friendly reminder for the new twitter refugees:
- change your icon/pfp and put something coherent in your blog description or you're going to get blocked bcs people think you're a bot
- this site is built around reblogs, so please actually reblog posts(especially art and fics!!)
- you can set your likes and follows to private
- checkmarks here are a meme and mean nothing
- follower counts are private and we like it that way, so get used to not judging people by that metric
- drama and discourse is boring, use your blacklist and block button liberally
- DON'T CENSOR YOURSELF!! we can swear and say kill and make fun of corporations all we want, and if you tiktok-ify your tags people who have things blacklisted for whatever reason will still see them, and people who want to see that content won't be able to find it!! spell words out normally, you won't get in trouble!!
- tumblr live is sketchy as hell and full of fake accounts, if you decide to use it anyway may god have mercy on your soul o7
- be nice to the reddit refugees, they're our friends <3
"yOuR trAuMa mAde yOu sTroNger" no bitch it made me prone to disassociation and afraid of loud noises
I can only be myself when I’m alone. As soon as there’s another person around, the gremlin in my brain will scream ‘How am I being perceived? How am I being perceived?’ and the rest of me will wonder what can I do so this other person doesn’t get upset at me.
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Okay but according to my therapist there’s literally scientific reasoning for this. It depends on your circadian rhythm, but on average after 9pm your emotions are just more sensitive than during the day. You shouldn’t have conversations dealing with conflict after 9, you shouldn’t engage with potentially triggering content after 9, and you sure as hell shouldn’t trust your judgement. After 9pm just consider your brain done. Either do something to make yourself happy or go to sleep if you can
[Image Description: A tweet by divorced monson (drewmonson7) that reads: I made a new rule: Never trust how you feel about your entire life past 9 pm. End Description]
theme nine: lilac — one-column sidebar theme with an optional header inspired by social media post dashboards. made to commemorate the one-year anniversary of when i started this blog. it’s been a crazy year and i can’t believe how much this blog has grown, so thank you to all of you!
features and options:
- sidebar with a 100px by 100px circular image and up to three custom links
- optional header with a search bar, optional header image, and up to seven custom links. header image can be any height and is the same width as whatever post size you choose.
- posts sizes: 400px, 450px, 500px, 540px.
- option to show or hide captions, show tags or tags on click, optional post dropdown menu with extra post info.
- options include: post margin, photoset gutter, drop shadows, rounded post and photo corners.
- first npf photoset in a post will be converted to a regular photoset, thanks to this script by annasthms and codematurgy’s npf photoset script.
- responsive for both desktop and mobile devices.
notes:
- tumblr’s customize page is very buggy and when you first install the theme, you have to toggle the options on and off to get them to work properly. if something doesn’t look right or the post captions disappear, save and exit because 99% of the time it will look fine on your blog.
- icons are from Feather Icons and if you want to change them, go to the site, find the name of the icon you want, and enter it in the space in the customization panel.
- meant to be the first of a theme pack. matching about and tags page to follow soon
when i finally finish them oops
Eva Suite by FloralCodes
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Another faux-retro style theme very loosely based off mac os. Comes with a beautiful audio player that holds 5 tracks as well as an all-in-one pop-up menu, and toggling between light/dark mode is easy with the click of a button!
Features:
- Up to 5 custom links
- Single column
- Pagination/infinite scroll/manual load
- Built-in pop-up menu with profile section
- Toggle between light/dark mode
- Customizable audio player with 5 tracks
- Optional search bar
- Responsive to smaller resolutions
- Localized
- Customizable mac style post buttons
- Scroll page to top/bottom button
- Description notepad
- Live built-in clock and calendar
+ more!
Terms of Use:
✔ You May:
- Edit this theme for personal use, provided credit remains intact
- Have fun with it!
✘ You May NOT:
- Steal or redistribute any part(s) of this code
- Use as a base code
- Delete, touch, move, or alter the credit(s) in any way!
- Use this or any of my codes on any website other than tumblr
Please let me know if you encounter any issues. If you love what I do, please consider giving this post a reblog! Thank you ♡
a very handsome captain. ♥ꈍ꒳ꈍ
I’ll never get over him in that shirt
Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
Shout out to people like me who have parents who are loving but are black holes of emotional labor… It took me a long time to realize that it’s okay to have mixed feelings about your parents, about your relationship with them.
Sometimes parents can love you but be somewhat toxic to you and your growth, and that’s a very hard realization to come to if you, like me, grew up extremely close to them.
Sometimes parents can love you genuinely but lack emotional maturity, forcing you to perform disproportionate amounts of emotional labor. Some parents manifest symptoms of their mental illness in ways that are toxic to your mental illness.
Some parents, like mine, try so hard to be good parents but fall back on habits of emotional manipulation because they haven’t processed their own traumas and are modeling behavior they grew up with. That doesn’t make their behavior acceptable, and it’s okay to feel exhausted and hurt when they betray you. You don’t have to forgive every mistake.
I want you to know that it’s okay to protect yourself, to need some space apart from them. The love you have for your parents is still valid, and you are making the right decision.
Placing a safe emotional distance between myself and my parents has been one of the most difficult, heartbreaking processes I’ve ever gone through… it hurts to try to curb the strength of your own natural empathy around people you love. It feels disingenuous to your heart’s natural state.
But I promise you, you are not hard-hearted or ungrateful, and you are not abandoning them. You are making a decision about your own emotional, mental, and spiritual health.
I know what it’s like in that confusing grey area of love mixed with guilt and anxiety, of exhaustion and quasi-manipulation and unreciprocated emotional labor, and I promise you, you are not alone.
Your mixed feelings about your parents are valid.
