaven legs, cryptology, nowhere near straight, framed glasses, gen z slang

blue- anxious, ocean waves, science and art, big sweaters, top A+ student, astrology, rainy days, vinyl records, diy jewelry, vivid memories, pretty sad but still okay, perfectionist, would sleep and never wake up, loves dolphins, averting eye contact, gentle smiling

purple- quiet, daydreams a lot, fantasy novels, idealism, 80s music, tries to be deep, bomber jackets, very shy but weird, worn out sneakers, wants to change the world for the better, going on the swings to think, laying in the backyard, draws in a small sketchbook, lofi hip hop videos

black- one in the morning, cloudy skies, half written journals, combat boots, graveyards, strums of a gutair, baggy eyes, half glances, rolling eyes, never admits their feelings publicly, poetry, smuged eyeliner, groaning in annoyance, old horror movies, oversized t-shirts

white- serenity, natural beauty, architecture, marble floors, greek goddesses, angels, wistful presence, dewey skin, curly hair, freckles, neat writing, vanilla foods, daisies, sophisticated words, skies, long dresses, skincare no makeup, quiet laughing, feathers

brown- coffee shops, well grounded, reads the newspaper, late fall, downtown cities, sun kissed skin at 4pm, chocolate bars, warm sunsets, natural hair, the smell of old books, reads a lot, doesn’t go on social media that much, always wear long sleeved shirts, the mom friend

HEY PERSON WHO DID THIS. CAN I USE IT TO LIKE DRAW CHARACTERS/SHEETS LIKE IF I DID PINK COULD I LIKE DRAW A GIRL TO THE DESCRIPTION AND THEN LIKE LIPSTICK AND MILKSHAKES AND OTHER OBJECTS DESCRIBED AROUND HER.

it’s all “accidental hand touch” this and “brief longing gaze” that, where’s my support at for “reaching up and fixing someone’s collar for them” crew??

the intimacy disguised as helpfulness! the lingering contact! the optional subdued “you look nice” as they stand too close!!

expand your pining vocabulary people

I’ll never forget that one time I was talking to this boy and I rejected him (mind you I almost gave him my address because we were supposed to go out) and he stalked and harassed me for an entire month and put my number on Craigslist (I was getting hundreds of calls and texts every day to the point my phone stopped working).

Men are crazy.

I had one throw a water bottle at me for ignoring him as I walked down the street. I was 6 months pregnant with my daughter on my way to a doctors appointment. The bottle missed me.

He’s lucky I was pregnant. I pulled my box cutter out on a dude one night on the train when I used to work nights a few years back. I scare myself sometimes because I’m gonna kill somebody one day.

I always carry my knife with me just because dudes love to act stupid so I’m prepared to cut they ass accordingly :)

Omg where can I get a pocket knife?

Amazon! They have these knifes disguised as keys.

I got this on amazon. Closes up and looks like a leaf. Sits right on my key chain.

WomenOnGuard.com also has a selection, many of which you can find on Amazon - but should you find yourself spending $50 on self defense weapons, WomenOnGuard.com offers free pepper spray & free shipping (as of March 14, 2018 - in case that offer ends at some point)

As someone with limited strength and physical mobility, but who can press a button pretty easily, I recommend personal keychain alarms that are set to make a VERY loud noise (140db–about the same noise level as a chainsaw). They’re about $8 a piece usually, but you can buy 3 for 16 and split them among your family and friends. If it doesn’t startle and deter the harasser/attacker, it’ll definitely get someone’s attention.

I usually end up taking most my classes in evening so I can go straight to work after. For a year or so I never carried anything with me. When the security guard at my job found out he was livid. He went and got me mace and a little pocket knife.

Within the last year I’ve had a guy follow me in the parking garage when ain’t no other cars there.

I’ve had guys waiting outside my job and no one is there to walk me to my car at 3am.

Strap up ladies cause these men do note care how scary they are, they don’t care that they intimidate you into talking to you.

But also ladies RESEARCH THE LAWS OF YOUR STATE/CITY, cause some of the things you buy may get you arrested & possibly charged; even in self defence. For example: It’s illegal in NY state to carry and use a taser or possess a knife longer than a certain length. This is also very important, shitty to find out but important.

To ALL my female followers, please be safe!

Reblogging for the personal Keychain alarm for us disabled ladies. I can’t handle a knife with my hands so this is super helpful.

Fun fact: in some places, pepper spray is super illegal, but bear spray is not

no offense but like…. more saving…… more doing…… that’s the power of home depot

if you’re a baby gay and this is your first pride, watch your drinks! men are trash across all sexualities

I know boys don’t get these talks so let me clarify:

This doesn’t just mean alcohol

Don’t accept any open drinks

After you get your unopened drink, you keep it in your site

You have to go to the bathroom so you leave your drink on a table? That drink is now dead to you.

You’ve been holding your drink way low out of your eyesight and people are crowding? That drink is now suspect.

Stay safe, babies

Also: Rohypnol (a date rape drug) tastes VERY SALTY. If your drink is suddenly salty, STOP DRINKING IMMEDIATELY. 

Buddy system, y'all. If your friend is acting *way* drunker than they should, take them to an Urgent Care or ER. Date rape drugs can kill you.

always rb

rb for the advice

And not just the boys, but girls too.

Just because you’re in a bar or club with only other women does not mean you are inherently safe.

My best friend got drugged by a girl in an all female bar and was almost raped in the bathroom.

Always remember to be careful.

Alllll of this. I’ve seen some shit at pride man… Be safe

Remember that gay people are still people and that doesn’t always mean they are good! Be careful! Remember to use a buddy system for bathrooms and don’t go anywhere alone! Take a friend/friends to accompany you! 💗