Some of my favourite selfies for TDOV!!! I used to get a lot of backlash for identifying with a nonbinary gender. I had longer hair and wore makeup and wore things with lace and flowers because I LIKE those things. But people think, to identify as any gender other than cis, you have to be androgynous. You have to cut off all your hair and wear clothes that are baggy and never put anything on your face and never wear wigs or jewelry or smile or wear dresses. So I began to listen to these people and I followed their rules thinking that was the right thing to do. Because even people from my own community were telling me these things. It caused me so much confusion and pain in the long run. I even identified as a gender I didn’t really identify as at one point because I thought that was what I had to be. The more time I spent pretending to be someone I’m not, the more I learned that I didn’t have to be. Nonbinary doesn’t = androgynous. I can like pretty things and be agender. I can find comfort and joy and interest in makeup art. I can wear my hair with curls with a bow. I can wear heals and flowers and I can rock skirts and dresses. Treating nonbinary genders as androgynous just pushes the idea that there are only two genders. And if you aren’t one of those two, you must be the other, no matter what you want to call it. I don’t personally think my fashion is necessarily void of gender. Because my fashion and gender aren’t “clashing”. I don’t think that my fashion is something I need to take away from my gender. Because my fashion fits my gender just fine. I’m agender, and there are no fashion requirements for my gender nor any other. fashion choices =\= gender

the saddest thing about this is that kaneki bullshitted his way saying he needed to get stronger in order to protect everyone important to him when really he just didn’t want to be left alone. and hide. oh god. hide felt exactly the same. he didn’t want to get left behind but watched as his best friend became friends with the people at anteiku. in the end he was the one who got left behind and was lonely. hide just wanted his friend back and kaneki didn’t want to be left alone. i fucking can’t with these two.

what she says: im fine
what she means: look you know what i may not the best person like sometimes i dont replace an empty toilet paper roll but you know what i dont deserve what tgra ep 12 did to me?? you know else who didn't deserve it? nagachika hideyoshi. honestly all he wanted was to hang out with his best friend of almost 20 years and eat hamburgers with him and copy his notes bc he was too busy bugging kaneki in class to pay attention and talk about that cool american music he discovered yesterday and listen to the backstreet boys and now he's dead, he's fucking dead and he'll never smile or tease kaneki or try to make him laugh ever again. and you know what? he was gunning to make kaneki smile like he used to, and he fucking did it because hide knows kaneki better than anyone and he just wanted, beyond life, beyond anything, to just make him smile and laugh and know it was okay and that hide knew and honestly didnt care, he just wanted to go home with his best friend and relax with him for the first time in 3 months. and of course he died in kaneki's arms with a fucking smile on his face he was just so happy to be with kaneki again and set kaneki at ease with the knowledge that hide knew and that it was okay and hide was just happy to be with kaneki, there at the end of all things.
tokyo ghoul fandom: aw look at hide sleeping in kaneki's arms
everyone else: im pretty sure he's de-
tokyo ghoul fandom: sleeping
everyone else: but he's clearly d-
tokyo ghoul fandom: sleeping like the angel he is