Female Rage

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this is the men's vs women's outfits for the same 100m USATF competition. the men are wearing tight tank tops and shorts to the knee, the women are wearing pretty much bras and underwear. don't tell me this is about being aerodynamic. it's about sexualizing women. can you imagine if the men were wearing the women's outfits? they'd look stupid because we're so used to seeing women practically naked.

same sport. same year. same competition. look at the outfits.

tell me it's for moving easier.

same sport. same year. same competition. (also the women's one is also practically underwear with a see-through skirt that goes up all the time when skating)

Men’s Beach Volleyball:

Women’s Beach Volleyball:

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The boomers are right about a lot of things. Even if sometimes they blame it on the wrong people.

Planned obsolescence is making everything terrible. Tipping is out of control, pay your damn workers a fair wage (still tip though, since that's the system right now and they need that tip to live). Not everything needs to have an app, account, and subscription. Physical media is important. Social media is poisoning people's minds (boomers included). America is dying (capitalism and nationalism being the main causes). Not everything needs to work off smart technology that's a pain in the ass to use. And for fucks sake, give us buttons to push, I don't know where the damn remote is.

And yes, fries come with the burger. Unless you're ordering a la carte. A meal consists of more than just one item. Having sides prominently displayed that don't come with it is just deceptive. That just leaves the workers to warn every damn customer beforehand before they (rightfully) complain. Also, sauce packs should be free.

One of the interchangeable ghouls running in 2024 is talking up his plan to tie voting rights to passing a civics test & it's amazing watching people discuss this in neutral terms

A lot of the response to this is "oh, that's great, next let's restore civics education in schools", but the entire point is that they're not going to improve civics education. The age range gives a hint: this is a ploy to disenfranchise young voters, by, presumably, demanding they pass a test the state won't train them for in order to get rights granted by the states. It's like saying "oh, yes, literacy tests for voting makes sense, it'll really inspire the South to educate black people". It uh. Didn't. And I think many of the people agreeing know that and support it bc it's disenfranchising, but some seem to just agree bc it's "COMMON SENSE" and they're not digging any deeper?

This would be a civics test authored by a far right administration, to be clear. The tests we give immigrants are already propagandistic nonsense, imagine that in the hands of the "slavery taught people valuable skills" crowd

Also, his amendment would allow young people who can't pass the test to vote if they join the military. This is a "service guarantees citizenship" amendment

This is just literacy tests again!

One thing that gets overlooked in conversations about these kinds of tests is that the government isn't required to design a good test. That might seem like a small thing, but during the days of the literacy test governments would go out of their way to write up ambiguous or deceptively worded questions to drive down the pass rate.

Here's a literacy test that was used in Louisiana in 1964. I want you to seriously try taking this test, and remember that you have to answer every question correctly in 10 minutes to vote.

Number 30 is the most egregious to my mind. Draw five circles that do what with one common inter-locking part? What's an interlocking part anyhow? Some of these have multiple possible answers. Is the answer to number 25 "Paris in the the spring" or "what you read in the triangle below"? Number 9 is a particular bit of fuckery, because the right answer is to draw a single curved line that intersects Z and Y.

The government cheats. The worse part is, you can't bloody well vote them out of office for cheating, because they've already taken away your right to vote.

"Well I'll just wait until I'm 25 and vote them out of office then!" What's keeping these people from increasing that age to 35 or 45, or just getting rid of the age requirement altogether? You can't fucking vote against them raising the age limit, can you?

"Well they can't ban everyone from voting." They don't have to. Here's a fun bit of etymological trivia: the term "grandfather clause" comes from exceptions built into the literacy test system that stated you don't have to take the test if your grandpa could vote. These exceptions were put in place soon after black people were first given the right to vote, so most white people were exempt but most black people had to take the test.

Don't think they'll put in an exception that lets their voters keep voting while preventing you from voting? They're already doing it. The average soldier is more likely to vote conservative than the average person of the same age bracket. That's why soldiers get the exception! No way they'd give the same exception to members of the Peace Corp, despite a Peace Corp member doing a hell of a lot more to fulfill their civic duty than a soldier, because those people are bloody liberals.

