Btw that rule about not trusting how you feel after 4pm in the winter or 9pm in the summer (really we should just say after the sun goes down but whatever) is only about negative feelings. if you are chilling with your best friend drinking hot chocolate and have never felt more loved and safe, that is 100% true and you can and should trust
people love to demonize anger and label you as a sort of failed trauma recovery story if you’re even slightly angry about the way you’re treated and I just think that’s so stupid. sometimes people are mad for 100% justifiable reasons and you should just let them be mad instead of having a superiority complex about it
white people are so terrified of the idea that they'll have to pay for what they did because they think that people they've oppressed are as savage as they were.
and hell ! still are! they think black people will put them into slavery... they think natives will take away their culture. they think asians will subjugate them to fetishization and demonization simultaneously like it's so obvious
As someone who is autistic, I cannot, CANNOT emphasize enough the damage the mantra of 'Do or do not, there is no try' did to me. Is it a quote from a fictional mutilated frog in a just as fictional universe? Yes. Did people take it onboard as an actual Thing to Live By? Yes.
Here's the deal- for me, and a ton of other neurodivergent people, trying is tantamount to one of the greatest efforts we can give. Trying is our best some days. It's giving it our all. We're gonna screw up, and fail, and probably be a little bit sad and angry because of it, but lemme tell you a secret.
Doing things halfway, means we tried. It means we didn't just walk away from it. For me for example, if I'm so depressed or in such a sensory-sensitive space that I can't unload the dishwasher, I might still be able to gather all the dirty dishes and put them in one spot for later. Can't shower? I can still run a warm washcloth over my face and put some deodorant on.
You get the gist. If you have a loved one - family, friend, or otherwise - who is on the spectrum or neurodivergent in some way and you see them struggling, don't push them to 'just do it'. Praise them for trying, encourage their efforts and don't get angry if they have to stop.
Trying is doing.
same with "don't half-ass things". my life get so much better once i gave myself permission to half-ass anything i want
One thing my shitty 'autism coach' did right was tell me "it is better to hand in an unfinished thing than to hand in nothing at all".
trans guy who doesn’t realize he’s turning into a werewolf because he assumes it’s all just normal side effects of starting testosterone
seeing posts about shows/comics/movies etc I’m not familiar with
As someone who is autistic, I cannot, CANNOT emphasize enough the damage the mantra of 'Do or do not, there is no try' did to me. Is it a quote from a fictional mutilated frog in a just as fictional universe? Yes. Did people take it onboard as an actual Thing to Live By? Yes.
Here's the deal- for me, and a ton of other neurodivergent people, trying is tantamount to one of the greatest efforts we can give. Trying is our best some days. It's giving it our all. We're gonna screw up, and fail, and probably be a little bit sad and angry because of it, but lemme tell you a secret.
Doing things halfway, means we tried. It means we didn't just walk away from it. For me for example, if I'm so depressed or in such a sensory-sensitive space that I can't unload the dishwasher, I might still be able to gather all the dirty dishes and put them in one spot for later. Can't shower? I can still run a warm washcloth over my face and put some deodorant on.
You get the gist. If you have a loved one - family, friend, or otherwise - who is on the spectrum or neurodivergent in some way and you see them struggling, don't push them to 'just do it'. Praise them for trying, encourage their efforts and don't get angry if they have to stop.
Trying is doing.
same with "don't half-ass things". my life get so much better once i gave myself permission to half-ass anything i want
I was in one of the biggest unmotivated slumps of my life last year. I had been more depressed before, but never more unmotivated. The only thing that got me out of it was a video, or slew of videos that convinced me of this.
I painted a magnet with the phrase “anything worth doing, is worth doing poorly”
And it took a while—but it not only got me out of that slump but substantially helped me to view my life beyond productivity overall. And even now, when I dip back into a bad state—it can remind me to do things. Do them poorly.
Don’t be Yoda—the pretentious, perfect, experienced, fully grown green thing.
Be Grogu. The fumbling toddler who does great things on accident because he’s not afraid of doing them poorly. And lean on a shiny metal person when you don’t want to do anything at all.
Dagger with gold inlay and jade handle. India, Mughal Empire, 18th century.
Saying that “humans” are responsible for ecological devastation is a continuation of colonial racism, and it is an insult to the peoples who have fought against obliteration to preserve their way of life and their relationship with their territory. It is also an insult to the many people who, despite growing up in a culture totally infused with the values of capitalism, have risked their lives and freedom to defend the land and halt destructive development projects. And it is an insult to the hundreds of millions who are subjected to extreme poverty or absolute precarity by the very same economic order that profits from ecocide, who have to worry about their personal survival and that of their family and community, and do not have the luxury of choosing between different job opportunities and consumer products based on how “ecological” they might be.
Peter Gelderloos, The Solutions are Already Here
