I think cheating a mental illness but y’all not ready for that convo
"While love promises us relief from aloneness, it also heightens our dependence on one person, It is inherently vulnerable. We tend to assuage our anxieties through control, We feel safer if we can contract the distance between us, maximize the certainy, minimize the threats,and contain the unknown. Yet some of us defer against the uncertainties of love with such zeal that we cut ourselves off from its richness. There's a powerful tendency in long-term relationships to fare the predictable over the unpredictable. Yet eroticism thrives on the unpredictable. Desire butts heads with habit and repetition. Its unruly, and it defies our attempts at control. So where does that leave us? We don't want to throw away the security, because our relationship depends on it. A sense of physical and emotional safety is basic to healthy pleasure and connection. Yet without an element of uncertainty there is no longing, no anticipation, no frisson. The motivational expert Anthony Robbins put it succinctly when he explains that passion in a relationship is commensurate with the amount of uncertainty you can tolerate." -EP
What are you really living for these days? What’s the intent and drive behind your actions?