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A more present day firsthand comparison for people: states banning abortion didn’t lead to those states also providing services to the women they force to give birth. The whole point of those states banning abortion isn’t actually to “protect life,” it’s to ruin the lives of women.

This is the same concept with young voters. If a “civics education” even actually did happen, you can bet it would be full of disinformation that’s supposed to force people to accept Republican bullshit or else not get to vote.

Voter ID is also a modern case of this - they framed it as a way to fight voter fraud, and in a vacuum, it sounds neutral...but that ignores how Republicans simultaneously made it more difficult to get IDs, and that voter fraud as they frame it basically doesn't happen (since, well, their side are the only ones trying to do organized voter fraud)

I can't imagine what a nightmare a civics test written by the far-right would be. Imagine having to answer that Biden stole the election in 2020 or that the Civil War was about "state's rights" to vote

barbie movie's lukewarm feminist messaging was cute and the bit where she was so happy to go the gynaecologist made me laugh but the way conservatives are talking about it you'd think margot robbie started reciting the S.C.U.M. manifesto on screen

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Modern man, instead of attempting to raise himself to truth, seeks to drag truth down to his own level.

The Crisis of the Modern World

René Guénon

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"The idea of reforming Omelas is a pleasant idea, to be sure, but it is one that Le Guin herself specifically tells us is not an option. No reform of Omelas is possible — at least, not without destroying Omelas itself:

If the child were brought up into the sunlight out of that vile place, if it were cleaned and fed and comforted, that would be a good thing, indeed; but if it were done, in that day and hour all the prosperity and beauty and delight of Omelas would wither and be destroyed. Those are the terms.

'Those are the terms', indeed. Le Guin’s original story is careful to cast the underlying evil of Omelas as un-addressable — not, as some have suggested, to 'cheat' or create a false dilemma, but as an intentionally insurmountable challenge to the reader. The premise of Omelas feels unfair because it is meant to be unfair. Instead of racing to find a clever solution ('Free the child! Replace it with a robot! Have everyone suffer a little bit instead of one person all at once!'), the reader is forced to consider how they might cope with moral injustice that is so foundational to their very way of life that it cannot be undone. Confronted with the choice to give up your entire way of life or allow someone else to suffer, what do you do? Do you stay and enjoy the fruits of their pain? Or do you reject this devil’s compromise at your own expense, even knowing that it may not even help? And through implication, we are then forced to consider whether we are — at this very moment! — already in exactly this situation. At what cost does our happiness come? And, even more significantly, at whose expense? And what, in fact, can be done? Can anything?

This is the essential and agonizing question that Le Guin poses, and we avoid it at our peril. It’s easy, but thoroughly besides the point, to say — as the narrator of 'The Ones Who Don’t Walk Away' does — that you would simply keep the nice things about Omelas, and work to address the bad. You might as well say that you would solve the trolley problem by putting rockets on the trolley and having it jump over the people tied to the tracks. Le Guin’s challenge is one that can only be resolved by introspection, because the challenge is one levied against the discomforting awareness of our own complicity; to 'reject the premise' is to reject this (all too real) discomfort in favor of empty wish fulfillment. A happy fairytale about the nobility of our imagined efforts against a hypothetical evil profits no one but ourselves (and I would argue that in the long run it robs us as well).

But in addition to being morally evasive, treating Omelas as a puzzle to be solved (or as a piece of straightforward didactic moralism) also flattens the depth of the original story. We are not really meant to understand Le Guin’s 'walking away' as a literal abandonment of a problem, nor as a self-satisfied 'Sounds bad, but I’m outta here', the way Vivier’s response piece or others of its ilk do; rather, it is framed as a rejection of complacency. This is why those who leave are shown not as triumphant heroes, but as harried and desperate fools; hopeless, troubled souls setting forth on a journey that may well be doomed from the start — because isn’t that the fate of most people who set out to fight the injustices they see, and that they cannot help but see once they have been made aware of it? The story is a metaphor, not a math problem, and 'walking away' might just as easily encompass any form of sincere and fully committed struggle against injustice: a lonely, often thankless journey, yet one which is no less essential for its difficulty."

- Kurt Schiller, from "Omelas, Je T'aime." Blood Knife, 8 July 2022.

Early on a Wednesday morning, I heard an anguished cry—then silence.
I rushed into the bedroom and watched my wife, Rachel, stumble from the bathroom, doubled over, hugging herself in pain.
“Something’s wrong,” she gasped.
This scared me. Rachel’s not the type to sound the alarm over every pinch or twinge. She cut her finger badly once, when we lived in Iowa City, and joked all the way to Mercy Hospital as the rag wrapped around the wound reddened with her blood. Once, hobbled by a training injury in the days before a marathon, she limped across the finish line anyway.
So when I saw Rachel collapse on our bed, her hands grasping and ungrasping like an infant’s, I called the ambulance. I gave the dispatcher our address, then helped my wife to the bathroom to vomit.
I don’t know how long it took for the ambulance to reach us that Wednesday morning. Pain and panic have a way of distorting time, ballooning it, then compressing it again. But when we heard the sirens wailing somewhere far away, my whole body flooded with relief.
I didn’t know our wait was just beginning.
I buzzed the EMTs into our apartment. We answered their questions: When did the pain start? That morning. Where was it on a scale of one to 10, with 10 being worst?
“Eleven,” Rachel croaked.
As we loaded into the ambulance, here’s what we didn’t know: Rachel had an ovarian cyst, a fairly common thing. But it had grown, undetected, until it was so large that it finally weighed her ovary down, twisting the fallopian tube like you’d wring out a sponge. This is called ovarian torsion, and it creates the kind of organ-failure pain few people experience and live to tell about.
“Ovarian torsion represents a true surgical emergency,” says an article in the medical journal Case Reports in Emergency Medicine. “High clinical suspicion is important. … Ramifications include ovarian loss, intra-abdominal infection, sepsis, and even death.” The best chance of salvaging a torsed ovary is surgery within eight hours of when the pain starts.
* * *
There is nothing like witnessing a loved one in deadly agony. Your muscles swell with the blood they need to fight or run. I felt like I could bend iron, tear nylon, through the 10-minute ambulance ride and as we entered the windowless basement hallways of the hospital.
And there we stopped. The intake line was long—a row of cots stretched down the darkened hall. Someone wheeled a gurney out for Rachel. Shaking, she got herself between the sheets, lay down, and officially became a patient.
We didn’t know her ovary was dying, calling out in the starkest language the body has.
Emergency-room patients are supposed to be immediately assessed and treated according to the urgency of their condition. Most hospitals use the Emergency Severity Index, a five-level system that categorizes patients on a scale from “resuscitate” (treat immediately) to “non-urgent” (treat within two to 24 hours).
I knew which end of the spectrum we were on. Rachel was nearly crucified with pain, her arms gripping the metal rails blanched-knuckle tight. I flagged down the first nurse I could.
“My wife,” I said. “I’ve never seen her like this. Something’s wrong, you have to see her.”
“She’ll have to wait her turn,” she said. Other nurses’ reactions ranged from dismissive to condescending. “You’re just feeling a little pain, honey,” one of them told Rachel, all but patting her head.
We didn’t know her ovary was dying, calling out in the starkest language the body has. I saw only the way Rachel’s whole face twisted with the pain.
Soon, I started to realize—in a kind of panic—that there was no system of triage in effect. The other patients in the line slept peacefully, or stared up at the ceiling, bored, or chatted with their loved ones. It seemed that arrival order, not symptom severity, would determine when we’d be seen.
As we neared the ward’s open door, a nurse came to take Rachel’s blood pressure. By then, Rachel was writhing so uncontrollably that the nurse couldn’t get her reading.
She sighed and put down her squeezebox.
“You’ll have to sit still, or we’ll just have to start over,” she said.
Finally, we pulled her bed inside. They strapped a plastic bracelet, like half a handcuff, around Rachel’s wrist.
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From an early age we’re taught to observe basic social codes: Be polite. Ask nicely.Wait your turn. But during an emergency, established codes evaporate—this is why ambulances can run red lights and drive on the wrong side of the road. I found myself pleading, uselessly, for that kind of special treatment. I kept having the strange impulse to take out my phone and call 911, as if that might transport us back to an urgent, responsive world where emergencies exist.
The average emergency-room patient in the U.S. waits 28 minutes before seeing a doctor. I later learned that at Brooklyn Hospital Center, where we were, the average wait was nearly three times as long, an hour and 49 minutes. Our wait would be much, much longer.
Everyone we encountered worked to assure me this was not an emergency. “Stones,” one of the nurses had pronounced. That made sense. I could believe that. I knew that kidney stones caused agony but never death. She’d be fine, I convinced myself, if I could only get her something for the pain.
By 10 a.m., Rachel’s cot had moved into the “red zone” of the E.R., a square room with maybe 30 beds pushed up against three walls. She hardly noticed when the attending physician came and visited her bed; I almost missed him, too. He never touched her body. He asked a few quick questions, and then left. His visit was so brief it didn’t register that he was the person overseeing Rachel’s care.
Around 10:45, someone came with an inverted vial and began to strap a tourniquet around Rachel’s trembling arm. We didn’t know it, but the doctor had prescribed the standard pain-management treatment for patients with kidney stones: hydromorphone for the pain, followed by a CT scan.
The pain medicine started seeping in. Rachel fell into a kind of shadow consciousness, awake but silent, her mouth frozen in an awful, anguished scowl. But for the first time that morning, she rested.
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Leslie Jamison’s essay “Grand Unified Theory of Female Pain” examines ways that different forms of female suffering are minimized, mocked, coaxed into silence. In an interview included in her book The Empathy Exams, she discussed the piece, saying: “Months after I wrote that essay, one of my best friends had an experience where she was in a serious amount of pain that wasn’t taken seriously at the ER.”
She was talking about Rachel.  
“Women are likely to be treated less aggressively until they prove that they are as sick as male patients.”
“That to me felt like this deeply personal and deeply upsetting embodiment of what was at stake,” she said. “Not just on the side of the medical establishment—where female pain might be perceived as constructed or exaggerated—but on the side of the woman herself: My friend has been reckoning in a sustained way about her own fears about coming across as melodramatic.”
“Female pain might be perceived as constructed or exaggerated”: We saw this from the moment we entered the hospital, as the staff downplayed Rachel’s pain, even plain ignored it. In her essay, Jamison refers back to “The Girl Who Cried Pain,” a study identifying ways gender bias tends to play out in clinical pain management. Women are  “more likely to be treated less aggressively in their initial encounters with the health-care system until they ‘prove that they are as sick as male patients,’” the study concludes—a phenomenon referred to in the medical community as “Yentl Syndrome.”
In the hospital, a lab tech made small talk, asked me how I like living in Brooklyn, while my wife struggled to hold still enough for the CT scan to take a clear shot of her abdomen.
“Lot of patients to get to, honey,” we heard, again and again, when we begged for stronger painkillers. “Don’t cry.”
I felt certain of this: The diagnosis of kidney stones—repeated by the nurses and confirmed by the attending physician’s prescribed course of treatment—was a denial of the specifically female nature of Rachel’s pain. A more careful examiner would have seen the need for gynecological evaluation; later, doctors told us that Rachel’s swollen ovary was likely palpable through the surface of her skin. But this particular ER, like many in the United States, had no attending OB-GYN. And every nurse’s shrug seemed to say, “Women cry—what can you do?”
Nationwide, men wait an average of 49 minutes before receiving an analgesic for acute abdominal pain. Women wait an average of 65 minutes for the same thing. Rachel waited somewhere between 90 minutes and two hours.
“My friend has been reckoning in a sustained way about her own fears about coming across as melodramatic.” Rachel does struggle with this, even now. How long is it appropriate to continue to process a traumatic event through language, through repeated retellings? Friends have heard the story, and still she finds herself searching for language to tell it again, again, as if the experience is a vast terrain that can never be fully circumscribed by words. Still, in the throes of debilitating pain, she tried to bite her lip, wait her turn, be good for the doctors.
For hours, nothing happened. Around 3 o’clock, we got the CT scan and came back to the ER. Otherwise, Rachel lay there, half-asleep, suffering and silent. Later, she’d tell me that the hydromorphone didn’t really stop the pain—just numbed it slightly. Mostly, it made her feel sedated, too tired to fight.
If she had been alone, with no one to agitate for her care, there’s no telling how long she might have waited.
Eventually, the doctor—the man who’d come to Rachel’s bedside briefly, and just once—packed his briefcase and left. He’d been around the ER all day, mostly staring into a computer. We only found out later he’d been the one with the power to rescue or forget us.
When a younger woman came on duty to take his place, I flagged her down. I told her we were waiting on the results of a CT scan, and I hassled her until she agreed to see if the results had come in.
When she pulled up Rachel’s file, her eyes widened.
“What is this mess?” she said. Her pupils flicked as she scanned the page, the screen reflected in her eyes.
“Oh my god,” she murmured, as though I wasn’t standing there to hear. “He never did an exam.”
The male doctor had prescribed the standard treatment for kidney stones—Dilauded for the pain, a CT scan to confirm the presence of the stones. In all the hours Rachel spent under his care, he’d never checked back after his initial visit. He was that sure. As far as he was concerned, his job was done.
If Rachel had been alone, with no one to agitate for her care, there’s no telling how long she might have waited.
It was almost another hour before we got the CT results. But when they came, they changed everything.
“She has a large mass in her abdomen,” the female doctor said. “We don’t know what it is.”
That’s when we lost it. Not just because our minds filled then with words liketumor and cancer and malignant. Not just because Rachel had gone half crazy with the waiting and the pain. It was because we’d asked to wait our turn all through the day—longer than a standard office shift—only to find out we’d been an emergency all along.
Suddenly, the world responded with the urgency we wanted. I helped a nurse push Rachel’s cot down a long hallway, and I ran beside her in a mad dash to make the ultrasound lab before it closed. It seemed impossible, but we were told that if we didn’t catch the tech before he left, Rachel’s care would have to be delayed until morning.
“Whatever happens,” Rachel told me while the tech prepared the machine, “don’t let me stay here through the night. I won’t make it. I don’t care what they tell you—I know I won’t.”
Soon, the tech was peering inside Rachel through a gray screen. I couldn’t see what he saw, so I watched his face. His features rearranged into a disbelieving grimace.
By then, Rachel and I were grasping at straws. We thought: cancer. We thought: hysterectomy. Lying there in the dim light, Rachel almost seemed relieved.
“I can live without my uterus,” she said, with a soft, weak smile. “They can take it out, and I’ll get by.”
She’d make the tradeoff gladly, if it meant the pain would stop.
After the ultrasound, we led the gurney—slowly, this time—down the long hall to the ER, which by then was  completely crammed with beds. Trying to find a spot for Rachel’s cot was like navigating rush-hour traffic.
Then came more bad news. At 8 p.m., they had to clear the floor for rounds. Anyone who was not a nurse, or lying in a bed, had to leave the premises until visiting hours began again at 9.
When they let me back in an hour later, I found Rachel alone in a side room of the ER. So much had happened. Another doctor had told her the mass was her ovary, she said. She had something called ovarian torsion—the fallopian-tube twists, cutting off blood. There was no saving it. They’d have to take it out.
Rachel seemed confident and ready.
“He’s a good doctor,” she said. “He couldn’t believe that they left me here all day. He knows how much it hurts.”
When I met the surgery team, I saw Rachel was right. Talking with them, the words we’d used all day—excruciating, emergency, eleven—registered with real and urgent meaning. They wanted to help.
By 10:30, everything was ready. Rachel and I said goodbye outside the surgery room, 14 and a half hours from when her pain had started.
* * *
Rachel’s physical scars are healing, and she can go on the long runs she loves, but she’s still grappling with the psychic toll—what she calls “the trauma of not being seen.” She has nightmares, some nights. I wake her up when her limbs start twitching.
Sometimes we inspect the scars on her body together, looking at the way the pink, raised skin starts blending into ordinary flesh. Maybe one day, they’ll become invisible. Maybe they never will.

This made me SOOOO FUCKING ANGRY

I’m angry and sad and so bloody relieved she’s even ALIVE. I was preparing myself for him to say they faffed around all day and killed my wife. Because they don’t take women seriously. Women endure the pain of childbirth. We know what real pain is. We know when something is WRONG!

The accuracy of this is so intense and so scary… I feel like I’m a weird position, as a transman with SO many medical issues my whole life, to have been able to see it from both perspectives and here’s something I realized reading this…

IT CHANGED.

I hadn’t thought about it until I read this and instantly found myself looking at all my ER experiences (and there have been more than I’d like to admit).  

As a “woman” I spent a great deal of time in the waiting room, clutching my sides or writing in chairs.  I was told for over a year (four emergency room visits and countless primary appointments) that I had kidney stones, only to later be rushed into emergency spinal surgery to prevent paralysis for something that could have been corrected with simple physical therapy.  I was threatened with not receiving pain medication if I didn’t calm down and/or accept the (incorrect) diagnosis.  My desperation in these places was so great, and so difficult, that my depressed mind, with this as a catalyst I sometimes thought death might be preferable than going to the ER and I had to physically forced to seek help.

After growing more firm in my visual representation of a man, I’ve been to the ER three times and my primary countless.  I can tell you right now several things: the staff was nicer, more sympathetic, and actually listened to me.  I went to the worst hospital in my current area just two months ago and people said they were astonished that I had decent help… No, correction, women told me they were astonished I got helped as “fast” as I did (two-three hours in the waiting room).  Doctors at all of these ER visits talked to me about what I might have, what they thought, what I thought….

I’ve received better medical help in the three years I’ve visually stood as a man than in more than twenty-five years appearing as a woman.  

Our medical system was already shit.  It was back then.  It is now.  That is no excuse for women to be treated this way.  There is absolutely no reason a doctor should ever, ever dismiss a patients concerns.  The truth of it is that we are in our bodies, all people regardless of any visual traits, and we know when they’re acting up.  This is not okay.

And I will end this rant here to keep from diving into more details about our ludicrous medical system. 

I think you guys know I already feel strongly about this, and I’m really glad there’s an article up about this from a male perspective.

And just think of the thousands of other women who’ve dealt with similar experiences. Being called hysterical, overemotional, and ridiculous, for the same symptoms that would have a man being treated right away.

Because the medical field is simply not designed to treat us. Not many are aware that drug trials were done solely on men until a few decades ago and even now there aren’t many done on women, since women had more complex hormonal cycles. Essentially, doctors decided women’s health wasn’t worth the work of testing drugs on female bodies, so drugs ended up being centered around the male body. Even today, not much research is done on specifically female illnesses. We have no cure for endometriosis, we don’t have a known cause for it. Endometriosis is one of the most under-researched diseases there is (and the little research done is severely underfunded), despite the fact that it’s believed it affects / will affect 10% of women. We have no general cure for vulvodynia, we don’t even know what causes it. We haven’t even managed to properly study and cure the most in-your-face medical problem women face, which is menstrual cramps; we just urge women to load up on painkillers. Literally this week (in 2023 for Christ’s sake), the first research done on menstrual absorption products that actually used blood instead of water was published; conducted by a woman I’ll add. In all the centuries women have existed and menstruated.

The medical industry is structured to ignore women as human beings deserving of care. At best, we are nuisances and bothers to doctors who mostly do not care about helping us. Until medicine becomes a female-dominated industry, we will not see a change in this.

Some reads on Endo:

Here:

And here:

Read on the new menstrual research:

(Something that I noticed in this article is that it brings up how the research on erectile dysfunction vs menstrual blood outnumbered it 10,000:400 in the same timespan, meaning the medical industry is researching something that will affect about half of men rather than something that will affect essentially all women.)

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my friend has been getting into some book called the sofia code with her friend, and it feels like some weird christian cult. do you know anything about it?

I wouldn't call this a cult but this is definitely wooy bullshit.

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*cracks knuckles* I did a read through of the Sophia dragon code for some friends and the actual content is worse.

Kaia Ra or whoever opens the book with satanic conspiracy theory, claims that if you want to practice kabbalah/indigenous ritual/etc it's because you were jewish/indigenous in a past life and you're entitled to it, and that Racism Is Over and Healing has to happen now. It has everything; Atlantis and lemuria, chakras, 'quantum' everything, appropriation of Buddhist concepts, yoga- it's like if you simmered new-age bullshit into super-bullshit with a veneer of Instagram marketability over it.

And to make matters worse the woman herself got her start performing reiki on the elderly so that she could convince them to sign over their properties on her death bed.

As you can read here:

so like what’s the dragon tribe part of the book

Oh naturally it's a tribe of quantum higher vibrational dragons who are trying to help humanity ascend by opening their heart-womb chakras. Not making that last bit up, the ultimate goal is to ascend to also being one I think?

It's uh. bad. it's bad and not good.

This is a trope you see in new age stuff sometimes. The goal isn't necessarily to ascend into a Special thing, the idea is that many people on earth are the Special Chosen Magic Healers who have the duty of uplifting the rest of humanity.

Also the lady who wrote this, Kaia Ra, has a whole cult watch page. So does her husband.

🤣🤣🤣

Stuff like this reminds me that not only are Elephants immensely intelligent and deeply social, they also generally consider humans to be legitimately “cute/adorable” in the same way we do for dogs or cats.

This playful elephant is likely acting accordingly.

Elephant scientist testing whether humans understand object permanence.

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I love elephants so much

“When the language of advertising and personal branding enjoins you to “be yourself,” what it really means is “be more yourself,” where “yourself” is a consistent and recognizable pattern of habits, desires, and drives that can be more easily advertised to and appropriated, like units of capital.”

— Jenny Odell, How to Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy

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i know we are all critical of buccal fat removal and that many women get very weirdly defensive abt it and try to leverage that critics of it don’t know firsthand and i just want to offer up that i had buccal fat removal when i was 24 (? i cant even remember now—i was in a bad place after an abusive relationship and was getting invasive cosmetic surgeries done left and right) so i CAN actually tell you with firsthand experience to NOT do it. it IS as bad as everyone is telling you. it IS as ruinous as we are saying. it DOES butcher your face irreparably. so pls don’t come at me being like “you have no idea how would you even know” cuz lmao i literally did it. i fell for the lie. i cannot reverse it, i cannot fix it. i regret it every day of my life. i will never have my face back. don’t fall for the lie cuz it IS a lie.

i had thee absolute top surgeon in my state and it was still a lie. i did everything he said and my recovery was “perfect” and it was still a lie.

it’s not “haters” who are “jealous” of you saying you’re scheduling your buccal fat removal surgery. it’s a not-insignificant number of women like me who fell for that shit and yknow what, now i AM jealous of you, ironically, bc you haven’t yet gone through with it. cuz you still have your own wonderful natural face and you have the option to decide not to be stupid and jeopardize it. you think you know now but you unfortunately don’t until it happens, until your face begins to cave in on itself, until you’re told that you now “need” xyz procedures to support the cheeks you just sucked out etc etc it never ends it never fucking ends you will never be satisfied and you can’t ever undo it

i have this unfortunate insider knowledge of at least 4 different major invasive cosmetic procedures and i regret every single one. they ruined my life in every conceivable way (even though i was considered a major success patient) and one surgery literally almost killed me. i thought i was so damn smart and resilient until i realized i can’t ever go back.

the “doing it for myself” speech stops mattering real fuckin quick when you’re alone in your room looking in your mirror wondering how anyone could’ve let you do this. i am not an outlier. i am a common statistic. you are not immune. don’t let them have your face.

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i have received replies and seen in tags many women encouraging me to speak more in depth about my experiences. i feel it’s really important for me to provide a voice here, and for anyone who is scrolling through the notes on this looking for more info, here it is. warning, it’s gonna be long.

i will summarize as best i can. please bear with me as it’s a lot of info and i’m on mobile.